I met a woman at the bar we chatted, she invited me back to her flat. we chatted had more wine and we kissed and cuddled,talked and fell asleep together
I never Had sex, because
We were both a little drunk, and i never take advantage of women in that situation i show respect, and we were on a sofa in her living room
I'm not that type of guy.I never have sex with women I have just met, i want to get to know them first, take her out many times get to know her as a person.I can wait many weeks/months before the moment is right.
in the morning i got her number and left.I sent her a txt message 3 days later,and she said i'll see u next week. i waited and phoned, but get a answering machine
Was she just after one thing that night
I would hate to wake up in the morning after meeting a woman, with her saying "I don't love you,I only wanted you for sex"
I would feel heartbroken, hurt,cheap and used. I don't know call me old fashioned. Did i do the right thing...
2007-01-14 05:30:00 · 40 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Damn, the world needs more guys like you, and less trash like this 'woman'.
I think you should just move on, find someone worth your respect. But if you ever end up having a one-nighter, don't get upset about it. Its not personal, some people just have commitment issues. Most women are looking for real love though, so just brush that dirt off your shoulder and move on sweetie.
2007-01-14 05:38:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course you did the right thing. Stick to your own principles and feel comfortable with your conscience. You'll enjoy your sex life so much more if you always associate it with love rather than just a cheap thrill. A good sex life must include respect, love and consideration for the person. Have you left her a message on the phone? Tell her you enjoyed her company and would really like to know her better. If she doesn't respond, forget her.
2007-01-14 06:58:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You not only did the right thing, you did the intelligent thing. However, this woman was probably not the one to appreciate it. From my point of view it looks like she was available for sex and wanted you to make the first clear move, and now she’s returned to look for a more aggressive (controlling) guy in that department. You offered the lady trust and respect and she didn’t have the wisdom to recognize it, or she’s foolish enough to reject those qualities.
Continue being yourself, it’s obvious that you love and respect women but I don’t think you’ll find your type sitting in a bar. Try looking where they are more likely to be.
2007-01-14 06:24:17 · answer #3 · answered by gugenheim84 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You certainly did!
Sounds like she's even regretting having you back at her flat, imagine if you two had sex, she might scream RAPE!!!
I think this lady is going through a difficult time or maybe it was just the alcohool.
But you definitely did the right thing and can walk with your head high.
Good for you.xxx
2007-01-14 05:41:47 · answer #4 · answered by Kc 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You were a gentleman and we need more like you. If she opted not to call you back then it is her loss. You sound like a good guy and maybe she isnt the one for you. You will find someone who will appreciate the goodness in you and that is the one you want to be with anyway. If this girl doesn't realize that-it's not your fault and if she plays games-who needs that. Life's too short--hang in there and keep looking. Dont let this change the good in you
2007-01-14 05:37:00 · answer #5 · answered by navigate33 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. You dont deserve a woman that is only after sex. You should not look for women in bars, because thats all you are going to get one night stands and women with emotional problems. Congratulations for having some moral fiber and dont lower your standards for nobody.
2007-01-14 05:36:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I don't think she was after anything, but sometimes we like for you to try and make a move on us, just so we have the chance to say no. But then you would be taking a chance that she wouldn't say no and you would have to follow through. Oh Oh. I think she is just a busy girl and you should keep trying to connect with her. Unless she meant next week in a week. Its hard to figure out want we mean.????????????????????
2007-01-14 05:38:35 · answer #7 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Mate,
You did what you thought was right. That is really important. I think most people take advantage.. it is admirable that you didn't.
Getting an answer machine once doesn't mean she isn't interested. Maybe she was out. Sounds like you got on really well. Probably worth another try.
Good luck.
2007-01-14 05:37:29 · answer #8 · answered by _MPK_ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES YES YES YES YES YES YES YES YES YES YES YES YES - You totally did do the right thing. It is so nice to hear from someone who CAN wait and CAN control themselves even if there is every opportunity.
If you truly do feel the way you described then surely you are glad you waited and found out that she would have only used you anyway before you did something you might have regretted!!!!
2007-01-14 05:38:37 · answer #9 · answered by 2160 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe you should accept that things got off on the wrong foot-she isn't answering or returning your call-that's a hint.
Make peace with it-chuck it up to a mistake and move on. Whether it was right or wrong only time will tell.
2007-01-14 05:37:39 · answer #10 · answered by singsong 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋