'for xmas this year I wanted' .........Simple but useful gifts.........Like a simple box of "good" chocolates for me, or a nice bottle of Cologne. My wife uses "Realm" perfume which costs about $20.00 at Rite-Aid. We are all too old as adults at this point in time to be "getting and giving" useless gifts that are never used and eventually just tossed out (like that watch that broke as soon as I tried to wind it last Xmas Day). We certainly don't expect any expensive gifts from you, but we are adults, we buy our own clothes, watches, gadgets, etc., ( usually at the quality adults expect to get for a price). So therefore If "It's the thought that counts" then "think",......... think about what I've just said, and what is being said in the article below. By the way, even the cat didn't want to get near, or sleep on that funny smelling housecoat you got my wife. I don't want to appear to be mean and nasty, but enough is enough. We spend a lot of money on your family for the holidays
2007-01-14 08:51:46 · 11 answers · asked by Nmatt 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Dad, I am so sorry you didn't appreciate the gifts we gave you for Christmas. Whether you believe it or not, they were given out of love. We've talked it over and decided that we would rather not exchange presents with you and your wife in the future. Although you say you do not want to appear to be mean and nasty, that is exactly what you are being not to mention rude and unappreciative. We would like to avoid any unpleasantness next Christmas so that's why we have decided against any gift exchanges. Besides if the gifts we purchase for you are not accepted with the spirit of Christmas, we can only assume the gifts you have given us were not given with the spirit of Christmas. And therefore, we choose not to accept any more of your gifts. Maybe you should take the money you would have spent on us and go somewhere for Christmas next year. That way you wouldn't have to spend it with family you do not appreciate.
2007-01-14 09:27:24 · answer #1 · answered by truthseeker221 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think he could have told you how he felt in a more appropriate manner, but what's done is done. If I were responding to a note such as this one, I think I would say "I sincerely apologize for offending you with my gifts however, I did not intentionally buy you cheap items. I purchase gifts for you because you are my father and I love you but in turn, it is very difficult for me to come up with new and exciting gift ideas year after year. Thank you for sending me a short list of items that you would enjoy receiving as a gift and I would appreciate it if you would expand your list so that I have a little more to go on. I don't expect you to spend an outrageous amount of money on my family as I can take care of their gifts myself. I hope this situation (that I was not aware of) has been resolved."
2007-01-14 10:53:59 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be upset and probably write a letter of my own. I would tell him not to bother spending money on my family anymore and tell him that I would do the same. Next year if you know he has bought gifts for you and your family, ask if you can host the Christmas dinner as a gift for them. That way you aren't putting yourself out there for more abuse and hopefully they will appreciate that more. This is a tough one though, Good luck.
2007-01-14 09:03:09 · answer #3 · answered by Aj 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Let it go. No use getting in a dumb argument over a ridiculous note. Sounds like they are being more childish than they seem to think they are. Ignore it, move on. Maybe just write them a nice note of appreciation for raising you or something next time, no gift.
2007-01-14 09:00:28 · answer #4 · answered by LaSperanza 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
WOW, that is quite childish of a father to say to his child. I am speechless as to what an appropriate reply would be. This year buy something for the cat. If/when asked say that the cat doesnt complain
2007-01-14 09:06:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hope you don't have the grumpy gene!!!!
Next year give your Dad and his wife exactly what he asked for in this letter with a smile and an understanding that nothing you say will change the way your Dad sees the world.
2007-01-14 09:11:19 · answer #6 · answered by chuck 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yeah, pretty cranky. Of all the responses that people wrote, I guess I would have to go talk to him and ask why he would write something like that.
But then again, just wait a few years,and he will be gone. Then you won't have to worry about getting letters like this from him.
Go talk to him while he is alive. Because someday you will want to talk to him and he won't be here.
2007-01-14 09:35:51 · answer #7 · answered by David L 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
APOLOGIZE to him. Ask him to send you a list in advance for this year and that you will do the same all you need to do is ask for one thing
A BLOOD TEST!
one for him and one for you
He needs to make sure that he is really a human being
and for you to make sure that that is really your father ...
NO dad could be that mean
(is this a joke to get more points?)
2007-01-14 09:32:36 · answer #8 · answered by xxxxxxx b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would reply with thank you for sharing your opinion about the presents that I sent to you last year. You are a good role model, therefore I will send you what you sent to me last year in the future, NOTHING.
Your son not my choice, John
I would pray for him, but I would not make any effort to communicate with him until he came around to apologize for his comments.
2007-01-14 09:20:31 · answer #9 · answered by D S 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
your dad sent this to you about the gifts you gave him for christmas?
how about next year not getting the old geezer anything! maybe that'll shut him up.
2007-01-14 09:00:06 · answer #10 · answered by BUTTERFLY 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋