my boyfriend wanted to have sex the other night. and i didnt, i just felt gross. like my legs were hairy.. n whatnot. i just didnt want him to see me like that. we've been going out for over 15 months.
he says he felt really "cut" that i didtn want to have sex and that he feels really sad n upset about it.
is there any way i can make him feel better. without having sex.
he says he lost lots of his confidence n ****..
2007-01-14 08:06:37 · 17 answers · asked by krimson.suicide 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we've had sex before. yes.
and he wasnt pressuring me into it.
i just didnt feel like it and now hes makin me feel like ****
2007-01-14 08:16:24 · update #1
damn he had a lame excuse. but neway, i mean if you're a guy with the mentality of a 15 year old boy that brags about how much **** he gets to his homies, then yeah not getting *** from your girl all the time will hurt your ego. 15 months you're basically wifey(aka wife for all you spell check critics, in that case i would've said "...you're basically his wife)...damn you haters. back to the point, if sex is all he's worried about after 15 months then you have bigger issues. where's your relationship going? just like the ravens..it's going nowhere. if he's still acting like an *** about it, dont shave for a month then unleash your downsouth chubaka and he'll understand. ha, i kill myself. it's nothing big lady dont stress yourself over it. he's just being immature.
2007-01-14 08:18:15 · answer #1 · answered by king.8307 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are doing all you can do to help him Stop trying so hard, try to keep in mind he must heal in his own time, nothing you do will make this transition any faster All you need to do is be there for him, stop telling him how great he is, the way forward now is to get him out of the house and stop him thinking By going out he will enjoy your company and his surroundings taking his mind off his problems Being with you will help his get outside, but telling him things will get getter and he is great etc, will only keep his mind on his past Keep him active and just be yourself when you are speaking to him, you cannot cure him, this he must do over time
2016-05-24 01:09:17 · answer #2 · answered by Lois 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Your boyfriend is a selfish pig. If he cared about you, your feelings would come first and he would respect that you just weren't in the mood. You deserve someone who would never behave that way to you. You don't need to make him feel better. You need to get some self respect and tell him to step off.
2007-01-14 08:11:02 · answer #3 · answered by sherockstn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds kind of sleazy on his part that you should be expected to appease him at any moment. Just tell him that it wasn't him and that you just weren't feeling up for it. If that doesn't suffice then he's being a jerk, it's not your fault. It has nothing to do with confidence.
2007-01-14 08:11:28 · answer #4 · answered by steduc543 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's trying to guilt trip you into having sex with him. Tell him you just aren't ready, and if he loves you, he'll wait a bit longer.
2007-01-14 08:10:54 · answer #5 · answered by Megan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him you wanted to too, you just felt gross. then shave your legs and anyhing else that made you feel gross and have sex wth him if you want. it isnt a big deal
2007-01-14 08:10:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes playing u,he acts like that after 15 months,girl u have a problem...gl
2007-01-14 08:19:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's being manipulitive. it's not you JOB to have sex with him or make him feel desired.
He's lost his confidence!...hahahha that's a load of bull****
2007-01-14 08:11:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you having sex with this child?...he obviously needs to grow up. It's your body, do as you will with it. You shouldn't allow someone to guilt you for it.
2007-01-14 08:12:08 · answer #9 · answered by radarjet67 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
give him a bj to shut him up or a 6 pack of beer
2007-01-14 08:09:26 · answer #10 · answered by Tiffi Poodle Pie 69 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋