My boyfriend let me check his text messages one night and i was horrified to find texts from more tha 5 different girls. One was a picture of his ex girlfriend but was sent more than a year ago and the others were during our relationship but were fairly innocent. what should i do? i'm finding it hard to trust him!!!
2007-01-14 04:00:37 · 49 answers · asked by Darling_Bud 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If the texts were "fairly innocent" what's the problem?
Isn't he allowed to have female friends?
2007-01-14 04:03:45 · answer #1 · answered by mcfifi 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Give him some time and some trust. If you haven't found any evidence that he's cheating, trust him. Maybe he just has a lot of friends that are girls. I know it's hard, but a few innocent text messages are worth a broken relationship.
2007-01-14 04:04:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that he lets you read his text messages shows that he has nothing to hide. At least not in his book, and he's probably right.
If you're gonna make a big deal out of it, he's gonna think he needs to hide these messages from you, because he doesn't wanna upset you. Like you said: the messages were fairly innocent. So why make a big deal of it?
2007-01-14 04:05:50 · answer #3 · answered by pete_can_do 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they are fairly innocent like you say, then I wouldnt worry about it, plus he didnt think anything of letting you check his fone. Boys and girls alike can have friends of the opposite sex. My eldest daughter has been in a relationship for 2 years and they both txt the opposite sexed friends - no harm, until he starts to hide his fone and acting suspicious. one again like you said they were fairly innocent.
2007-01-14 04:06:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself (and be very honest with your answers) - do you have any male friends? Do you occasionaly make innocent jokes that may border on flirting; or openly flirt just for a laugh but know that it would never go any further?
If you answer even a very reluctant yes then there is your answer,... We are all just human and unless there is something more substantial then don't worry.
2007-01-14 04:11:35 · answer #5 · answered by H. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RED FLAG!
When is he finding time to exchange txts with all of these other women? How often is he txting you? Do you know the women who these txts are from? And do they know of you?
On the other hand, Unless he forgot, by allowing you to chk his phone, this might indicate that he felt he had nothing to hide.
I would be careful. sure, you dont own him, but at the same time, is your relationship with him supposed to be exclussive? Where do these other women fit into the pic?
Good LUck
2007-01-14 04:09:23 · answer #6 · answered by Mikez Bad Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do nothing. I have photos of me and my exes still - they represent stages of my life that I have no desire to forget.
Also, the majority of my friends (and therefore the majority senders of my texts) are male. We sign them 'love' 'hugs' etc and put kisses at the end of them (usually between 1 and 3) because we're close.
Thankfully my boyfriend is secure enough in our relationship to know that it means nothing.
If the texts your boyfriend had on there meant anything, I'm guessing he wouldn't actually have let you check his phone!
2007-01-14 04:05:45 · answer #7 · answered by Natalie B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is "fairly innocent" - either theyre innocent or they're not!!! If theyre not and you cant deal with it - move on.... if they ARE innocent - stay with him and learn to trust OR dump him and find someone who lives in a cave and doesnt see, speak to or have any contact with any other women. Your choice!
2007-01-14 04:07:46 · answer #8 · answered by *~_**_Jester_**_Girl_**_~* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you trust him before he let you check his text? please don't say that you did, because if you did then you would not have looked at his text. I'm sorry to me if you can not trust the person you are with then you should not be with them. but here is the thing about that, if you don't trust him because he has done something to make you not trust him, then so be it. but if he has done nothing wrong and you don't trust him then this is your own insecurities and you need to deal with them. because if you don't you will drive him away, and you will repeat this behavior with any man your with.
2007-01-14 04:07:38 · answer #9 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask yourself a) why he's kept the texts and b) why he let you look at them. If he has a need for this kind of attention (and instant gratfication) he needs to be open and honest about it so he can earn your trust. Personally I would be reconsidering my relationship with him.
2007-01-14 04:08:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋