Why is 20 to young?

Question

I'm 20yrs old and I've been thinking of having a baby (I'm married). Most people would call me crazy b/c of my age, but I love kids. I have a 3yr old sister that I basiclly raised and now I just want a baby of my own. Am I to young? Why?

Answer 1

If you are emotionally, physically, and financially ready, I don't see why it would be too young.

I had my 2nd child by the time I was 20. I am now 25 with 4 kids ages 6, 5, and 3 year old twins. Hubby and I have been together since I was 16. (Married for 4 years)

Also, half the stuff the person above listed, you don't even need. I never bought maternity clothes until my 3rd pregnancy. A regular toothbrush for brushing teeth is just fine, it's just trickier with that gag reflex in the beginning. There are ton's of ways to cut the cost of having a child.

Answer 2

I was 21 when I had my first daughter. I was married to a great man, had a great job and a degree, and I thought I was so set. The baby was born and we were so happy, I loved being a mother! All through her infancy I thought people were nuts for telling me that I should wait.

Then, as she got a little older, and the tantrums set in, and my husband and I had less and less and less time for just us I started to get it. I love my daughter. It is very hard when all of our friends just jump up for dinner and a movie like its nothing, or have a night out on the town without the ache in the pit of their stomach worrying about their children. I can't tell you how much I miss my freedom. Its almost like having parents yourself again, having to ask for time to go out and you have a baby-sitter set curfew that will last for at least 15 years.

Having children is wonderful, really. I think if you have a baby you won't regret it, but you will mourn your freedom. And in a few years you will look back and wonder what you were thinking. When you are 20, it sounds old. You feel like an adult-and you are. However, you still have sooooo much self exploration and growing to do. You have a lot of fun to have with your husband and road trips to take. You can never go back once that baby is born. I always tell people, "I don't regret my children, I just regret their timing!"

It is between you and your husband, good luck to you whatever you choose.

Answer 3

Your 20 and married, stated you have been basically raising your little sister so you know whats involved with a baby. No I say go for it. Just make sure before you do, that you are really sure. It is harder to go to college or continue education and work with a baby. Most 20 year olds want to party at 21 if your not into that then theres no problem. I got pregnant at 21, it was perfect for me. Do what your heart desires. Next time someone says your too young, tell them I have graduated from High School, gotten married and I am living with my husband on my own. No I am not too young...Too YOUNG is 14!

Answer 4

My mom was 18 when she had me and I am 24 and having my first. You will be youner when your child is younger so I think it is good to have kids earlier under one condition (you are financially stable). If you are already married then power to you. Most people are not getting married till later which is why most people are having kids later and most people establish their career first. Are you in college? If so finish that first because that is hard to go back and do but if you are not in college and not planning to go then go ahead and have the baby considering your husband can support you and the baby. You don't want your child to not have a fair shot in life because you didn't go to college and get a good job. Do that first, make money, then have baby is the smartest thing to do. But if you are financially set go for it now you are already married. I am not married and having a baby,

Answer 5

I am 20, and I found out 6 days before my 20th birthday that I was pregnant, I dont believe in being too young to have a baby, if you really want a baby then go for it! As long as your partner does too. If you love kids and you really want to be a mum, then why not! You would be surprised at how well your family and friends will actually take it! I thought mine would be really disappointed,a dn tell me that I was too young, but they didnt and now im just excited, its great. Good Luck x

Answer 6

20 is not to young. dont let people run your life for you. Saying that, I would say to make sure you are financially and emotionally ready for a baby. You sound to me like you are responsible and know what you want. I am only 21 and married also. We are trying for a baby so dont let others put you down! Good Luck and *Baby Dust*

Answer 7

At just three months; all prices in Canadian dollars:

Maternity clothes (to date): $450+ (many bought 2nd-hand)
Books on pregnancy: $100+ (ditto)
DHA supplements, pre-natal vitamins: c. $45/month
Humidifier (itchy skin): $50
Sonicare toothbrush (unable to brush for long w/out throwing up): $175
Overpriced non-teratogenic acne treatments: c. $75
More food (of the organic and healthy nature): more $
Parking and other transportation costs for medical visits: c. $60

That's a good reason for why.

Have you finished post-secondary education yet? That's another good reason. Motherhood should not be the province of the ill-educated.

I don't think twenty is unarguably too young in all cases, but there are some good reasons for waiting.

Answer 8

Nope! I was married at 19, and got pregnant the next month, and I had twins! Then got pregnant right away again, and am now 21, with 3 kids, under 18 months... And I am making it! As long as your married, go for it!

Answer 9

i was married when i was 18, and had a baby when i was 19, i'm having my 2nd now and i'm 23 will be 24. i'm still happily married. if you feel you are ready, then go for it. remember, 50 years ago, having only 2 kids at 23 meant you were behind.

Answer 10

Hi. It's good that you like kids but I think you are young and you have plenty of time to plan when to have child. Have you finished your education? I would advice you to study and work if you had a chance and later you can have kids.