I have a boyfriend and we've been going out for 3 and some years. I love him to bits and he loves me too, I truly want to spend the rest of my life. It's that soulmate feeling.
I come from a - i really dont want to sound snotty - but a well off family and he doesn't. He continually says that he wishes he could be with me forever but he cant because he won't be able to give me the nice things I'm used to having. It's like he feels guilty! He tells me all the time he wishes he could buy me nice things, and I could really care less about what he buys me.
I don't care about that at all! I love him to pieces yet I still can't get it through his head that I wouldn't care if we were dirt poor and living in a shack on the side of the road.
Do you have any advice on how I can convince him, it feels like I've tried everything and I'm starting to get scared that he actually may just not want to be together anymore.
2007-01-14 05:32:09 · 6 answers · asked by Kipper to the CUP! 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Talk to him and tell him how you are feeling reassure him you love him for him not his money or lack there of it. I would hope that if he really didn't want to be with you he would tell you and not beat around the bush! Money does not make people happy.
2007-01-14 05:38:38 · answer #1 · answered by chemky1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to sound harsh, but -- do you really know what sort of financial situation you would be getting into? Someone who has not been dirt poor doesn't know what it is like to have no money. Also, why is it up to him to be the only one responsible for finances? Don't you have a job? And if you are not old enough to have a job or a career, than this whole converstion is somewhat premature. I think that if you were both independent adults, this wouldn't be an issue. I have a feeling that you are both too young and immature to be contemplating any sort of permanent connection.
If this is true love, it will stand the test of time, and will grow stronger with shared hard work. If you are both very young, your guy may be enjoying the relationship but may not be ready for any longterm commitment.
2007-01-14 13:53:21 · answer #2 · answered by louel53 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that's complicated. Because love has to hold up. No matter how much you love someone that can change when you bring in the influence of money and politics and what not. Right now money is just not a true variable in your relationship. It's the simple gestures that count. A date to mcdonalds is still a date. It's the feelings and sparks that count- not the money. Just remember that if you all move in together and really try to make it work.
2007-01-14 14:01:29 · answer #3 · answered by maddi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no magic formula if you have tried every thing you can think of and; he still tells you about wanting to buy you nice things and he can't as a result of pecuniary situation.
All you can do is your best at the end of the day in trying to get your point across that you love him despite his pecuniary situation etc. At the same time money makes things happen and you can't get around that.
2007-01-14 13:52:35 · answer #4 · answered by Premio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gurl...i think he is right!!... he probably things tht there could be a lot of problems bcoz of money n stuff... why dont u ask him to get a better job or something work things out first n then think of a marriage or somethin coz....i knw of this couple who went seperate ways just after 2 yrs of marriage because of money related probs....may be u guys are not tht shallow....but dont let things come between u guys....it's wonderful to have the one u love with u all the time.... but its really hard wen things dont work out...marriage is a big deal...babe.... think before u take any decision....good luck!!
2007-01-14 14:01:45 · answer #5 · answered by akshi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
prove it to him by your actions....make sure that you are not continuing to take advantage of the money your family has while telling him it's not important to you......good luck
2007-01-14 13:37:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋