Help in Self defense?

Question

hi there is this kid thats been bothering me with same height. He keeps making fun of me but i usually defend for myself and i told him to shut up or ill box ur face then he says come on lets do it and i fought a lot of people but i dont know what to do. i wanna learn how to fight not tell anyone else please help and also im 16 and he is 17. Also i dont wanna be a coward and want to fight but am afraid ill get hurt real bad should i fight?

yea but when i say something to defend myself he tells me to fight and also he says that im a loser who cant fight and am a coward if i dont fight him. then i have nothing to say and i look so stupid.

Answer 1

I agree with most of these people. Fighting is not going to resolve your issue directly. It's never a good course of action and is not going to give you a permanent solution to your problem.

However, I will also go on record as saying there is a time and a place for all things. If you are choosing not to fight someone that is one thing. If your choice is based out of fear though, it's not really a choice. Making a choice not to fight would mean that you could just as easily make the choice to fight (works both ways.) What I'm hearing from you is a reluctance to "get into it." You're afraid of getting hurt and embarassed and whatever else. All understandably I might ad. Just remember one thing. Bruises heal, cuts mend, even broken bones can be set and will repair themselves within a few weeks. However, the wounds you take to your heart from giving in to your cowardice.. those will last for years, if not a lifetime. Sometimes when we "choose" not to fight. We're actually choosing to give up more of our self respect than we really should. Whatever you do.. don't do that.

Like I said to start... I don't encourage the physical violence, however there is a time and place for all things.

Good luck to you

Answer 2

I agree with all the guys here. It is pointless to fight and much less for something so stupid and childish. Don;t let him bother you, and do not instigate the situation. When you tell somebody that you are going to hurt them or anything of that sort, you eliminate any other resolution to the problem and push the person to a fight where one or both of you might get hurt. If he attacks you without provocation and you defend yourself then you are in fact in self defense. Of course I am not even mentioning all the legal repercutions of this type of conduct. My advice, grow up, wise up, grow a tougher skin, learn to be humble and learn to control yourself. Good luck

Answer 3

self defence isn't about being able to fight so that you or anyone else doesn't think your a coward.you should go and learn self defence and martial arts for the right reasons.let him make fun of you,does it really matter?and if it's other ppl opinion your worried about they'll make thier own mind up about you regardless of what someone else says.your actions towards this person will define what ppl think of you moreso than anything he has to say.
by all means go and do ma,it's a good lifestyle but dont worry about whats going on now.if you give someone enough rope they'll hang themselves?if you cant fight or your afraid of getting hurt you should keep your mouth shut and if you can fight you should keep your mouth shut even more.

Answer 4

Kick him in the balls when he's not expecting it. Then punch him in the mouth. You should expect a retaliation so be prepared. You need to learn a basic defensive stance even if you choose not to fight. Hands up, chin down, and a wide base to provide balance. If you don't know how to throw proper punches then you should join a mma class and avoid fighting until you feel confident you can defend yourself.

Answer 5

have you done something to upset him? if not the only reason he wants to fight you is to prove himself in which case he is insecure so probably not the best fighter there is just keep distance between the two of you. if he really wants to fight you he will. wait for him to throw a punch and push his arm away by his elbow towards the inside of his body move to his side tripping him forward as you do and sit on him until he calms down while hes down there he feels helpless he wont like that just give him time to realize there's nothing he can do if you hit him he will just hold a grudge and that will make things worse. the main thing is do not lose your confidence.

Answer 6

you shouldn't fight the guy, there's really no point in it, because he'll still keep bothering you even if you do happen to kick his a**.

it's not worth getting suspended over, but if he swings first, you have the right to defend yourself.

plus you're giving him just what he wants, to agrivate you and get under your skin, do you really want to give him the ability to mess with you like that and have that power of knowing that he can push your buttons? fighting should be a last resort.

Answer 7

1st, the best fight is the 1 you didn't have. If all he does id talk, ignore him. If he attacks you, it's a different matter. If you want to learn how to protect yourself, find a good traditional school in your area & sign up.

Answer 8

Follow through with your strikes and keep your hands up. Aim for the ribs, kneecaps, neck/chin, eye. No one can guard all of them effectively at once. If he grabs you keep your hips away from him so he can't sucker throw you to the ground.

Most bullies rely on surprise low-risk sucker moves to win fights. Deny them these tools and force them to fight a fight where they will risk getting themselves damaged.

Answer 9

Learn to keep your self humble enough to keep from using harsh word to others.

Right Action,
Right Effort,
Right Speech,
Right Meditation,
Right Thought,
Right View,
Right Mindfulness,
Right Livelihood...

Answer 10

no school would allow u to learn unless u vow to not use it to fight but to defend. the reason u punch someone in martial arts is to show the attacker to stop attacking, not killing unless necessary. unless its a cheapo school, thats called a enemy attack school