My daghter keeps peeing her bed at night. Shes 10.5.?

Question

My daughter has had this problem ever since we started potty training her she pees the bed constantly. I have takin her to the doctors. They are no good they tell me she will grow out of it. Im tierd of having to change her bed. I know she can't stop. Any advice? Please No stupid answers, this is a seriouse matter.

She also has to wear pampers to school. Other kids make fun of her. That brakes my heart. Have I faild as a mother?

She also has to wear pampers to school. Other kids make fun of her. That brakes my heart. Have I faild as a mother?

ANd for some people out their she is NOt abused. ANd thats just silly. If i abused my daughter do u think i would be worried about her? Now please Only real answers please thankyou

Answer 1

Mom, your daughter has immature bladder function. She may be 10, but her bladder is still 5. She will grow out of it. Until she does, there is medication that will stop her day wetting--Ditropan, Detrol or Vesicare--all rx. They all work very quickly and she takes them once a day until she outgrows this problem...For the night, I would suggest DDAVP--also an rx. It works immediatly too...She should also have a renal/bladder ultrasound done as a screen..You need to see a pediatric urologist who will put you on the right track. This is the only type of doctor who can help you....NOT an adult urologsit.

Answer 2

First off you are not a failure! Second you need to go see a specialist, ask your doctor for a refferal.

There could be many reasons, she could just have an overactive bladder, stress, something going on you dont know about.

It is not a bad thing and please dont feel upset or think your failing.
I have worked with children that have wet the bed more than the average child and from hearing your story I think you should see a specialist to determine if something is medically wrong rather than just listening to the regular PCP and thinking she will grow out of it because of course at some point she will but you want to pinpoint the problem now.

also if she is being teased and pressured more than normal this can cause her to do it more often, its like stage freight kinda.

I hope all works out for the best.

Answer 3

Check out:
www.bedwetting.org
My son is 10 1/2 and still wets the bed. My doctor says he'll grow out of it too and has put him on DDAVP which seems to help. We've adjusted and I'm not concerned about the sheets any more because I have taught him to change and wash his own. First thing in the morning he gets up, strips the bed, grabs a shower, dresses, takes his blankets and sheets down to the basement, puts them in washer and starts it up. Him washing his own bedding has given him back some of his self respect because he no longer has to ask for help making him feel less like a baby. I do apologize tho, because I can not relate to the day time difficulties. Good luck.

Answer 4

My nine year old does the same thing. I did it when I was growing up and so didn't her dad, so she was double whammy. I have my daughter eat saltines not long before she goes to bed and I stop her drinking at a reasonable time. This does work believe me. I know it probably sounds stupid. My daughter is a heavy sleeper and doesn't wake up in the middle of the night. I have her eat anywhere between 8-10 crackers eat night. I actually got this from a home remedy book my mom gave me. There are other ways to control it but I would have to look it up for you if you want. Email me and let me know ok. [e-mail]

Answer 5

If you have cut her drinking off 2 hours before bed time and she still does it she may have a bladder problem and needs medical attention. A friend of mine was molested and as a result she would wet the bed. It could be a number of things hopefully not that, but just watch her in take of liquids and talk to her.My cousin is the same age as my daughter (11) and she still wets the bed, but the Doctor told her the same thing and that she will out grow it.

Answer 6

If you have taken her to the doctor about this situation and they have not offered you help, I would take her to another doctor and to another doctor. This is simply unacceptable.
Sometimes tension over the problem makes the problem continue so breaking the cycle is very important. Don't give up trying to find medical help. You are being a good mother by being concerned and seeking help for your child.

Answer 7

First, No you have not failed as a mother. Secondly, while you might be frustrated, don't let it send the wrong message to your daughter. I would suggest cutting out all beverages about 3 hours before bed time. Help her to be relaxed that this will go away. Also find another Dr that specializes in development of Children. Help build her confidence. She needs your help!

Answer 8

I think you need a second opinion from a different doctor. She should have outgrown this by now. And the fact that she wets her pants at school is very troubling. I think she needs counseling, too. Is she an abused child?

Answer 9

Have you taken her to a doctor? A specialist? Sounds like she has bladder control problems if she must wear a pamper to school. There is a lot that can be done to treat her condition if you just seek medical advice. If it is an emotional problem, seek counseling.

Answer 10

you should see a specialist not just a regular pediatrician. Set up an appointment with a urologist. The prevalence of daytime wetting varies by age and gender, and is estimated at 5% between the ages of 6 and 12 years. It is twice as common in girls as in boys. Given that urinary tract infection has been ruled out, the causes to be considered fall into categories distinguishable by careful history. These categories include:
External causes such as ingestion of caffeine and excessive intra-abdominal pressure associated with coughing. These are transient and self-limited.

Psychological stressors such as emotional trauma, undiagnosed child abuse, and witnessed domestic violence.

Wetting after voiding, with possible causes being vaginal reflux of urine (more common in obese girls), labial fusion, and postvoid dribble syndrome.

Wetting before voiding, with possible causes being: constipation or fecal impaction, holding urine to the last moment, "giggle" incontinence, stress incontinence, urge syndrome (unstable bladder with squatting to prevent detrusor contractions -- more common in children with attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder), neurogenic bladder, diabetes mellitus and insipidus, and, very rarely, Hinman syndrome, which is a severe form of urge syndrome.

Constant wetting, which can be associated with ectopic ureter (more common in girls than boys), neurogenic bladder, and spinal cord abnormalities such as sacral agenesis and caudal regression syndrome.

Abnormal stream associated with urethral obstruction.