Do I have the right to choose....?

Question

If I was to be pregnant, I have some questions about it. I'm only 16 so that might factor in a little.

--Can I choose who gets to be in the delivery room with me?
I don't want my mom or dad in there. I just want it to be my bofriend(the babies daddy).

--Can I choose the babies last name?
Like I want to know if *I* can choose whose last name the babies has. And if my parents will have *any* say in it what-so-ever.

My boyfriend is 19..however I turn 17 in June. And theres only like 2 years and so many months between us. So he can't be a sex offender can he?

Answer 1

Labor and delivery should be about what makes the mother to be more comfortable. Irritable mom's are less likely to be able to concentrate on the delivery.

I don't see any reason why you should not be able to choose who is to be in the room with you.

Also, you can put down any last name on the birth certificate forms that you want. I was 18 when I had my first, I gave him my fiance's last name.

Why do you not wish you have your parents in the room with you? Witnessing a birth of a child is a pretty amazing event. I suggest you think about who you want in there with you long and hard before you make a final decision. You can't take it back later on.

Answer 2

You have every right to choose who is in the delivery room with you. Doctors are still under oath to keep patient confidentiality when the patient is 16. You made the decision to have sex and get pregnant and it's your choice who is with you when it happens. You do get to choose the baby's last name. Just be careful not to give the baby the father's last name if you are not 100% sure that the father is going to marry you and take care of the two of you forever. It's hard on kids to have different last names than the one of the single parent they are with.

One other thing to look into. Is the father over 18? If so, your parents can take legal action against him for statutory rape. If convicted (which he would be if he has the baby with you) he will be listed as a sex offender for everyone to see. And it follows him throughout his life wherever he goes and when he applies for jobs.

Good luck with everything.

Answer 3

YOU can choose you is inthe rom with you and the baby will be born to [baby boy (your last name)] or [baby girl (your last name)]
example if your last name is johnson and you have a girl it'll be
baby girl Johnson
Then when it come time to fill out the paper work YOU (and maybe with the help of the father) get to pick the first and middle names of your child. But I would recomend that you give your child YOUR last name, unless you are married! You never know if your going to be with "the father" for ever, you may think so but sometimes it doesn't turn out that way the your child will be stuck with a deferent last name. Try explaning that on eto your kids and to everyone else. I gave my son his fathers last name and because we didn't have the same that name is was always hard whenever we'd go to the doctors and the secretary would always ask. If all works out between you and the father then you can always change his last name when the time comes.
Now when it comes to your parents, as a mother myself try to give them the benefit of the daught. cause they too gave birth to you and love you very much. They are there to help you and guide you to make the right decisions. Don't make any decisions that you'll regret in the future. I'm sure you love your parents too and want them in your life and the life of your baby, that said let you parents also enjoy the process of becoming grandparents.
My mom passed away a long time ago and I wish like crazy that she could see her grandkids and see me as a parent.
Best of luck!

Answer 4

He can be charged with Statutory Rape by the state or your parents, regardless if you press charges or not.

Your parents have no say over what you name your child. I suggest having the baby keep your last name-it will be difficult to change back if things don't work out with the father.

It is up to your doctor who can stay with you in the room. I doubt having the father around and not your parents will be a problem, but you may want your mother there when the time comes- it can be very frightening even if you are much older then you are now.

Good luck to you, I hope all goes well and the father does what he needs to do.

Answer 5

I agree with JHumpfrey. I think that if you EXCLUDE your parents, they may feel resentment toward you, your child and your boyfriend.

I also think that 16 is too young to be a parent, but the facts are what they are. If you have an Aunt, discuss this with her. She can help you make adult decisions that are beyond your current level of maturity. At 16 you don't see the things older people see, and you will make many decisions you could easily regret later on. AND DON'T LISTEN TO OTHER 16 YEAR OLD FRIENDS. They also don't have the needed maturity to make such big decisions.

Anyway, just be slow about what you decide, and make sure it's the right thing - not just for you or your baby, but for everyone else involved in this new family you might be starting. ;)

Answer 6

It is really refreshing to find young adults like yourself who are willing to take on such a liability as a child. Putting thot into how much you will need to provide for a baby shows maturity. Also, already considering that you will take care of the baby during the longs nites and losing sleep and having very little time for going out on Friday nites, again, shows maturity your part. Paying for clothing, food, formula, diapers, rent on an apt., utilities and groceries, car insurance, health insurance, etc. is quite a feat for one as young as yourself, but you are to be commended. I hope that you will be able to show other young women that you can do it right. Being a parent is a big job and we need more people who will show the rest that training a human being is the highest calling in the world. Too many foolish young people think that having a baby will give them love. But thats too big a job for a baby. Love your husband, care for your baby and he can be the President of the United States one day. :) [e-mail]

Answer 7

You do have the right to choose...But you are only 16 and pregnancy should not even be coming into play yet! You need a good education good job and a good husband..FIRST
And your parents can take legal action against him for statutory rape. If convicted which he would be if he has the baby with you he will be listed as a sex offender for everyone to see. And it follows him throughout his life wherever he goes!!! Think about it

Answer 8

As a patient in a hospital, you will definately have rights. Yes, you can choose who will be in the room with you. You will also be choosing your child's last name, it is yours afterall. I would advise you to let your parents, at least your mom, be involved!! Even if you don't think it's a good idea, it may be helpful to you and the child. Good Luck:)

Answer 9

He is an adult and you are a minir. He broke the law and he committed statuatory rape. Any 19 year old would know this so he obviously did not care. That is something you have to keep in mind.