hey ppl...
do u think its okay to flirt w/ someone and not have them expect something more...what about w/ the person and their friend??? would they think u were a player or slut??? (excuse the language).
what do u think plz reply to me w/ ur thoughts!!!~
thnx
2007-01-14 08:08:44 · 19 answers · asked by Misy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Flirting is okay unless you are misleading someone into thinking it will lead to something else. I like flirting with women but I make sure they are aware that I am already taken.
2007-01-14 08:14:54 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Smooth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a girl who would not be classified as a huge flirt, but I do flirt for fun and with whoever I feel like. For example, I'll flirt with the geek in my class to get help in chem, he knows it, I know it and we are good friends. I don't think people should expect anything, unless you become too physical, then depending on the person they read it incorrectly and have a love struck/obsessed/ pissed off streak that comes out and frankly, is hard to deal with. I think that if your name gets around, and people know that you flirt harmlessly you wouldn't be called a player. My idea of a player is the guy or girl who's dated half of the high school, and possibly slept, or gone too far with them too quickly. (Like the first week they're dating) OR, a person who randomly hooks up with everyone. However, people will talk and be disapproving depending on the crowd you hang out with. My advice is to get to know people and how seriously they take everything before launching into some really serious flirting, that could go nowhere or somewhere. Have fun=)
p.s. Try not to flirt with other people who are taken, it really makes people upset. I have a friend who's a serial flirter, and some of the girls dating guys she flirted with got kind of upset. Just a word for the wise.
2007-01-14 08:22:48 · answer #2 · answered by infusionismusic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flirting can be fun...but it can also hurt. And what one person deems as just being friendly can be seen by another as flirting. Be playful and friendly, but don't carry it too far. You don't want to be viewed as a heartbreaker (or maybe you do!) or player, or not serious in your feelings.
As long as you don't make someone have expectations you have no intention of following through with playful interaction can be fun as many of the responses are implying...but I'd be very very careful!
2007-01-14 08:17:42 · answer #3 · answered by LaSperanza 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flirting usually opens the door to more than just a casual relationship; however, this is not the case with everyone. It really depends on your relationship with the person you're flirting with(known eachother a while? mutual chemistry?) and if you/they are in a committed relationship. Flirting is supposed to be fun and exciting, just make sure no one will get hurt.
2007-01-14 08:14:38 · answer #4 · answered by mycatslinky 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A little harmless flirting isn't a bad thing and can actually be quite healthy. It's a great ego boost for both sides and everyone, regardless of their age, does it.
However, if you do flirt with someone, don't do it in front of the person they are dating, don't do it in front of the person you are dating (misunderstandings can occur and feelings can be hurt.) Be sure to keep it light and fun.
2007-01-14 08:13:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flirting is so much fun, but everyone has to know exactly what they are going to get out of it.
So as long as everyone is getting what they want out of it then everything is ok.
The part about being a player, what does it matter as long as no-one is hurt
2007-01-14 08:14:59 · answer #6 · answered by boobboo77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flirting is fine and it's healthy if you're feeling it. It doesn't mean that you intend to sleep with them. If they expect that from you then they are just mistaken. Then you can move on to someone else who really cares about you and wants to just spend quality time with you.
2007-01-14 08:12:51 · answer #7 · answered by sherockstn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you flirt with someone they are more than likely going to expect something. Either they are going to think you're interested and wanting them to ask you out or they're going to think you want to have sex, but either way, when you flirt with someone you are giving them signals that you're interested in them in one way or another.
2007-01-14 08:18:08 · answer #8 · answered by Mindchser 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with flirting i do it all the time go for it. And if its with more than 1 person all the more fun.
2007-01-14 08:12:36 · answer #9 · answered by KevZilla 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Flirting is fine. It can boost a person's persective on there self. If you are with someone and you are flirting, then yea...player would be the title.
2007-01-14 08:12:06 · answer #10 · answered by amandaped25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋