After 8 months we broke up yesterday. I vented to him how I was angry and hurt, then later on I went over there to get my things and he grabbed me and held me, I asked for a kiss and he didn't hesitate, then we had break up sex, I broke down crying afterwards, he held me & kissed my forehead, wiped my tears. Then we had sex again and afterwards he said, "I love you little lady" and I asked him to tell me it was over and he said, "we are officially seperated." The he stated we gon be close friends and we can still do everything like before, then I talked about the future and he said that IF he doesn't marry me, he'll be at the wedding. What could any of this mean?
2007-01-14 09:25:07 · 19 answers · asked by Cathy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i just had something like this happen, actually. Break up, then the break up sex, and he still wants to play around.
i agree with the first answer; he's not worth it. It sounds like you really care about him, and dragging it out with things like being bed partners will make it really hard for you (and he) to heal and eventually move on. Otherwise, chances are, your heart will still feel the emotional attatchment, and you might end up feeling used, hurt, angry, empty... any variety of emotion.
Darling, you've got to take care of yourself. Remember that you always...always come first, and that means doing what's best for you. Get yourself back on your feet :]
You'll find someone who's right for you, who won't take advantage of the fact that you have feelings for him to get sex from you.
It's hard...but worth it.
2007-01-14 09:34:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh does he say he loves you? Next time he comes around tell him the time is coming soon for him to be at your wedding as the groom. Make a few hints like look at you left finger and rub your thumb around it. Be looking at bride magazines. Start a hope chest and talk about it. Get one invitation and hand it just to him- You the Bride him the Groom. Does your dad or some other nice relative have a shotgun--lol-now there is an idea. Good Luck and I hope you are together again before the day is over.
2007-01-14 09:39:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is seeing someone else or is out there looking. He doesn't think that you are the one for him or that he sees you as his future wife. Somewhere along the way the communication has broken down and he had his final straw. He won't change his mind so don't think that he will. If you keep yourself available to him then unfortunately you will more than likely end up feeling used in the end. Sorry hon....
2007-01-14 09:32:28 · answer #3 · answered by Sandra C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK well um that guy must be a jerk and you shouldn't be treated like that. I had that same problem! But now I got over it and I'm searching for some more fish in the sea. He toke advantage of you and you are hurts like any normal person would be! But sooner or later you will discover that you dont deserve a guy like that. You deserve more! Good luck!
2007-01-14 09:30:34 · answer #4 · answered by Elmo!!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he wants to be a friend with benefits. ANd if he can't find anyone else he might marry you. But if he finds another one and you find a bf and marry him he will be there. ALl he wants is sex from you when he can. SO if you want a friend with benefits he is there and lot of other guys too for that matter. GEt rid of him you deserve better.
2007-01-14 09:32:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is a jerk that wants to eat his cake and have it too. He is playing emotional games with your head because he knows that you still care about him. Let this loser go and find a man that loves you the way you deserve to be loved. It takes a lot of wrong ones to find the right one, so don't stop now.
2007-01-14 09:30:56 · answer #6 · answered by InquiringMinds 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. I found out today that I have to pay for my first semester of college out of pocket. 2. I'm not sure if I'm going to break up with my boyfriend. 3. I still haven't found suitable full time employment yet.
2016-03-28 21:39:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a jerk. He just totally took advantage of the situation. He probably still cares about you but wants his cake and wants to eat it too. Get rid of him and show him you have more self respect for yourself than he does for you.
2007-01-14 09:31:36 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ Princess ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of him...if he were my daughter's BF, he wouldn't want to come around my house...it's over with you two...move on with your life and if he still gets in the way, then report it to local authorities...he could be playin' an act or he could be just a predator that is mentally nutso...
2007-01-14 09:32:54 · answer #9 · answered by Rmprrmbouncer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It almost seems like he still wants to be there for you but yet he used you at the same time, I don't know.
2007-01-14 09:28:33 · answer #10 · answered by Lovelander 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋