My boyfriend &I have been dating for two years and have been living together for a year and a half. For like the first 6months we were together there were problems with his ex calling all the time..but she finally stopped. In the last 6 months however I have discovered that he has been talking 2 her on his cell. I asked him about it & he said they were "just talking as friends." THen a couple of months later I looked thru his phone & found text messages from her. He said that it was nothing.that she was up to her old tricks again of trying to get back w/ him but he told her2 leave him alone. Last week I looked n his phone & there were texts from her saying"I'm horny,come f*ck me" "Another week till I get to see u seems like forever"(he was planning a trip that next week) "I miss u and pwee" I confronted him and was leaving but he said he wasn't going to c her & it was nothing. So i stayed. Now i looked @ his phone &he's deleting messages, but while i was looking 1 came from her.
2007-01-14 03:19:09 · 20 answers · asked by countrygirl004 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The text that came from her said"well let me know". Let me know??? Like mayb they were planning to meet? I know he hasn't been able to go c her cuz we r together 24/7 literally. But I feel like he might if he had the chance. What should I do????!
2007-01-14 03:21:44 · update #1
Dump him. Been there, done that, and nothing good is going to come of it.
Why is he going to just LEAVE you for her if he feels that he can cheat on you and have BOTH of you? I know that it feels like you've wasted two years, but if I could take back all of those two year relationships that I had that were wasted on the wrong person, I would miss out on a lot of valuable lessons.
If you want revenge for him "holding back" the truth (or lying to you is what I'D call it), let her have him. He'll end up cheating on her, too.
2007-01-14 03:27:06 · answer #1 · answered by <3 The Pest <3 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
In my opinion, this is considered cheating. Even though she doesn't have a physical relationship with him, there seems to be an emotional relationship. That is half of what makes a relationship a relationship. If she was having a sexual relationship with him and there were no emotions involved, that would still be considered cheating. You should just confront her about it, 9 times out of ten this just came from boredom. Me and my boyfriend live together and have a very committed relationship and I chat online with guys all the time. I know that I will never meet them and just use it as a way to pass the time. Since you say that the e-mails are kinda serious you should make your own judgement. Never let anyone influence a decision like this. Love will have the answer. Good Luck!!
2016-05-24 00:17:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be hard but let him go there is a chance that he is still seeing her. Let him know that you don't appreciate him lieing to you and that all the text messaging and all is not appropiate he can't be friends with her and in a faithful relationship with you know there is no way. Tell him he needs to change his cell phone number and if she gets it again then your leaving, you and him can not have a good relationship and she is still talking to him in my eyes this is disrespect by him and her let him know that as well and that you demand some respect if he plans on being with you then she has to get outta the picture. When he leaves to go on this trip of his invite yourself to go with him and see his response this is very serious and do not put up with it at all, he either needs to leave her all cease all contact with her or your outta there. Guys are gonna get away with whatever you allow them to do. This must stop you have to put a stop to it either he loves you enough to leave her alone or he does not. GOOD LUCK!! If your tired of playing these games with him then you know what to do, he is hiding something.
2007-01-14 03:34:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him you want to take a break in the relationship. This will give him time to think about what he's done ( if he has done anything wrong...you haven't caught him in the act) It will also give you time to sit back and think about 2 things. 1 - if he has cheated is he worth taking back and trying to make the relationship work? 2- if he hasn't cheated, you need to relax a bit. Last but not least, this ex girlfriend needs to get out of the picture completely! It sounds likes she kinda mental.
2007-01-14 03:36:04 · answer #4 · answered by Bobbi L 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only way to really know is to talk to him about it. It sounds to me like you have the answer in front of you. They are talking and it seems like they were planning on seeing each other. He says it's nothing so why has he continued this relationship with her? I think it's time to either get the truth out of him and work things out or move on. If I found another message after this I'd definitely be gone.
2007-01-14 03:25:44 · answer #5 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
smh, its obvious you're getting played. i mean next to catching them have sex or a str8 out confession from your man this is the most solid proof you have. "another week til i get to see u...." its obvious he's visited her before. hell, if my lady said she was leaving i'd put my affair on hold for a while too. i mean, you'd hate to mess up you i.h.p.(in house puss). after being with someone for so long its hard to just leave. he is your man so you have to give him some benefit of the doubt. do to him the same thing that got me caught. send the girl a message from his phone, see how she responds. easy question to ask: when can i see you again? i miss you. her answer will tell you everything. yes i'm a guy telling you how to catch another guy cheating..snitch, naw..i just dont **** with guys. i love the ladies though
2007-01-14 03:30:04 · answer #6 · answered by king.8307 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I would not consider leaving him..I WOULD leave him.You obviously do not have trust in your relationship and without trust you do not have a relationship because trust is everything.If you don't think he is gonna get together with his ex you are sadly mistaken he will deinately get with her.Do yourself a favor and leave now and move on..Or stay and you will end up being THE OTHER WOMEN.
2007-01-14 03:31:33 · answer #7 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off - you are pretty sure he is cheating or you wouldn't be looking for all the signs, and it sounds as if there are plenty. Is this the way you want to go on living your life ? You are probably looking ahead to marriage and raising a family someday - is he going to be there when you need him. Doesn't sound like it. If you give him an ultimatum (you or her) be ready for the answer. Sounds as if you need to move on and find someone who is faithful.
2007-01-14 03:28:55 · answer #8 · answered by sweetpicker 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So you went behind his back to spy on him and you think this is a rational act for a couple?
If you can't trust the one you're with then you should get out of your relationship not because of him but yourself. If you can't trust someone, you don't need to be with them.
A relationship is one of trust and it's clear you don't have it. If I were him, I'd have dropped you when you looked at the messages the second time.
2007-01-14 03:30:37 · answer #9 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My man ex call every once in a while and he say he don't talk to her? you just have to know for sure if she not playing games to piss you off. He can alway change his number or trust his words but it sound alittle fishes to me. ask him alot of question you will catch him slipping.
Its up to you what you decide to do, make the righe choice.
2007-01-14 03:39:28 · answer #10 · answered by msredbonel1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋