Give up your beliefs ?

Question

Say you were marrying someone and they were not of the same religion you are.... they said they strictly could NOT get married in another church...

Would this bother you??

If you had kids and they wanted your kids to follow their religion.

would that bother you either.

Would you give up your beliefs because of a partner?

Answer 1

My father did, due to the insane rules of Roman Catholicism (they wouldn't let him marry a divorced woman, as she was married in a Protestant ceremony and still considered "Christian". So he ditched her, after TWO Years! Then he married my mom, which was a disaster. True...I wouldn't be here now, but my father's suffering haunts me to this day.

Why should religion EVER get in the way of true love? It should NOT! I faced the same issue w/my spouse, decades later and told the Church to stick it! Of course, I only wanted their cathedral for the music (Mozart), but we ended up getting it anyway.

I think that anyone who gives up someone they love for their religion is a DAMNED FOOL! As Clint Eastwood says in "Bridges of Madison Cty", "This kind of certainty comes but once in a lifetime". Are you going to give up THAT (if that's what you have) for a stupid RELIGION??!

If you do, you'll regret it the rest of your life, and anyone else you marry will KNOW it (like my mother did) and make you pay for it...somehow.

DON'T DO IT!

I must add that I'm an atheist and happier for it! No silly claptrap!
Addendum: Speaking of claptrap: don't foist that on your kids 'til they're old enough to decide for themselves (at least in the teens). Expose them to other religions and let them observe and study (we did it) and our kid is also an atheist...OF HIS OWN CHOOSING! We never told him what to believe or not.

Answer 2

It depends what their attitude to that religion was. I don't think I would be very compatible with a fanatic. If someone believed that people who don't believe like them will be punished for ever in the afterlife, I would definitely have problems with them, because I find that belief offensive.
As for giving up my beliefs, I couldn't do that if I tried. I believe what I believe because that's what it makes sense for me to believe. And I believe relationships are based on honesty. So I can't change my beliefs and I'm not going to pretend I have just to please someone else. If that's unacceptable to the other person, again, we're not compatible.
If someone followed their religion in humility and wasn't in the habit of cramming it down people's throats, I could accept that.
The children issue is another thing. I have nothing against giving children a religious education, but as long as that does not come at the price of a basic scientific education and the values of tolerance.

Answer 3

As an atheist, I could never gain the ability to believe; but if I fell in love with a theist (very likely, considering that most girls are) I would tolerate her beliefs (to a certain extent - I couldn't love a let's-burn-all-scientists kind of girl).

She could decide on the church, as long as she was fine with me not believing any of that stuff.

Our kids would get both stories, and would likely not believe in any religions, although I would probably tell them "go ahead, you know how much this means to your mom" - of course, we'd talk about anything they've been exposed to later.

Answer 4

Hmm. I'm an atheist, but it would still require a lot of compromise.

I'd allow if she wanted to get married in a church, as it's important to her, i'd probably go through with it because at the end of the day she wants to commit her life to me in front of what she believes to be the most powerful force. I'm not going to kick over her tea chest just for that.

On the issue of kids though i'd prefer them brought up with two points of view or at least not force them into any decision. If they want to follow her in her religion they can make that choice when they are old enough, say 18, but to force it on them at a young age I would have some trouble with.

Answer 5

Well I have no religious beliefs and I got married in a church just because I liked the building, so the first part-no.

The kids I would certainly want to have my say around them, and I would want an agreement that they don't have to go when they ask not to.

I also could not make myself believe something irrational for someone else.

Answer 6

I definately see your factor. I agree thoroughly. I do not know which query you are regarding, however I do accept as true with what you are pronouncing. Wicca is among the quickest developing religions in these days and it does qualify as a pleasurable religion for plenty of many men and women. I feel plenty of men and women have that mind-set, "If I do not beleive that then it is not precise." and I feel that is unsuitable. People must be in a position to be no less than that open-minded. Or, no less than believe ample appreciate for yet another man or women to feel good about them identifying how they beleive. It's quite quite unhappy that many men and women available in the market don't seem to be that approach but...

Answer 7

It would depend how much you wanted to marry the partner or how strongly you feel about your religion. I had parents that were of two different religions, and I was baptised in my father's religion, but I was educated in the ways of both churches. It did not do me any harm, and it taught me to respect other people's religion.

Answer 8

The Bible tells us not to be unequally yolked. Therefore I would never marry someone who was not of the same religious beliefs as I. It would bother me if I could not get married in the church that I was a member of

Answer 9

I would not even consider marrying someone of another religion, whether practicing or not. At some point, especially with children, it is going to become an issue.

If you are willing to give up your beliefs, then you do not really believe in them, do you?

Answer 10

it wouldnt be giving up your beliefs to get married in another church....
it wouldnt be giving up your beliefs to have your kids have your partner's faith.....

it would be giving up your principles if anything.

i dont think i would....but i could see sacrifice and compromise.... it doesnt always have to be one way or the other. it doesnt always have to be black and white.