If a guy spends more than $ 200 on a date, is the woman obligated to give him something in return? If not, why not? And how much money would the guy have to spend before the woman would owe him some?
2007-01-14 03:26:04 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
it depends on how much money you make....if your making over 100 thousand a year, $200 for dinner isnt much....but if you make $30,000 a year I say after 2 dates
2007-01-14 03:32:22 · answer #1 · answered by nicole 6 · 1⤊ 4⤋
First of all if you are willing to spend 200$ on a date then that was your choice...and that person must be very special so special that they shouldn't have to owe you anything. The man shouldn't spend that much money if he is going to want something in return...it's like being an indian giver you give and then it's like ok i want some back it's not right and the woman is not obliged to pay anything because the man asked her if money is that big of a problem maybe...you shouldn't be spending 200 dollars on a date
2007-01-14 11:30:21 · answer #2 · answered by Jenna 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Wow. This is a really good question. Well, I think if a man treats a woman then he should not expect money in return. But I do think that it would be fair if the woman starts splurging on him as well if she is able to. If she's not able to, he'll know this and should either 1) come to terms w/ the fact that either he's going to continue spending out of love/affection because he wants to w/o ever receiving the money in return. or 2) dump her if he can't deal with it.
2007-01-15 01:23:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The guy chooses to spend the money. The woman is not forcing him to do this, and she is NEVER obligated to do anything for him except be gracious and say thank you at the end of the night. Like the previous person said, if you are expecting something, then you need to go where you can pay for someone who does that for a living.
2007-01-14 11:35:19 · answer #4 · answered by Lil' Dog 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You can spend all the money you want, but a women is not obligated to do anything. The only thing that will make her give up is if she liked you or not. Unless she is a prostitute she won't care how much money you spend as long as she had a good time with you.
2007-01-14 12:38:34 · answer #5 · answered by Gina 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dating is complicated but not as complicated as you men make it seem. firstly the question is putting a spin on your morals - it seems like you are giving to get. that seems kind of what you americans term as - "sponging" or "scrubbing" and quite honestly, in my opinion, its not sexy. Firstly, why are you going to spend $200 on a date if its going to significantly dent your wallet. If this is a second or third date, you should only do so because you are a) interested in the person for more than one reason and b) not trying to pressure the woman for something in return. Honestly thats just being needy and selfish and I havent met anyone who really enjoys people like that. Take care that this isnt want is comming over in your attitude.
P.S, why are you spending so much money on a date anyway, picnic's in the park are still romantic, and going to watch a movie that she is interested in still says alot, especially if you can actually talk about it afterwards...
2007-01-14 11:36:19 · answer #6 · answered by purrrfix 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I had always thought $200 for one date was rather ostentatious and excessive. If a man had spent that much for one evening/day and at the end, expected a "thank you", I would have told him where to go and had gotten on with my life. I was never obligated to give him anything more than the privelege and pleasure of my company, nor was he. I never wanted him to overspend on me. Even now, in my marriage, my husband and I don't "owe" each other anything. We do for each other out of love and want. If my husband unloads the dishwasher for me, or I help him at the office, we do so because we want to. Because it makes our life better, which therefore makes us better people for us and for those with whom we come in contact.
As has been said, if you want to spend money on a woman for a cheap "thank you", try a prostitute.
2007-01-14 12:56:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She would never owe him anything regardless of how much he spends. Spending $200 on the date is his choice... but most women already know, before he has spent a dime, whether or not she wants to sleep with him.
2007-01-14 11:37:15 · answer #8 · answered by Scottee25 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you give a gift only expecting something in return, then its not a gift, rather a manipulative act. If you take a woman out because you want her company, then you're already getting something. If you have to manipulate someone into sex, then you aren't really experiencing true attraction. The trick is finding a mutual attraction.
2007-01-14 11:32:51 · answer #9 · answered by panwillow 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I think you know the answer to this. Unless we are speaking of a prostitute, she 'owes' you nothing. When you invite a lady out to share an evening and do not request that she go dutch, then you deserve nothing for your money. If you want more you will have to earn it with caring and respect, not cash.
2007-01-14 11:43:39 · answer #10 · answered by outdone 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if you make it a contract, better have all parties agree prior to commencement of activity just what is expected from each.
If you want a woman with a price list....I am sure you will find some in your town. If not, Vegas offers many options.
2007-01-14 11:30:09 · answer #11 · answered by silentnonrev 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋