im 19 and ive been wanting to have sex for several months now.....but its always just so nice in my fantasies, when i get close to having it in real life relation i freak out.....masterbating is nice but its DEFINETLY not good enough, maybe im just a little scared because they say that the first couple of times hurt alot, i dont feel im ready enough but i still want to have it.
2007-01-14 09:25:48 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't do it.
This is how I feel about it ...
You should stay a virgin till you're married.
God intended it to be that way.
But many, MANY people abuse that.
And God looks down on those people.
You don't just give your virginity to just anybody.
It is the best present you can give your future husband.
It is you... it is all of you.
If you become pregnant, you can handle it better when you're married.
You'll have that person beside you who promised to always be by your side.
It won't be some random guy or some guy who you THOUGHT loved you.
Sex makes many things complicated in an unmarried relationship.
It takes two very mature people.
You do not want to get yourself lost in everything that comes with sex.
Most people nowadays tend to just BASE their relationship on sex.
I am a virgin myself. I have a boyfriend of almost a year that I am completely in love with. We talk about marriage and how I want to wait till our wedding day to have sex. He truly does love me... he respects me. That's when you KNOW you have a great guy. That's when you KNOW he's in love with you... when he has absolutely no problem in waiting. Actions speak louder than words...
2007-01-14 09:28:56 · answer #1 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's normal to feel horny and fantasise about sex but the reality can be disappointing. The first time can be uncomfortable but if you are sufficiently aroused and your lover is gentle and considerate, it shouldn't be too painful. You don't say whether you are in a committed relationship. If you are not, personally I'd wait until you are. Casual sex is impersonal and can feel sordid. You surely want for your first time to be with someone special who cares about you? I'd stick to masterbating for the time being.
2007-01-14 09:34:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If youre having any doubts....don't do it. When you are in a commited relationship with someone you care about and trust you will "feel" ready to have sex with them. Yes, it will most likely hurt but wanting to share the sexual experience with the person you love will out weigh any doubts you have about the temporary pain.
2007-01-14 09:43:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of people want to wait but that's your choice. Its good to wait but its your life and your body. If you do have sex just be careful and remember what can happen if you not.
2007-01-14 09:36:10 · answer #4 · answered by Shawn J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
r u married if u r then that is ok u can have it when ever u want if you rnt then no u shouldnt cause if u get pregeant then the guy probably will run away from u and the babay
2007-01-14 09:29:44 · answer #5 · answered by Ally. 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't have it until you feel that you are ready. it sounds as if you are still unsure of doing it. When you do, be sure to use protection.
2007-01-14 09:31:06 · answer #6 · answered by bad_bob_69 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
IF YOU DON'T WANT IT THEN DON'T
THE TIME WILL COME SOON
2007-01-14 09:37:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I SO A AGREE WITH KELLY !
" YOU DON'T JUST GIVE YOUR VIRGINITY TO ANYONE "
2007-01-14 09:31:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋