Started seeing this guy, not serious yet, barely 1 month. I really like him. He is appreciative of the time I spend with him and is always gentleman. He also calls/texts me everyday. I really admire these things.
We were supposed to get together one day, but that day I had to call him to find out that he had drank too much the night before and that he was not feeling up to it. I was really disappointed. He said he wanted to get together with me in a couple of days, but I couldn't give him a definite answer yet.
If I forget about him, am I being too hard and expecting too much? I know that everyone falls short of perfection and I am not perfect, but part of me feels that if I do not take this seriously enough that I am setting myself up for more disappointment if the relationship becomes more serious. What I mean is, will he be responsible?
On the other hand, I like him so much, but I'm afraid that I'm searching for a reason to excuse him for this. I don't want to settle.
2007-01-14 07:10:17 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That would definetly be a mark against this guy. You may want to give him a little more time to see how he does in the future. Also, it would be important to talk to him and tell him that you were disappointed. Make it a rule in relationships that you mention concerns up front--as soon as they cross your mind--don't save them or keep them private.
2007-01-14 07:15:38 · answer #1 · answered by Faith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are asking for too much. Everyone makes mistakes. The judge of a man is whether his good points outweigh his weaknesses. If he does this kind of thing all the time, you may
want to rethink the relationship, but dumping him for one mistake? Have you been nothing but perfect yourself in the relationship?
No one here knows either of you, so no one can tell you if he will be more responsible. For that, you need a psychic, a magic 8 ball, or more time.
2007-01-14 07:16:20 · answer #2 · answered by brews 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's only been a month, maybe that night was just an isolated incident.
If I were you, I would continue seeing him, but I would be more guarded about becoming invested in the relationship. It's clear from the way you're writing that you want things to turn serious if he can handle it; however, you can't rush things that way.
If it happens again, and if you feel like his irresponsibility is a pattern, break up with him.
2007-01-14 07:21:09 · answer #3 · answered by Iris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him another chance. This is basically why people don't find the right person. Because they expect the very best from the begginning and any mistakes by a man or woman make the person look like there are not mister or miss's right.
2007-01-14 07:22:23 · answer #4 · answered by Magician 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're being overdramatic. But keep an close watch on this guy, sounds like a bit of trouble. Give him another chance but keep him on thin ice, and see what happens
2007-01-14 07:16:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. You're not into him.
2007-01-14 07:13:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋