I would like to wait till marriage to lose my virginity, to the person I love, but I’m confused by what people are saying, because their saying don’t wait till marriage sexual compatibility is important, which I agree with, but isn’t it their anyway when your in love? Because how can you be in love with someone and not be sexually compatible?
2007-01-14 06:58:17 · 12 answers · asked by Shadow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sexual compatibility is important, and is separate from love, but is also something that can be worked on and fixed. Love isn't something that can be fixed -- it is there or it isn't. Same with virginity. If you feel it is important to wait, you should wait. If someone is trying to talk you into sex by saying that they need to see if you are compatible before marrying you, they probably don't intend to marry you and think this is a way to get sex. Stick to your convictions.
2007-01-14 07:06:16 · answer #1 · answered by brews 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Sexual compatibility is important to an extent, but then so is everything in a relationship.
Chances are, nobody is going to be 100 percent compatible with somebody else. You might be sexually compatible, but find out that you really, really hate the way your partner always leaves hair in the plughole, or puts crappy ornaments all over the house.
There's loads of other ways to be incompatible apart from sex, but it's whether or not you can accept these things that can be the difference between making a relationship work, or not work.
If you truly love someone you can generally overlook these things.
2007-01-14 07:25:50 · answer #2 · answered by Gilligan 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, Shadow, you do have a lot to learn.
Love and sex are two different things altogether.
It's true that you could live with love without sex.
When you love someone, very little matters really. You can accept a lot, even forget yourself, your own happyness.
But in a happy, healthy and strong relationship, sex plays a very important part.
Sexual frustration can ruin a relationship, no matter how much someone may love you.xx
Imagine, you don't enjoy it, because your partner is too rough; or maybe only cares about his own pleasure; or ...
So many things.
But to end on a positive note, again, when you love each other, and know how to communicate, you have the best of start.
Good luck.xx
2007-01-14 07:15:37 · answer #3 · answered by Kc 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tend to agree with you. I'm not saying you will automatically be sexually compatible with this person, but if you care about each other to communicate what you both want and when you're uncomfortable, then over time you will learn to adapt to each other. It is a process, but I think it does happen in most cases.
2007-01-14 07:04:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way you do. I am saving my virginity until marriage. Sex is something that is so intimate and can be a bonding experience as you both learn together. I believe it will actually cause the couple to grow closer as each learns what the other likes and learns how to cater to the others wants and needs.
2007-01-14 07:04:57 · answer #5 · answered by cchambers123 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You see my friend, Love is when you like some, like you love your mother, sister, father, friend and etc. But when you have sex with your wife or GF you develop a unique bondage that is somewhat greater then the love of your mother. and that bondage is there because you share Sex with your GF or Wife.
now you if you make this unique bondage before or after marriage it is up to you. but it is somthing that every relationship need and without it it will fall apart. now why relationship fall apart (in terms of sex, there are other reason too) because that is not what they expected their partner to be.
I hope it make sence to you.
I want to wait till marriage too and I think you have made a good choice.
2007-01-14 07:14:43 · answer #6 · answered by Linux7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i prefer to have someone who can make love to my mind.. sometimes it helps to be compatible but you will only know that if you try.. and besides you could be sexually compatible but not suited to be a life partner.. so if i were you if she loves you it wont matter... after all.. you build on your sexual experience and if your deeply in love.. you can become sexually compatible... so don't go throwing your cherry away yet.. too many people do that looking for the "one".... i wish i had waited!
2007-01-14 07:10:32 · answer #7 · answered by tikketiboo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you're in love, you're willing to overlook many faults. Once the love has settled into something comfortable, the faults become major obstacles in the marriage.
2007-01-14 07:01:47 · answer #8 · answered by S K 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you want to wait, wait. As far as compatibility goes, there are things you can do or try. Don't stress about it.
2007-01-14 08:08:40 · answer #9 · answered by Julia B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u wil feel compatible at first, but if 1 has a higher sex drive can have problems, u need 2 know u both want the same out of sex, anal oral who knows what who likes!!!
2007-01-14 07:04:27 · answer #10 · answered by shaun j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋