my boyfriend and i have been argueing alot recently so i have come to stay with my mum for the weekend. i am supposed to be staying here for the week to give space for me to decide weather i really want to be there but i have been a mess, can't eat or sleep and haven't stopped crying. do i go back tonight or stay away?
2007-01-14 04:50:44 · 13 answers · asked by TerriDowsett 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Either deal with the arguments or deal with the reason you are arguing...or both. You need to deal with this, not just hope it will all work out.
If you feel this bad, then you have strong feelings. Are they for him?...or for the relationship?
Speak to him on the phone and don't go back until you know that when you return it will be to properly discuss your relationship with him.
Good luck.
2007-01-14 04:58:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you told him that you were going to be there for a week, be there for a week. It is the only way you can ever reinforce that you mean what you say and say what you mean.
Look at what you have been arguing about and break it down into small chunks. Then discuss those small bite, size pieces instead of trying to shout and scream over everything at once! I know this is how we all row - I do it myself!
Take this time out to THINK. It is one week and when you look back on it, you may think 'That was the best time I ever invested...'. If you walk away, you have lost only a week. If you decide tgo stay, then you need to chat about where you are both heading.
Besta Luck Honey.
2007-01-14 05:01:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't go back yet. By changing your plans and going back home you have admitted to your boyfriend that he is in the right. Absense makes the heart grow fonder. Spend this time thinking about whether or not it still makes you happy being with your boyfriend. If not then be strong & finish it. You'll be happier in the long run.
2007-01-14 05:05:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you want to handle this like a strong indipendet woman?
than stay away.
thats the only way men learn. otherwise he will not take you seriously the next time
i know its hard now, but it will be much better when your staying strong
2007-01-14 05:10:30 · answer #4 · answered by andi m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh darling you sound in a state!!!! you should stay with your mom while your feeling like this!!! it took you guts to go and stay with her, so stick it out a little longer!!! are the arguments that bad!!!
you either have to split or sort what you are arguing about out!!! good luck its not nice to feel miserable...
2007-01-14 05:10:42 · answer #5 · answered by annie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay away.
if you are in that much of a mess you need more time away from him.
if you are arguing alot then maybe you should split up for good.
2007-01-14 04:56:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away
2007-01-14 04:55:11 · answer #7 · answered by ROMFT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay away for a bit longer you sound very stressed your mum can see the way you are talk to her it might help
2007-01-14 05:28:34 · answer #8 · answered by mt1uk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's tuff to start with, you stay away hun, clear your head, then you will be able to make better decisions!.....besides "absence makes the heart grow fonder" as my dad always says to me!
2007-01-14 06:47:33 · answer #9 · answered by Just passing the time! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you argue now you will argue for ever, do you want that??
2007-01-14 04:55:00 · answer #10 · answered by freestreet87 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋