My mother still treats me like a little kid and I can't stand it. She says I'm not aloud to date until I'm 30. I just told her that I'm going to be married before I'm 30 so I certainly have to start dating before then. How can I convince my mom that I'm not that helpless 5 year old anymore and that I'm a mature teenager?
2007-01-14 06:37:14 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Mature teenager, that’s an oxymoron like military intelligence, right ?
Kidding.
Suggest focusing on your studies no matter how mundane until you complete it.
The average student can least afford to spare time with certain colleges loading students with a snowstorm of exam papers and dissertations.
The concern of your parents is that the focus shifts away from completing exams, worse still, shifting attention back from heartache and other issues is probable to pose more difficulty, let alone divided attention and energy from the main objective on hand:
pass exams to get into a better college or land a half decent job.
On the other hand, try rationalizing with your parents that dating is part of developing social skills, provided performed under a generally safe environment with keeping your parents in the loop.
They are concerned with your well being, which is to say they have contributed in part to finance your studies. Will it not be a shame for their hard earned money intended to put their child through schooling go to waste ?
2007-01-14 07:01:00 · answer #1 · answered by pax veritas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents have rules for a reason- usually with our well being in mind. However, I truely believe that 30 is a bit too far. What you can do is not tell her but shaow her how mature you can be.
As a parent that is so restrictive, I do not believe anything short of rebelling or moving out will help, but you sure can try. This is not the 50's anymore and actually in those days girls were married a lot earlier. After 20 they were considered old maids.
Look into your mother's past. Did she have bad experiences with men, marriages, etc. Let her know that you may not make the same mistakes as her but by restricting you this much she will only push you into dooing things rashly.
2007-01-22 04:00:52 · answer #2 · answered by stacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off- How old are you? I could prolly be a bit more specific with my answer.
In any case- I think you need to put the emotion aside and simply ask her. Listen to what she says, without any anger. I dont know how old you are- but ask her to be specific in her reasoning. Was she not allowed to date till a certain age? Did something happen that she is not sure if you are mature? Are you really too young? Ask her what you can do to show that she has instilled good moral judgement in you. And then follow her rules. By showing her that you are a mature teenager is typically how you get more freedoms.
Until you are allowed to date- do things with groups of friends, in many cases that is much more fun.
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2007-01-21 14:47:21 · answer #3 · answered by Sadey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly Katie, you probably did not exhibit how previous you're. once you're below 15 yrs previous, you at the instant are not waiting to bypass out on a date on my own with a boy. Now in case you prefer to cling out with acquaintances someplace and be abode on time, then that's a compromise. once you're sixteen yrs or older, and he or she nonetheless won't make it easier to date, then you rather would desire to paintings on that. First enable me merely say that fogeys have your appropriate hobbies at coronary heart, there are various unkown disadvantages for women in this international that your mum and dad are attempting to guard you from. you may think of your invincible and not something will happen to you, however the 1st time you enable your shelter down, it does and it might desire to be the final time you have that danger. it may appear overprotective, and probably that's, yet we as mum and dad have the ethical, criminal and ethical appropriate to guard you and we are able to do something to try this. Now enable's talk approximately gaining floor of have confidence with mom. First you will desire to provide her self assurance which you will hear to training and shop on with the policies. Make plans with better than one buddy to assert bypass and have some thing to consume on the community hangout, and comply with the time decrease, be abode on time - NO EXCUSES. you will desire to build this have confidence up with mom and he or she would be able to start to make it easier to do further and extra. merely remember there are people who may be sufficiently previous, yet not mature sufficient to handle situations. continually provide your self wiggle room, and don't have faith you be responsive to each thing there is to be responsive to. you won't be able to be responsive to the non-public love mom has for baby, until you're a mom your self. i'm hoping this helps you realize a mom's viewpoint. I choose you all of the appropriate. have exciting! Hugs
2016-10-19 23:32:12 · answer #4 · answered by lander 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl just be yourself and i hope that is mature like you say,,mmmh
was there something you did before maybe thats why and if so give her some time it will past as long as there are no priors
ok!hahahah!
2007-01-18 15:11:15 · answer #5 · answered by keepitreal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just sit down and talk to her and say "mom would u rather me date behind ur back or have me date with u knowing and u meeting the guy im dateing?" that should get her attetion and htat should tell her that ur really seriouse about dateing someone..
2007-01-21 22:34:22 · answer #6 · answered by bridget s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you didn't say how old you are. but, if you are mature, she may allow a boy to come over and eat dinner with you and your parents. that is a start.
2007-01-22 01:31:52 · answer #7 · answered by REALLY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go out with some one and dont tell her
what she doesnt know wont kill her
2007-01-20 06:15:05 · answer #8 · answered by jessica354 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't.
2007-01-14 06:43:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋