It's the opposite ladies, for some reason I have no problem attracting ladies and doing well you know...LOL, however, when we hit it off and the fireworks get to sparking. I'll call back and they avoid me as if I was just a one night stand. I'm not looking for a relationship neither ladies. I just want to be lovemaking buddies(politcally correct for saying...well you know.LOL... Don't want a violation e-mail or question removed.) Yes, I'm greedy, I want more, I like to come back for seconds, and thirds even. However, they never want to come back for more like I do. Females, why is it that a one night stand is better than sex partners for you ladies? Especially when we are both upfront about no relationship, just sex partners not just a one night stand?
2007-01-14 04:00:39 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe you aren't that good
2007-01-14 04:03:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Knowing nothing about you, I would say that if the women are willing for the one night and don't come back for more, there maybe something wrong with your technique or your personality.
The only guy I knew that had this problem was really big (I don't go in for guys that are much larger than me), a bit pushy, and so ugly he was kind of handsome. Women friends who spent time alone with him could enjoy the 1 night of it, but the idea of getting involved was intimidating - and then he would get so cranky about why women wouldn't hang out with him that even the friendship died.
Having said that, he only had trouble on the east coast - on the west coast he had no trouble with women at all. He had a great personality - everyone wanted to be his friend, and I think all the women considered dating him or even just maintaining a sexual relationship, but in the end it seemed like it would be too hard or end with a hurt friend and it just wasn't worth it.
There are some great books out there about relationships and how to turn a lover on. Maybe something like that is all you need - or maybe some visualization and intention work. Take a 3-5 minutes to sit quietly and envision yourself in your mind. Get a clear strong picture of you and other women. See yourself with just one, a couple or a whole room full of women eager to have your attention. Feel the peace and confidence of knowing you can have any woman you want, and any kind of relationship that you want. Any time you hear yourself have a negative thought (like "Oh she won't call, they never do") gently stop the thought and say "No, I am more popular everyday - women love to spend time with me." The more often you can do these things the better it will work. I find that in this life we attract into our lives that which we dwell upon in our hearts and in our minds. These exercises can help you dwell upon what you want.
Peace!
2007-01-14 04:17:54 · answer #2 · answered by carole 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These guys are right. You are probably not very good, and the women do not want to put themselves thru that again. By avoiding you they never have to come out and say it, and you get to go on with your life believing whatever you want... such as, they just aren't in to having a "buddy". You might want to buy a book on kama sutra, or on basic lovemaking. One thing of note is that foreplay is very important. Happy reading, and good luck with your future conquests.
2007-01-14 04:21:19 · answer #3 · answered by hunting wabbit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're both upfront about the 'no relationship' thing right? So what makes you think they owe you a second time. No relationship means theyowe you nothing. Take your one-night stand, and don't complain!
2007-01-14 04:10:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you have what it takes to get in the door, but you apparently need to improve your closing skills. You apparently disappoint the mark.
2007-01-14 04:06:34 · answer #5 · answered by Dane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you wasnt good to them the first time and they dont want 2nds and 3rds. I wish I had your problem. My cell phone rings and rings. At bad times to. So feel lucky they are not hounding you.
2007-01-14 04:05:11 · answer #6 · answered by Jack P 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You might try actually taking them out for dates instead of just to bed..
2007-01-14 04:06:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well buddy if you trit woman lioke that they will never sleep with you again . well they just dont wanna get pragnaant they prabally wats to merry you du . boy take my advice
p.s; start dating lol.
2007-01-14 04:06:15 · answer #8 · answered by cupitgirl100 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you sure it was good for them?
2007-01-14 04:07:09 · answer #9 · answered by blaak_grl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm... perhaps they were drunk, regretted it in the end and don't want to repeat it.
2007-01-14 04:05:13 · answer #10 · answered by Bella 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋