My boyfriend and I have been together for a while now and have been living together for over a year. A couple of months ago my boyfriend and myself had a "baby scare" at the time we weren’t planning on having a baby. However after I took the at home test and found out that I wasn’t pregnant I was extremely sad. Ever since then I’ve actually wanted to conceive. i've talked about the scare with my boyfriend and he’s told me that he was kind of excited about me possibly being pregnant but was also relieved when I wasn’t. He’s says that he's not ready for a baby.... but why was he excited in the first place. I’ve tried talking with him and he won’t even try to think things through. What should I do?
2007-01-14 06:57:39 · 18 answers · asked by ash b 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Get him to talk to you! I'm having the same problem with my husband. I want a baby so bad and he says he's not ready, so we talk ALOT, it helps most of the time! Good Luck!
2007-01-14 09:47:23 · answer #1 · answered by Amber- Colton's Mommy! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to establish the relationship at the next level before having a child. If he isn't ready, it would be a mistake to get pregnant.
Perhaps getting married and doing some of the things that only a couple can do is a wiser idea. If you are younger than 27, wait for sure. You'll have pleanty of time to have that baby. Enjoy the life you have now.
2007-01-14 07:09:40 · answer #2 · answered by Daniel 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-08 01:08:47 · answer #3 · answered by alia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should wait. You don't want to "convince" him to do it if he isn't ready, cause he could end up resenting you and or the baby. He is probably just being mature about the situation. It is ok to get excited about the thought of a baby if its to late anyway, he had a good attitude, but just because you want a baby or would love a baby doesn't mean you are ready for one.
2007-01-14 08:44:06 · answer #4 · answered by I love sushi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to convince him. If you talk him into having a baby before you are both fully prepared (emotionally, financially etc.) then he may end up resenting you for the rest of your lives. Bring it up as a topic of discussion every so often, and let him know how you feel and that you are ready, but don't pressure him. It will be much better for you both when you make the decision mutually.
2007-01-14 08:19:31 · answer #5 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wait until you decide to get married. Being a boyfriend is scary enough without worrying about becoming a dad. He probably sees it as 18 years of child support if the two of you don't stay together. Commit to each other before conceiving.
2007-01-14 07:07:06 · answer #6 · answered by Erin P 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, you push this issue & he will run. If he is not ready then he is not ready. present him with your views about wanting a child & let him come to terms with it in his own time. But if he does not share your views, respect this. All men are excited at the prospect of becoming a father but not all are in the right time of life to to become a father. You did not say how old you were but I suspect you are rather young. take your time & enjoy life. Children are a full time job with mandatory overtime & no sick leave. The benefits are fantastic but only if both parents are ready for the responsibility.
Good luck to both of you.
2007-01-14 08:25:32 · answer #7 · answered by U can't b serious 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marry him first. Look my bf and I have been together for 4 years. We want children too, but it needs to be the right time. We want to get married and get financially stable and have the right environment for our children. I think you need to sit down and see if you guys are headed the same direction and how you can plan a family together.
2007-01-14 08:41:13 · answer #8 · answered by fifimsp1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have to "convince him" then that's not good. You don't want to pressure him into something as life-changing as becoming a parent. This needs to be something you both want or it will just cause problems. And if you're going to start a family, you might want to start by making a lifelong commitment to each other.
2007-01-14 07:03:11 · answer #9 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Grow up. Don,t mess up your life and his not to mention an innocent child by trying to get pregnant. You don,t sound nearly mature enough to be a parent and using it as some sort of game with your boyfriend proves that.
2007-01-14 07:04:59 · answer #10 · answered by Iknowthisone 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋