he is my step kid, but this is the problum, when his dad is here he is a good kid, but when his dad leaves the first thing he does is pick up the phone, and he will be on that thing all day long. He does not do anyting around the house to help out.
And this is what i am worried about, he will be 18 soon, and his dad says that he is going to kick him out, so he can learn to be a man, we will be there if he needs it, but we both feel its time for him to grow up....
do you think that we are being hard on him?
2007-01-14 08:51:44 · 6 answers · asked by sexy momma 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I think the kids dad needs to tell him to respect you. I don't think you need to kick him out at 18 cuz I work at a homeless shelter and I see kids at the age of 18 trying to find jobs and they have such a hard life living there. Also you have a chance of him hating you and doing things like sex, drugs and alcohol just to get back at you...please dont do it. Try talking to him like an adult and make him look for a job. but don't kick him out he is still just a kid
2007-01-14 18:47:09 · answer #1 · answered by THE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not much information. How are his grades? Does he say what he wants to do? My guess is that he's not doing much, so your husband is right. He needs to grow up and learn some responsibility. It won't get better after he's 18. I would however tell him that if he can't moderate his behavior and get his grades back in order, do some chores, and get a job, that he needs to prepare to leave at 18. In fact set the date now with him.
Many of us have been through this. It is tough. My son is in rehab because we put him out when we know he was using. Now he's trying to solve that problem because he knows it's the only way he can come home. They do come around. Hang in. I will pray for you.
2007-01-14 17:04:54 · answer #2 · answered by LINDA G 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once he is 18, the only thing you can do is kick him out. He will be an adult, and you no longer will have any right to order him about. If he is being irresponsible and lazy, kicking him out could be good for him. He is going to have to learn to be mature and self-sufficient eventually.
2007-01-14 18:32:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he goes to college dont kick him out but if he dont make him get a job and tell him he has an amount of time to leave the house maybe a year or so. Give him time to save money, he will make it on his on.
2007-01-14 23:48:53 · answer #4 · answered by christopher f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ABSOLUTEY NOT! If he were in my house he would definitely be doing more than NOTHING or he would not be on the phone nor would he be DOING ANYTHING, period. He would go NO WHERE until things were done around the house. YOU ARE THE PARENTS-not him. You should have made this kid do things along time ago and let him kow who the adult/parents have always been.
2007-01-14 17:02:01 · answer #5 · answered by nickle 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like its time for him to go
2007-01-14 17:27:10 · answer #6 · answered by blank 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋