my bf and I have not had sex yet but we're considering it and, he asked me the other day if....?

Question

he asked me if I would feel comfortable enough to do something a little kinky, bondage was what he had in mind-I trust him and all but since I am a virgin I dunno if I should get kinky the first time I have sex. He swears that he won't hurt me and if I asked him to stop then he would, but I just don't want him to get "caught up in the moment" and change his mind when the time actually comes. we both enjoy being kiinky with each other and stuff, so do you think it would be a bad idea to do the first time? it sorta turns me on when I think about it and I know it turns him on(*he always says:sticks and stones can break my bones,but whips and chains exite me*), Im just worried about it being my first expirience and all it'll probably hurt anyways, what is your opinion?

Answer 1

i think that whenever you are thinking about sex you need to always consider what you want and what makes you comfortable.
i am assuming your bf is not a virgin or has more experience than you.
i honestly can say, for most girls, having sex for the first time HURTS, you are sore, it feels weird, you have a million other things going through your mind. i think adding something else into the mix may put a bad spin on sex for you. who knows light s&m may be your thing, but you need to come to that on your own and not feel the need to do something for someone else until YOU want to. so you might want to hold up until you feel comfortable having sex before you try and "spice" things up.

also, please make sure you are taking precautions all around to protect yourself from std's and pregnancy- no need to turn a little fun into something you may regret later.

Answer 2

I think your first time should be a little more gentle. Sex is really very painful the first couple of times, so I would try and go slow at first. Maybe if after he penetrates you find you arent in too much pain, you can then decide to go more kinky. Also, just speaking as someone with experiece, losing your virginity is no small thing, so make sure you wont regret it. I'm not lecturing, but just as someone who has recently been in the same situation, I know how emotionally hazardous it can be.

Answer 3

bondage is a pretty far out thing.
i don't suggest you do that for your first time no way
300 times later try some but not until the 300 mark
i don't even know that this guy is anywhere near the right guy to have your first time with the suggestion that you do this at this point is quite different for sure.
i hope your first time goes well and that you enjoy all 300 times
before you go for the wild stuff.

Answer 4

Don't do it. If he gets carried away and you want him to stop and he doesnt, you can get hurt. This will be your fault because you wanted to be kinky too. Just do it normal for the first couple times atleast to see how he acts in standard situations.

Answer 5

As an alternative, use the kinky stuff as introduction, but agree to make your first time extra special, free to enjoy it.

Try to develop a scenario you both find exiting, and do it after.

(Ask him if he would mind being immobilized for that, and you can have your way with him...)

Answer 6

I would suggest you take it easy the first time and not try anything weird until you can get more familiar with it, but it really comes down to what you would be most comfortable with.

Answer 7

wait till the next time make the first one more romantic. Make him work for the sex dont just give it to him. Keep him waiting itll work. He'll be so ready he'll do anything for you.

Answer 8

dont do the kinky stuff your first time. second time if you want to but not first. enjoy it first, then play