She always stands up for her broke *** son and gives him money. When her daughter is the one that takes care of her and pays her bills,takes her to appointments,etc. Things she can't do anymore she does. But whenever she complains to her about all the bad he's been doing, all my grandma does is nothing. But her son can complain about anything and she'll yell at her daughter and grandkids for nothing! So how should i tell her that she's being used by her son, because he's stealing from her and geting paid for basicly sleeping on his butt all day!
2007-01-14 04:26:53 · 9 answers · asked by spirit22poet 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Time for some tough love,,,,, tell her that you are sick or on vacation or car in shop or what ever just tell her no can do for her for 2 weeks. that should be enough time for her to see her son for what he is and you for the nice one you are, maybe 3 weeks would really put a dapper on them. how about 4 , stop doing for her so much make him take up the slack, she needs to wake up and see him for what he is. this will be hard for you but stick to your guns and do not give in to her whiny when she calls cause she will. better yet let the machine pick up her calls after all you are sick and turn off the ringer to get some sleep, or what ever.
get backup from husband and kids for this to work and go for it.
2007-01-14 05:00:39 · answer #1 · answered by picture 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that people like your Grandma who sit back and let people abuse them and take their frustration out on others are blind and truly oblivious to their surroundings. I don't think telling her off would do any good. In fact that just adds more fuel to the already open flame. Now if you want a bonfire, go ahead and tell Grandma how you feel. But you should wait and let her get to the point where she, grandma, is tired of her son. If everybody else arounds her walks away from her she'll be forced to see the light.She has to open her own eyes, you can't force them open for her.
2007-01-14 04:40:24 · answer #2 · answered by Nique T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth but dont use any bad language try to make her see the light and hopefully she will understand that youre only telling herbthis because you care about her.
2007-01-14 05:02:35 · answer #3 · answered by ~Stephie~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all let me say dont say something that you are going to regret i lost my grandma almost 2 years ago and theres a lot that i regret but yes you should say something of how you feel just dont be too hard on her she sounds like my grandma in a way
so good luck and remember you never know whats going to happen
2007-01-14 05:00:48 · answer #4 · answered by advise_gal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't tell her off. the more you complain to her about her son, the more she is going to stick up for him. if, she wants to be abused by him, that's her business; but, your mom should not take her mother's abuse if she realizes what her mom is doing. your mom is being an enabler to her mother, just like your grandmother is being an enabler to her son. the only difference is your mom realizes what is happening to herself. it's time for your mom to re-evaluate the situation, and make decisions on how much she wants to be abused by her mom. if she wants to put up with this abuse, she is no better than your grandma is with her son.
2007-01-14 04:50:27 · answer #5 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
o know how frustrating this can be. but to be honest with its not your place to say anything to her. if her daughter is not sticking up for her self then this is her own fault. if you go yelling at your grams all your going to do is rock the boat. i think if you want to do anything at all, talk to her daughter tell her that she needs to put an end to this.or have another one of your grams kids talk to her. this is not your place sorry.
2007-01-14 04:46:07 · answer #6 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Granny, it is time that uncle should live on his feet. have you ever thought of how would his life be without your financial support? You won't want him to be a beggar in future do u?
2007-01-14 04:56:16 · answer #7 · answered by Joanne k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to tell her off, you need to stop doing for her and wish her good luck. Also, keep your kids away.
2007-01-14 04:37:58 · answer #8 · answered by Know what you mean 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SOUNDS LIKE MY GRANDMOTHER DO WHAT MY MOTHER DID JUST TELL HER LIKE IT IS
2007-01-14 04:37:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋