me and my gf have a problem. we are wanting to be together more than anything but their are majob problems. she is the sole income for her aunt and shes tired of supporting her aunt but shes a good person and wont leave her to rot (sorta speak) she is a person that is a pleaser and likes to please everyone. her job is causing her alot of trouble and so much stress but she cant leave because of what i said before. and she is on the verge of a nervous break down and im just about long side her. please i need help what do i do. do i go get her and take her with me to my place to live, do i ask her to do it, do i go live with her, im just so confused i need help. please help me. i want to be with her and she wants to be with me and i want her to be happy more than anything and i want us to be together. help us please
2007-01-14 04:17:00 · 12 answers · asked by lxahlers 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-01-14 04:28:33 · update #1
Personally I would just ask her to live with you. She needs to stop supporting her aunt, it is obviously a nice thing to do..just really detrimental to your girls health. Assure her that there are government programs that can help her aunt if she can not work..If she is capable of work than that is sad to take advantage of her niece like that. Just reassure her that she deserves a life too.
2007-01-14 04:22:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the aunt loves her, the aunt will realize that she needs a life with you. There is low income housing and disability for people like her aunt. Help her get her aunt situated so the two of you can have a life together. If the aunt gets ugly about the situation then she is just using her. Be strong with the aunt and let her know that it is time for her niece to have a life.
2007-01-14 04:25:19 · answer #2 · answered by Jeancommunicates 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ooo dear what a pickle?! is her aunt incapable of working? if she isnt then maybe you should have a word with her and say how much pressure and stress it is causing you girlfriend..
if your girlfriend is a pleaser she wont want to make her aunt do anything that would upset things the way they are.. so asking her to move in with you is a no no.. moving in with them would solve a few problems money wise.. but would that make you truly happy?
can her aunt live with anyone else? it is unfair of her aunt to expect your girlfriend to provide for her..
your girlfriend should begin looking for another job that she thinks she might like :)
i hope it all works out ok for you both.. x
2007-01-14 04:24:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
calm down!!!!!!!!!!! If she moves in with you can she still afford to help her Aunt.? Is her Aunt working or is there a reason she can't ?? You should keep your place . Don't move in with her if she wants to leave . You guys should probably try your place and see how that goes. Find a positive outlet. Tell her to start looking for another job if she wants to change that also>
good luck!!
2007-01-14 04:24:49 · answer #4 · answered by Zakia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough one. Your girlfriend's aunt needs to consider her feelings. I know that the aunt is in her comfort zone by having your GF pay bills and take care of her, but she needs to come to the realization that your GF has a life too. Your GF should consider finding a full time nurse (I am assuming the aunt is sick) to take care of her. Are there other family members that can help pitch in to pay for home health care? I know your GF loves her aunt, but it should not fall entirely on her shoulders. Good luck to you both!
2007-01-14 04:27:26 · answer #5 · answered by miyazaki75 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is living with the aunt or the aunt is living with her, why not move in with her and the aunt and you can give her support and help her out emotionally.
2007-01-14 04:22:30 · answer #6 · answered by Lace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move someplace with ample room for all three of you. With your income included to support the household, your girlfriend can find a different, better job and everyone wins.
2007-01-14 04:24:50 · answer #7 · answered by lisateric 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
THE BEST THINK YOU CAN DO IS TALK TO HER ABOUT IT! YOU ARE A TEAM NOW AND YOU SHOULD DEAL WITH YOUR PROBLEMS TOGETHER. DISCUSS ALL THE PROS AND CONS ABOUT THE SITUATION AND BOTH FIND THE BEST OPTION FOR YOU TOO- WHERE SHE'S HAPPY, SHE KEEPS ON HELPING HER AUNT, BUT WHERE YOU ARE ALSO HAPPY.
2007-01-14 04:25:02 · answer #8 · answered by Stella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, of course you can go and live together. Nowadays homosexual relationships are totally legal and accepted in society. No-one will ever judge you for what you choose in life as long as you don't hurt anyone.
2007-01-14 04:24:23 · answer #9 · answered by iDontKnowWhatToDo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST OF ALL LOOKING AT HER SITUATION, SHE NEEDS A BREAK FROM EVERYTHING, I.E. JOB, FAMILY AND SHE NEEDS SOME TIME ALONE, BUT SHE ALSO NEEDS SUPPORT, I RECOMMEND THAT YOU MOVE HER INTO UR HOME OR U MOVE IN WITH HER
EITHER OR WOULD BE FINE, BUT MAKE SURE U REMAIN SUPPORTIVE THRU OUT THIS MATTER, SHE NEEDS YOU.....
2007-01-14 04:22:28 · answer #10 · answered by Beautiful_1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋