im 23, a guy.... i was whipped on my back, with a belt or something that hurt and I had no shirt..... anyone else this happen to? or what happened to u? tell me your experience...
2007-01-14 08:53:31 · 17 answers · asked by flyboy7683 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
My parents were fairly strict. I used words like "sir" and "ma'am", wasn't allowed to go to movies or dances, they could be picky about what I wore, and in general I wasn't allowed to disagree with anything they said (even respectfully). I always had to finish everything on my plate even if it took hours. Only A's and B's were acceptable in school. Doors were never slammed and pouting wasn't allowed. Most rock music was not allowed. Make up was allowed but not hair dye or cutting my hair. After they became Christians, I had to attend their church on Sunday morning, and Sunday, Tuesday, Wednesday, and Friday nights. My room was searched many times to see what they could find--including searching through all of my papers and writings.
I didn't get out of line too often but when I did the punishments ranged from being punched in the face, body-slammed, repeatedly punched in the head, belts, and I had more black eyes than I can count (the reason I was allowed to wear make up). "Warnings" weren't given often. Once I woke up to fists hitting my face because my father thought I was pouting (I had fallen asleep in a chair watching TV).
That was many years ago. All is forgiven and only a memory.
2007-01-14 15:03:04 · answer #1 · answered by Witchy 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Mine were very strict...but they never were physical. They didn't have to be, they would give me "the look" and I'd start crying and immediately stop what I was doing. They were very into the whole "you will be a proper lady" and stuff. Well I guess it all payed off...as I've gotten older they're pretty happy with what I am and they've gotten a lot more trusting. I can go out and come back whenever because they know they've instilled good morals. Haha, if only they knew!
2007-01-14 09:51:14 · answer #2 · answered by Heather 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents definitely ran a tight ship... I didn't percieve them as strict because I never really "rattle the bars of the cage". But I was definitely spanked (adult hand applied with stinging efficiency to erring child's hind end, for those unfamiliar with the term), definitely had my ears boxed... but then I deserved it at the time, and I learned not to behave that way again. But the belt thing... never happened to me, but then I'm a girl
2007-01-14 09:01:28 · answer #3 · answered by Meagan M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mine were very strict, but they rarely had to spank us. We knew that if it got to that point, we were in serious trouble.
We weren't allowed to date until we were 18 because my parents wanted us to focus on our education. We weren't allowed to go to most school functions. My dad is a police officer, and he gets called to so many post-game "activities" that he didn't want us involved with all of that. My mom is a school bus driver, and she simply doesn't take disrespect from anyone, especially kids.
If we were spanked, my dad would take a belt to the palms of our hands. We had to watch it that way. Pretty intense and painful.
I have to say that it worked out. I consider myself successful and well-grounded. Don't know about my siblings though . . . .
2007-01-14 09:01:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got it across the back of my bear legs, every time leaving deep thick purple welts. Got slapped in the face or side of the head quite a bit too, even for the pettiest reasons. Til this day I have hearing loss because of it. I am 43
2007-01-14 08:59:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep, I've been hit with a belt, ruler, yardstick, paddle, a switch (a small green tree branch), rope, fly swatter, rolled up magazines, slapped, kicked....also one day my father beat me with a rubber hose....left marks on my legs for weeks. I would never do that to my own child, and I have since forgiven my father for all of that....I refuse to harbor any ill will.
2007-01-14 09:03:27 · answer #6 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, they weren't strict, but we did have rules. When I got out of line (not often), my dad spanked my behind with his barber's strap (one time). There would usually be a warning.
I spanked my children when they were disobedient when they were little, and I hated it. I decided to use time outs instead; take away priviliges and use natural/logical consequences. I think that works better - esp. when I am angry at them. I didn't like spanking when I felt mad at them.
2007-01-14 09:04:10 · answer #7 · answered by what's up? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents were extremely strict. However, the only time I received physical punishment was when it was merited and that happened rarely.
My mother was bi-polar so the psychological terror she utilized to enforce the rules of the house was shall we say...very effective.
2007-01-14 09:18:29 · answer #8 · answered by castle h 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My birth father was a deadbeat dad, and took off when I was four, my mom became a hippie, so her methods were not what I call "strict", misguided and irrational is what I call it. Thank God, we turned out OK. I think that it is wrong to hit, a child, a dog, anyone that did not hit you first, it is unkind and breeds serial killers.
2007-01-14 09:07:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They weren't real strict, but they weren't afraid to roll their sleeves up for times when I didn't do the right thing.
Most of the time, I was a good kid and they didn't really run a tight ship or punish as harsh.
2007-01-14 08:56:55 · answer #10 · answered by Cuddly Lez 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋