ok so me and this guy are really in love with eachother. He told me hes in love iwth me but...he has a gf. He said that hes in love with both me and his gf. But i dont that. I told him today that if he really loves me he would let go of hs gf to be with me. He got really mad and was like I do love you I love you alot. He said he was going to kill himself.... :(. What do I do??? Does he reallly love me?!?!?!?! I need some answers!!!!!!!
2007-01-14 07:55:48 · 17 answers · asked by dancingurl_22 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He does NOT love you, if he did he wouldn't threaten suicide nor would he be with his GIRLFRIEND.
He's the type you should stay the hell away from; he's a suicidal, controlling psychopath.
2007-01-14 07:58:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he said he was going to kill himself, he has severe depression and therefore does not love himself. You CAN NOT love anyone else until you are okay with yourself. He probably cares very much for you and the girlfriend. More importantly, he is hoping that you both love him so that will make him feel better about himself. He needs encouragement, and he needs to know that people like/love him. If you love him, you need to help him deal with his depression. He needs treatment. Then, and only then, you can proceed with the relationship you are hoping to have with him. Good luck.
2007-01-14 16:05:31 · answer #2 · answered by Torren 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he sounds crazy Hun, he sounds like the type of man that wants his cake and eat it to... witch means he wants the both of you. If your willing to chair your man, or be the "other woman" then go for it. But if your the jealous type get out of there fast... tell him that you can not deal with him being with someone else. To look you up when he is free to just be with you.
If he truly loves you, he will not kill himself, BUT if you think that he will you need to get him some help fast. Because if he does and you never said anything to anyone about him wanting to, you are going to blame your self for the rest of your life... I know for a fact how that feels. My best friend told me that he was not going to live to see his 16th birthday, and he shot himself the day before his birthday, and to this day i think if i would have told someone he would still be here with me.
PLEASE don't put yourself through anymore stress then life alone brings... you don't need it!
2007-01-14 16:03:43 · answer #3 · answered by sexy momma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a jerk. I'd just back off if I were you. Put yourself in this other girls position and I know you're not supposed to blame people for past mistakes but let's say he leaves his other girlfriend and goes out with you, don't you think this type of situation would happen again? Just think about it. Also, the threatening suicide thing, it's either a cry for help or signs of a serious mental illness. Good luck hun!
2007-01-14 16:00:22 · answer #4 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless your really worried that he'll kill himself just leave him alone and don't preassure him. He'll have to deside what he needs to be happy, but pushing him will make it harder. You don't want to be in a relationship that's full of doubt. It might suck but he might deside he loves his girlfriend more (think about her feelings too) and you'll have to be able to accept that and make sure he knows you'll accept that. Remember that your relationship won't work if he still loves her alot. Make sure he knows how you feel and whatever he deside will probably be for the best.
2007-01-14 16:03:29 · answer #5 · answered by ***HDK*** 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont u love ur mom and dad equally???so cant a person love two odr persons of the opp. sex equally...
get in contact wid people he meets on a daily basis like his colleagueswithout him knowing bout this and ask about the changes in his beahavior...the type of change in his behavior will tell u if he speaks the truth or not
ask them wat kind of a person he is...he may have had a lot of gf's in the past but if he has a soft corner in his heart...is maybe somewhat emotional and has compassion for odrs in his heart, he might be speaking the truth
2007-01-14 16:05:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that's complicated. First, if he says that he's going to kill himself, you should get help from a mental health expert. Secondly, once his state-of-mind is okay, you should leave him. He can't be with both you and his girlfriend.
2007-01-14 16:00:07 · answer #7 · answered by Oublier 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should sit down and talk to him and see why he said that. you should tell him if he really loves you to let go of his girlfriend but see why he said he was going to kill himself. if he is really thinking of that, talk to someone and get him help
2007-01-14 16:09:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously he wants his cake and eat it too, he is just trying to make you feel guilty when he says he'll kill himself, he's definetly a selfish bastard and you need to dump him, even if he left his other gf whos to say he wont do it again to you. you are a fool if you let him keep using you.
2007-01-14 15:59:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
only one of you two can be his TRUE love. you cant have 2 true loves. ignore him and get over it. if hes not willing to let his gf go, it means he loves her more than you. good luck
2007-01-14 16:22:31 · answer #10 · answered by Stephanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋