I am 16 my friends think she is ugly as a duckling but I like her think she is cute Should I ask her out with risk of losing my crew? I am just totally confused right now!
2007-01-14 03:54:38 · 48 answers · asked by Joshua 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You shouldn't let your friends decide for you. If you like her then go for it. Peer pressure sucks and can really mess up something good for you.
2007-01-14 03:58:47 · answer #1 · answered by logan 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
If your "crew" are really your friends then they will support you on this. Yes, maybe they'll give you a hard time about it but if they dump you as a friend because of it....they weren't worth hanging with in the first place. Be your own man, make your own decisions and ask her out. You are living in a very small world right now being in high school. You should start being your own person right now. If the crew can't understand then so be it. Make new friends.
2007-01-14 04:00:59 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you like someone, it shouldn't matter what someone else thinks. If your "crew" are your friends, they will continue to be your friends. Chances are that once they get to know her, they will see what you see and like her too. Also, don't you know that the nerdy ones are usually the successful ones in their adult lives? Take a chance, watch the movie "A Walk to Remember". It is a prime example of exactly what you are talking about. You might even enjoy this "chick" flick. You and your girl are the only ones that matter in a relationship. Friends come and go. True friends are there no matter what. Don't let other people influence what you want or feel is right. I say go for it!
2007-01-14 04:03:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay u have nice friends. NOT what the hell? if ur friends can't exept a girl just because she isn't that good looking then they are the ones who are messed up and its their loss if they dont want to hang out with you. i also hate the term popular and nerdy. If u get to know her then u will realize their is no such thing as nerdy becuase deep down everyone is on the same level. I think u are absolutely amazing for liking this girl! Its a good thing to hear that there ARE guys out there for every girl, and if u want her then u should get her becuz there is obviously something interesting about her. Just try to befriend her first, becuase she might be a little freaked out if u ask her, she might think its a joke..sad but true. If u r popular then u must have some sort of people charm, so use it to ur power, be a gentlemen. i know it should be bros before hoes but when ur friends r being dipshits, u know where to turn to.
2007-01-14 04:02:54 · answer #4 · answered by kat 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey, please, go for it. Do you think this girl is worth it. Do it. Guys can't see that real beauty is in the inside. Maybe you are miles away from the inmaturity where your friends are right now.
What's wrong with that? Is she a human being? Is she smart? Does she have feelings? I bet she does, that's what matters, Go for her.
You are 16, there are too many things that you still will have to decide by your own, and your crew will not be around to help you decide, even your family. So, dont worry, be yourself, ask her out, see if it works, if not, you move on, you are very young and I m sure you are not as superficial as your friends are.
Be yourself,this girl has to have something special because you liked her,so do it, and dont regret for that.
I have a friend that did the samething. Now he is 29 and he is happily married, and their friends wish they could have found real love as he did.
So my advice is, if you like the girl, ask her out, and see if you feel happy being with her. And about your friends, if they are real friends, they are not going to leave you.
Blessings for you!!!
2007-01-14 04:35:25 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa Wang 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By all means ask her out. Keep it simple so it goes well because she's probably scared to death. Some of the biggest nerds are the best people, look at Bill Gates. If your crew can't handle it, they have the problem and you need a better crew. And most certainly don't go blabbing about what happened to your crew.
2007-01-14 04:02:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
What is this? "High School Musical"???
You teenagers are like that for real, huh? lol
Anyhow, you need to ask yourself 'who leads your life'? You? or your social situation?
I'm guessing you are in about what, 10th, 11th grade? High school comes and it goes like the wind. All these people who would 'stop hanging out with you' are superficial friends. This 'nerdy' girl, may have something to do with your future. You just may regret it if you choose to ignore your feelings today, when 3 years down the road from now, members of your high school crew are no where to be found.
2007-01-14 04:25:16 · answer #7 · answered by ebonii_cuteee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, this is a pretty big deal. Only looking deep inside will you find your answer.
Your crew doesn't support your thoughts as an individual.
I haven't forgotten about the difference in behavior and concerns for teens in school, compared to adults . . . this period in your life is intense and important, and acceptance from your friends is not something you can dismiss lightly. This may be a turning point of sorts, though, so check yourself: how important is it to you (deep down there) to keep up an image for the sake of group approval? What is it you want to see when you look back on your history with them there at school? Are you concerned over closing out people based on their appearance or social status because of the jeers of people who, while big, aren't completely grown up (mature) yet?
If you befriended/dated this girl and it fell apart, are your boys going to accept you back? That sort of thing (thinking & acting independently of the groups standards) may well occur repeatedly, especially if you're maturing at a faster rate than them.
While not given the acknowledgement as such, I think the social issues (bonding, interacting outside one's 'group) at high school are equally as important as the academics. In later life, the HOW and WHY something is done can even be more important than WHAT is done. There will be times when intent may matter much more. If you violate your conscience and don't do what you think is best for yourself, you set yourself up for future pain, as old habits may only die hard.
Wishing you clarity and guts as you weigh these concerns.
2007-01-14 04:53:09 · answer #8 · answered by Zeera 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lmao What a shallow fag, you are. Closeminded..but hey! You're on a roll. How about you drop the stupid labeling crap because there's no such thing as popular anymore. You dork. Screw your "crew". Show them that they're being ignorant. SHOW them, not fight about it. Have this annoying peachy mood about it, too. Then, Mr. Popular, go do somethign "cool" that will just WOW the whole high school, even the "goths" and "pot heads". (I seriously SERIOUSLY hope you still don't use the high school genres, although I have a huge 'vibe' about it)
By the way, research sub genres on teenage society.
You'll stop looking so closeminded/shallow/stupid.
Then you'll have something sharp and staright up to say to your "crew", who's probably closeminded, too.
Also.......don't think you're that great, even if you are.
Just that whole question make you look like an *** hole.
2007-01-14 04:02:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your crew will not be there in a few years and true love will.You must have feelings about her so go for it and dont let your crew insult your feelings. She might be the one and she might not but as you grow older you will always have regrets about not getting to know her.Good Luck and treat her with great respect,for her life will be effected in a good way or in a bad way according to how you treat her around your crew.
2007-01-14 04:03:32 · answer #10 · answered by ezrider 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Part of growing up is being mature enough to make your own decisions despite peer pressure. If you like this girl ask her out. Tell your crew there is more to her than what meets the eye. If they refuse to hang out with you then they aren't very nice are they?
2007-01-14 03:59:00 · answer #11 · answered by amazingly intelligent 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋