My half sister isn't that close to me. She told me last year that she was pregnant and I was very excited for her. 10 months later I get a blank card with the baby's picture on it, no message, no phone call. I don't seem to mean much even though I try to make every effort. I suppose it's because I had her father as I grew up and she didn't? I wish I could be friendly with her. Is this common with half siblings? Any suggestions to connect with her?
2007-01-14 03:36:15 · 10 answers · asked by salieri.mozart 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your sister took the time to mail a picture to you when I am sure she is exhausted. Why didn't you contact her in the last ten months? Do you love her and want her in your life? Eliminate the word half and use the word sister! Call her at least once a week. Or better yet, try visiting and offer to babysit. Ask if she wants to go to the park or somewhere else that the baby can be included. If all else fails, talk to her and tell her how you feel. I am very close to my siblings but we have had our ups and downs. I hope you can work things out.
2007-01-14 03:44:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think part of the relationship depends on when you and this sibling became aware of each other and how your living situation was growing up. I have a half sibling, my sister and I have different fathers. Although my sister seventeen years older than me and is substantially different looking, we have an increadibly close bond. If you and your half sibling were raised in separate households that could be part of the reason why the relationship is the way that it is. Maybe she doesn't have a close relationship with her father and therefor she doesnt really see the need to have a close relationship with her father's new family. This kind of thing is very typical when the father has had two children by two different women becasue children ususally end up being with their mothers when parents break up. She probably only got to visit with you and your family rather than actually living in with you. Talk to her about it, ask her how she really feels.
2007-01-14 03:57:32 · answer #2 · answered by Nikki7012 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two of my sibling are half siblings. We actually grew up in the same house. We are as close as if we actually shared both the same parents. I guess it's common for those half siblings that didn't grow up in the same house hold to not get along as well as those who share the same parents and live together. It's odd that there was no message, but at least she thought enough about you to send you a picture of your niece or nephew. I think the child will connect you all if you want to be a part of you niece or nephew's life.
2007-01-14 03:44:20 · answer #3 · answered by Nessy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is common when the amount of attention from the parent is not balanced. Children especially need to feel special.
Try reaching out to her. Ask her to talk about it. Apologize (that just helps even if you did nothing wrong. Your mere existence to her was a problem) and remind her that it was not your fault and you wish things could have been different but you would love to move past that now as you plan for a happier future.
2007-01-14 03:39:28 · answer #4 · answered by pretty_brown_eyes 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What did you do during the pregnancy? Did you phone? Visit? Ask about a baby shower? To make friends, show yourself friendly. Call her up and tell her the baby is beautiful! Tell her you would like to visit and bring the baby a gift. A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step! Good luck.
2007-01-14 03:48:01 · answer #5 · answered by amazingly intelligent 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not relatively considering the fact that I'm such a lot more youthful than my siblings. However, I do envy the closeness that they percentage. We have one-of-a-kind fathers so that's a bond that they are going to continuously percentage with one one more. But on the finish of the day, I love them simply the equal. They are the one brother and sister I've ever recognized. Best needs!
2016-09-07 22:50:48 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have half brothers and sisters, that they only siblings that I do have...sometimes its hard, but you have to remember you have at least 1 parent thats both of yours and you have to sit down and talk things threw. Just because you may not be full siblings you are family and always will be. So your best bet is for you two to sit down and square away your problems.
2007-01-14 03:44:30 · answer #7 · answered by stephanie w 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
call her, go see her, take baby a present, tell her you like her and would like to spend some time with her as no do look on her as a sister, say you are sorry for anything you might have said or did over the years. make the first move and then the ball is in her court ...
2007-01-14 03:55:15 · answer #8 · answered by picture 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
exct same situation here too.I try but I think they feel jealous cause we had the dad they didnt.Also my father spoiled me in good ways and I think they felt cheated.Now we are older adn my one 1/2 sister talks to me the other wont...Its not our fault but they are angry in a way not really at us but at our dads.Keep trying like I do and if nothing happens just except the fact you wont be close and move on.I had too
2007-01-14 03:40:27 · answer #9 · answered by karen e 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have more in common with my half siblings than my real siblings
2007-01-14 05:42:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋