Does blocking out your abuse come back to you some how?

Answer 1

It very well can. Often times, traumatic events, such as abuse, can come tumbling back to us when we are exposed to certain "triggers." A person, place, thing, smell, or something some one says can trigger your repressed memories.

Answer 2

You don't offer much information, but the answer is YES. Nothing bad can stay inside. It will come out in other ways--behavior, attitude, illness. And eventually, you can find yourself in bad situations--a bad marriage, drugs/alcohol, job hopping, etc.

Find someone you can trust and tell them what's going on. If you're a child/teen, see a 'mandated reporter,' like a minister/priest, school counselor, doctor, teacher, social worker, police officer. Call a mental health hotline in your area. Here you can dial 2-1-1. I don't know if they have that where you live, but if you look in your phone book, you may even find numbers in the front cover. Otherwise, look under 'mental health.'

If your parents are not involved in the abuse, you should go to them first. You may be embarrassed or think that they will punish you, but it's worth it to take that chance.

If you tell them and they don't help you, don't stop trying to get help. Don't stop until you find someone who believes you and will help you.

You do not deserve to be abused. I was molested for years by the boy next door. I never told anyone. I've had many problems over the years because of this. I wish that I had spoken up. My life might be so different now.

You are a special person. Remind yourself of that daily! It may be hard, but pray. God longs to encourage and strengthen you. He can give you wisdom on what to do. He can lead you to the help you need. And above all, no matter what anyone tells you, he LOVES you!!! You are never alone.

Answer 3

Yes and no. I think blocking it out can be very harmful because you can never be sure if and when it may surface, but I also think if you indulge it, it can create more problems than if you deal with it in a healthy way. I think the best way to deal with abuse is in therapy with a trained professional. Depending on the extent and length of abuse, this could take time and patience.

Answer 4

Unfortunately, yes it can. My ex-husband kept blocking out his abusive upbringing, and it affected, and ultimately destroyed our marriage. He has continually had unsuccessful relationships, before & since our failed marriage, because of this. Even as difficult as it may be, you really need to find a way to deal with this so you can lead a truly happy and productive life, and have happy, long lasting and successful relationships. Don't keep burying the past, expecting it to just resolve itself, or go away .. it doesn't, and it won't. Once you deal with things, you will feel like a weight has been lifted off your shoulders, and feel such relief, unlike you have felt before. I am speaking from personal experience as well. My ex-husband recently called me, that he had actually finally dealt with his past issues, and has been making amends with those he wronged in the past (myself being one of those people), and all has been forgiven, although we will never be anything more than casual friends, ever again. But at least he & I are friends, and can discuss things without either one losing their cool. Hope this is of help to you. Good luck with your situation!

Answer 5

people have many coping mechanisms and blocking out the memory of something awful is one of them. I do know a woman who is approaching fifty that has blocked out abuse memories and she says that works fine for her.

Personally for me that didnt work and I found that counselling so that I could gain an understanding about myself and the abuse and learn new ways of being in the world and keeping myself safe was more effective..

I have heard it said that it does come back to you in later life and can create havoc in your personal life if not dealt with.

Answer 6

I would say yes. Any feelings you block out will come back up later in life. Talk to someone about what you went through. Let your feelings out, it's important.

Answer 7

I have mental breakdowns about once every year and suddenly remember everything. Other than that, I only have about two memories of the six most intense years of abuse. It comes out in other ways, though, like my mental problems.

Answer 8

The idea of 'repressed memories' is not scientific. People who have been abused remember it.

Some psychologists claimed to uncover memories when in fact they were creating new artificial memories of events that never took place.

Don't believe me - google it.

Answer 9

Yes, you are just blocking it, you haven't got over it. The pain or trauma will manifest itself in a way or another.

Answer 10

No. Blocking it out is the same as putting it behind you.