I've been talking to this guy (he lives on Long Island, NY) and I live in Erie, PA. He's really sweet and we're in a relationship. We've been talking on the phone and communicating online since Dec. 22nd. First he said he'd be able to visit me in Feb. Now his parents wanna go skiing, so he said March. (He said March like yesterday or the day before). Today, he says he can't come visit until May or June. (I can't drive due to my severe vision impairment and he knows this.) If I could, I'd go to him and visit.
What should I do??
He's almost 20 *in Feb. and I'm 24.)
2007-01-14 03:33:16 · 10 answers · asked by ? 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He can go bowling, to work, and to the movies, but he can't visit me ever???
2007-01-14 03:44:59 · update #1
OH YEA......He went to Italy from Jan. 3rd the 10th with his college.....Before that.He used to call me around 9 or 10 PM....or he'd text me earlier in the day saying he'd call later. He hasn't called since he got back from Italy. I've heard from him through texts...and that's all. What's up??????
2007-01-14 04:27:17 · update #2
i hqve almost the same problem , but im the guy in my story, best thing is to find some one closer, and forget this guy , maybe you guys could stay friends, my online gf is in nc, ill probally never see her , she too has rp, whish is a vision impairment and sshe cant drive
2007-01-14 03:39:25 · answer #1 · answered by chuck s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Online relationships are a very risky business. It's about trust, and committment. That's the entire foundation of an online relationship. However, an online relationship demonstrates a higher sense of discipline and attachment. Don't listen to what other people say when they say it's sick or twisted or not-right; true love isn't measured in distance. It's measured in dedication.
However, the desire to be with each other in real life is always there and can't always be dealt with. It's a constant factor that, if you're committed enough, is only a minor inconvenience at most. But if you begin to exhibit massive frustration from this inconvenience, then it becomes the entire downfall of your relationship. The number one thing to do is decide whether or not you REALLY mind the distance between you and this guy. If you find yourself constantly complaining in your mind about how you never get to spend any real time with him, then he's probably not the one for you. If you can jump past that and realize that there's a deeper connection than just friendship, it's worth everything in the world to continue embracing that feeling.
I'm sorry; I know it probably sounds very confusing.
Simply put -- if you're angry about not being with him in real life, find yourself a closer boyfriend. If you can overcome that anger, then you've got one of the most admirable relationships in the world. You will eventually find a chance to meet him in real life; it's bound to happen. Patience is the key. And it's not gonna tell you how long you'll have to wait; you just have to have faith that it will all go as planned. Hope that answers your question.
2007-01-14 03:46:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him come visit you! Don't worry so much .Just enjoy the conversation and get to know more about this person. if this continues then maybe he won't be coming.Try not to think about that right now it has only been a couple of weeks right?????
2007-01-14 03:40:08 · answer #3 · answered by Zakia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he keeps putting it off. Knowing someone for less then a month isn't enough time to get to know them before you meet. Be careful. Why not, just keep being friends and see what happens. when the time is right to meet, you both will know it.
2007-01-14 03:38:56 · answer #4 · answered by Lace 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Q`s this early in this relationship? Comitt to being his friend and move on. Sounds like he`s saying this to keep you on the string. Thats controling and manulipative and I know i dont like to be treated that way.
2007-01-14 03:49:12 · answer #5 · answered by ezrider 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-07 03:36:00 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think this guy is a procastinator, he os 20 he is able to make his own decissions, he dosent have to go skiing with teh folks he can come to you i think he is nothing but a game player. maybe you should set a date soon and see if he comes if not then leave him, i would
2007-01-14 03:39:20 · answer #7 · answered by brown_eyedgurl22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you go with a bus or ask someone to drive for you.It sounds to me like he is making alot of excuses. personally i think long distance relationships are risky and a waste of time. with the info you gave in your question he sounds like he is avoiding you
2007-01-14 03:46:30 · answer #8 · answered by suspicious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is too young for you. The ways he keeps changing his dates show he is still childish. Leave him and look for a better guy who is older.
2007-01-14 03:37:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
he sounds childish and young. If he really wants to see you he will take the time and get his lazy butt up and come to see you.
2007-01-14 03:40:20 · answer #10 · answered by Mac H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋