Have you ever felt life is meaningless?

Question

there are so many things going on in your life
-you cant turn to your family as they themselves are already fcuk up
-two faced friends
-lousy bosses at work
-got attacked by a friend you trusted

i Look happy outside but inside i feel like a spinning wheel . feel like committing suicide but have no guts to do it coz feel like there is still hope?
how do i get out this whole ordeal. no doctor please.
i dont want people to think i am crazy .

what can i do to forget all this mess that i'm in

Answer 1

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I know exactly what you mean you have all these places to go but no where to turn. you feel like it all is slipping away. it gets really tiring trying to act like your happy when your not, but nothing you do seems to help it, I was just going threw that myself and I knew that things were getting bad, i myself went to the doctor and he has now put me on Lexapro and it seems to work, I am also starting to see a counselor.;

I have realized that no matter how hard you try to forget things they will always be there to come back at a time when you least expect it, instead of trying to forget about it try and understand it then accept it then move on. i know that it is harder than it sounds. but it works,
sit back and think of thing that you used to do that really made you happy and do it again.

stop worrying about the family and friends so much, if the friend are 2 faced then they shouldn't be friend to you. it is all things that you need to forgive but you well never forget,

the thing that i go by is if you cant change it directly then don't worry about it.

I wish you luck!!

Answer 2

>> Have you ever felt life is meaningless?
Yes, constantly.

>> there are so many things going on in your life
Life is what happens when you're making plans. - Lennon
(or something like that)

>> -you cant turn to your family as they themselves are already fcuk up
Half my family I ignore, the better half ...

>> -two faced friends
Don't sound like friends to me. See below.
>> -lousy bosses at work
I could easily say "change jobs", but knowing job changes
can be a bit tough to do on the fly.
Learn the care and feeding of these people without being a
total kiss a$$. Try not to be the center of their ills.
Things might get a bit more tolerable.

>> -got attacked by a friend you trusted
Whew. Tough one. I may leave this to others in the forum.

>> i Look happy outside but inside i feel like a spinning wheel .
feel like committing suicide but have no guts to do it coz feel
like there is still hope?
how do i get out this whole ordeal. no doctor please.
i dont want people to think i am crazy .
what can i do to forget all this mess that i'm in

>>

I'm no fan of happy pills, although others may think differently.
I would take a social inventory of your situation.
Surrounding yourself with positive people through church,
night school, volunteering, just plain getting out every so often.
Do sometime nice for yourself (the Loreal woman:
you're worth it!)

Short of the Dr., just being able to talk to someone and get
this off your chest helps.

Just talking with us shows you have ownership of your
problems rather than blaming others; this will greatly help you.

Answer 3

Your not crazy, you just need to get all of the bad out of your life and try to focus on the good things. First of all, if I were you I would begin making new friends, don't tell these people anything regarding your personal life there is no need for them to know anything about you and your life until you are sure that you can trust them, and this may take awhile due to the fact that it really is hard to find that true friend, but I promise you, that he or she is out there you just haven't met them yet. I guess the answer to this question is you make out of life what you want from it, If I were you I would get rid of all the bad in my life, the so called friends that you thought you could trust, get rid of them, look for a better job, A job where your boss respect you and your work, Just get away from all of the negative things that is in your life at this time and focus on all of the positive things. If you feel that you have no positive in your life then you must create a stable and positive atmosphere that you are surrounded by at all times.
Look for a bright,happy and peaceful life and if this means leaving your family behind then do it, just until you have all of the mess behind you and you know that you are strong enough in your new life that no one will be able to bring you down to their level again,
If you are not happy with yourself then you can't be happy with anyone else, so go for any dreams that you may have and never give up, if you do this, I promise you that you will not only be happy on the outside you will also be happy on the inside and this is the greatest feeling of all . The feeling of accomplishment!!
And leaving all of the negative mess behind you! Remember! you do not need a Doctor you just need the hope, and the will power to make your life worth while and to make you A happy and positive person, A person with trusting friends, loving family and A job where you are respected and your work is appreciated!! YOU CAN DO IT!! I have faith in you. Have faith in yourself and nothing will ever stand in your way!!

Answer 4

WOW......this ? really hits home for me especially Robins answer.............I have experienced everything you spoke of in cluding the friend issue but in retrospect he wasn't really my friend. The writing was on the wall but i couldn't read it. It took me losing my job,cars,house........almost my mind before i was able to see the light at the end of the tunnel.................I'm very stubborn and full of pride. A serious character fault when you are trying to deal with these issues. Although you shun a doctor this is the direction you must travel....................At least seek professional counseling the education that you will gain from the knowledge and expertise of the "right" person(s) ( sometimes it takes a couple different people before you find the one that "clicks") BE PATIENT..........most of all be REALISTIC more than likely this didn't happen overnight and it won't be fixed that quickly either. OH YEAH Robin I'm finally taking LEXAPRO ( tried it thought i could just drop it .....wrong 1 year later......on schedule and feeling much better) Soooooooooo before you suffer any longer You've already taken a big step by realizing there is a "problem" and there is help.....PLEASE FEEL FREE to e-mail me also if you feel so inclined..........extended to anyone who feels this way would love to hear from some "potential positive friends"..........LIFE IS GOOD AS LONG AS YOUR LIVING
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Answer 5

I think this is the most common question I get from people under 20. No, YOU ARE NOT CRAZY. The purpose for your life is what you will need to find. Start with looking at anyone you bring a smile to. You may have a skill that is natural in you to make life more easily dealt with. I found that raising my sister (8 1/2 years younger) kept me going. The fact that you look happy on the outside means you are a step ahead of me and I have many years on me and come from a family of people where self-destruct was the norm.

Answer 6

I have felt the same feelings as you. First you must immediately make an appointment with a PSYCHIATRIST. Seeing a Psychologist with not help at first. You have major depressed. A Psychiatrist will prescribe you an anti-depressant. With that medication and psychotherapy you will be on the road of happiness. Now do the right thing for yourself make that appointment tomorrow. When you call make sure you tell them your feelings this very moment. You CAN do this. Be proud of the strength you have at this moment to even ask others for suggestions. Call the "suicide hotline" just to talk to someone today.

Answer 7

Everything your experiencing is just life. Who hasn't had two faced friends, lousey bosses, and feelings of depression. Only you can help yourself. My mother always said if you can find just one true friend in your life time, consider yourself lucky. It's true, the only person you can depend on is yourself. We all have choices in life, its the choices we make for ourselves. What your going through is normal, we've all been there. Nothing last forever, the good times or the bad. Good times can't last forever, neither can the bad. Its just one big circle we go through. Its the ups and downs of life, just living. Life isn't a bowl of cherries, sad to say but it's not. Don't think of suicide, your to good for that. You have to tell yourself that your strong, that you can do anything. Just remember that there is always somebody worst off than you. Things might seem bleak now but I quarantee they won't last forever. Help yourself feel better, nobody can do it but you, be strong.

Answer 8

Slow down seems to come to mind I've heard meditation good but if "there are so many things going on in your life",are problems then what I do is resolve 1 problem a day no more in three weeks 20 sorted things sometimes cant be solved in a day but starting the ball rolling counts good luck

Answer 9

Please do not hurt yourself. You need to be around someone who will listen to you talk about what is going on. It is okay to admit to someone that things are not great. Most people have some kind of troubles they just hide them. You are not crazy if you do decide to talk to a psychologist, and you do not have to let anyone know you are seeing one. I used to think that you had to be crazy to see one until I needed one. I am not crazy I just went through some real tough times (still am), and going to a therapist was great. I had someone safe to talk to, someone who was not going to judge me or use it against me. They just listened and asked me questions that really helped me find out things about myself or see what I was doing that could be changed to help during the rough times. Maybe you should try it.

If not journal your thoughts, paint or draw, you need to let it out somehow. Dance, sing whatever you enjoy doing. If you have problems you really can not get rid of them until you face them and work on getting rid of them one by one. Be patient and work at your own pace, you will feel much better as you lift the weights off your shoulders. I wish I could help you! Stay away from family and friends that do not make you feel good, who do not support you and who are not there for you when you need them.

Answer 10

You know what helps? Helping others!! That's what gives life meaning. I used to feel the same way as you until I dedicated a year of my life to volunteer work. But you can't help others until you help yourself...you say you don't want to go to a doctor because you don't want people to think you are crazy. Well, it's confidential. No one needs to know. And if you are thinking of hurting yourself you need help. Find someone you can talk to!! There is nothing wrong with it. And remember as cliche as it sounds "this too shall pass."