I have developed a relationship with a guy who has a girlfriend. They were dating for about three months when I started spending more time with him. He wasn't totally miserable with her, but we would talk for hours and go out from time to time. He confided at that time that he knew he couldn't stay with her because she had emotional and drinking problems. I was in a new relationship too, and wasn't satisfied. When I started to develop feelings for this guy, I ended my other relationship. He said he would be breaking up with his girlfriend, and that he wanted to be with me... at first I declined dates- I didn't think that it was right to see him on the side. But as time has gone on I have let myself spend more time with him, and am smitten. We have amazing chemistry. He said that he was waiting until after the holidays to go through the breakup with his girl, for the sake of his demanding job and her feelings. the holidays are over....nothing. Should I keep waiting? I really like him
2007-01-14 08:47:14 · 30 answers · asked by smarty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we have been seeing eachother for about two months.
2007-01-14 08:47:51 · update #1
You say he wasn't completely unhappy,and if that is the case,then why leave when he can have two for the price of one?
He is using you,and most likely willnot break up with his girlfriend for you,because if he truly wanted to,he would have done it already,sorry to say it.
You should definitely move on,because you don't need to waste time with someone who probably wants a sexual relationship with you on the side,and get it from his girlfriend also.
Really liking someone is different from really loving someone,and if you liked this person,you would have liked him enough to stay back and realize this wasn't the situation to be,especially since,he was taken. There is no rule saying that guys who are taken are off limits,but when a guy defines his relationship with another woman as mongomous,it is best to stay away from the situation,therefore,keeping your reputation in tact,and keeping the drama down to a minimum.
2007-01-14 08:59:02 · answer #1 · answered by Ellie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This may be hard to do, but you need to stay away from him until he can end his relationship. Before you do, tell him you need to stay away from him until he ends it with her and shows you that he wants you as a "full-time" girlfriend and not just a "side" girlfriend or a friend with benefits. If he breaks up with her you guys can develop a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship, but until then you guys can be nothing more than friends. If he doesn't break up with her he is too attached to her and still loves her even though he says he can't stay with her. He doesn't like you enough to end their relationship and start a new one with you if he doesn't break up with her soon after you stop seeing him regularly.
2007-01-14 09:09:39 · answer #2 · answered by superfly41691 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should not keep waiting. If he was that attached to you he would walk away from her in a minute. Yes they are off limits-let them break up first even before you talk to them about dating them. You may really like him but he is really using you.
2007-01-14 08:54:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure he had "amazing chemistry" with the first girl too. If he hasn't broken up with her it's because things are convenient for him the way they are now. And even if he did, he likely to have "amazing chemistry" with a new girl when he gets bored. Here's a question to help you decide if you are doing the right thing - would you like to be in the other girl's shoes?
2016-03-28 21:36:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always off-limits. How would you feel if some b**** came and stole your hot boyfriend!? But it is not wrong to tell him you like him...and if you don't think the other girl is right for him...but you can only say these things as a friend!
2007-01-14 08:51:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, men with girlfriends are off limit!
Because you wouldn't like to find your boyfriend to be dating another girl. He probably likes you both but say that as an excuse.
2007-01-14 08:55:15 · answer #6 · answered by notoriousteen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar situation once. He might as well have been married. He was miserable and was going to break up with her, a year later he still hadn't. Move on girlfriend.
2007-01-14 08:53:14 · answer #7 · answered by Redhead 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
to answer your question, yes, men with girlfriends are off limits. I didn't read your whole post, but have some respect for the other person in the relationship!
2007-01-14 08:51:58 · answer #8 · answered by churnin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he's feeling guilty over his gf or he's not really thinking of breaking up with her,either way i don't think u should wait.can u trust someone having 2 gals at the same time?anyway follow ur own instinct.Good luck!!
2007-01-14 08:58:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Open market is the word. GF/BF are not permanent and fair game for stealing provided it is done in an upfront manner. Husband/Wife off limits.
That's the word. Don't be skanky about it just be honest and tell him he kicks her to the curb or you walk.
2007-01-14 08:54:00 · answer #10 · answered by Disco Lady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋