I'm 17 and I've never had a bf.. =/ . I've never even kissed a guy. What do I do?

Question

I see couples and it makes me sad sometimes. Part of it is that I have no self confidence and am extremely shy. I really want a bf and ya.. i just don't see it happening =/ Any good avise.. or ANYTHING? Here's my myspace. http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendid=7136305
I know I'm not pretty or anyhting.. but ya.. any help would be greatly appreciated. Thank you

I've never been on a date

Answer 1

When I was just a couple years younger than you, I felt the very same way. I felt like everyone else was "going out" and that I would never have a boyfriend.

Then one day, everything changed! :) I think confidence has a lot to do with it. Feel good about yourself, take pride in who you are, and the right person will come along at the right time.

I know you said you're shy -- but sometimes you have to take a small step to make a big change. Just be sure you are making an effort -- not necessarily romantically -- but by being friendly. Sometimes just a flashing a smile or two or saying hello to a guy in the hallway can get his attention.

Good luck!

Answer 2

I know it seems like having a romantic relationship is the most important thing during your teenage years. Don't pressure yourself, though. Don't get into a relationship just to say you're in a relationship. Wait for the guy who is worth your time and energy. I know the waiting is difficult (and I've done my share of waiting too). However, you'll be glad you waited when you find that guy. Don't get involved in a "well, it's better than nothing" relationship because it's not fair to you or the person you are with. Do you really want your first kiss (and first other things) to be with someone you don't really care about? Waiting shows character and means that you have high standards. You're a wonderful person. Wait for the right guy.

Answer 3

Honestly...pretty doesn't have much to do with it many times, and you may be better off without one anyway. I have had some boyfriends, but while most of them were fun while they lasted, they didn't last long, and they ended horribly. At this point, I'm afraid to let myself have a crush on anyone because the last boyfriend hurt me so much.

Make friends with some guys. Just start talking to them as if you were talking to another girl (but without mention of shoes and make-up and young movie stars...you get the idea). Eventually, one might work out.

But for now, you're 17...that means you're either a junior or a senior. If you're a senior, just wait until college to find someone. Most newer relationships don't survive the transition anyway. Once college starts, there are still guys out there that don't have much experience themselves, and probably more that don't care if you do.

E-mail me if you would like to talk more about this; I would love to. And I'm only 18 myself, so we're not that far apart.

Answer 4

Just have more confidence in yourself. You don't have to be pretty to have a great boyfriend. Just don't do anything rash like a date a guy just so you can say that you have boyfriend. If you really want to pick up the pace try and get involved in stuff that will help you meet more guys with similar interests. But the biggest advice I can give you is have CONFIDENCE, with confidence guys will be more interested.

Answer 5

Don't rush. There's nothing wrong with not having a bf or not having kissed anyone at 17. You still have PLENTY of time. Hookers don't even kiss - that means something, right? Keep your mouth to yourself, you'll be better off - untill you find someone you actually want to kiss because you like him, not to just because an opportunity presented itself... Or you can do it the slutty way and kiss anyone who's willing to shove his tongue down your throat (that's how some diseases spread).

Answer 6

To gain self-confidence, you need self-respect. Respect who you are and others will respect you. You don't necesarrily have to live up to anyone's standards but your own, so long as you're happy and content and you're doing what's right.

Another approach could be a change in clothes. Maybe try a new style - something you really like but haven't goten to. Guys are very attracted to girls who dress/smell very good.

Good luck!

Answer 7

Have patience....at 17 you're not that far behind the curve (in fact you're doing fine)...work on your confidence though...if you don't like you, why should anyone else? Do some reading on how to build your confidence and see if anything you come across helps you.

Good luck!

Answer 8

Take your time and be a friend to others. Ask a G/F to six you up with a double date.

Answer 9

Honestly you can onlybe pretty to others when you are pretty to yourself. because confindence makes the person. you need to work on yourself before you think you need a man. you need yourself more.
i think you are pretty
keep smilin
try emailing "Jeremy" he answered your question maybe you can start talking to guys that might help too

Answer 10

well dear,for 1 thing,if you dont like yourself then you cant expect others to like you.you have to like yourself first.why dont you fix up yourself,like hair,and face makeover and get some nice clothes.dont get in a rush,you will find a guy someday.you have lots of time.