If I knew the deceased and her husband (actually knew her husband a little longer) but did not know her parents (she was only 26) and I am going to bring a card to the funeral, how should I address it? Too All, to just the Husband? Should I get 2? I really want to let the Husband know that I am there for him if he ever needs anything! I have known him a long time and he is now left with a 2 year old little girl to raise alone. Any suggestions....
2007-01-14 03:15:11 · 9 answers · asked by havasufem 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Thanks for asking how she died because it is a good thing to make people aware of. It was anaphylactic shock! She took some cold and flu medicine and had a reaction and it killed her. She was also asmatic and with asmatics anaphylactic shock can be more common from what I have read. Thanks for asking and thank all of you for the condolences and great advice.
2007-01-14 06:00:00 · update #1
Get 2. Her parents have lost someone,too...although, a card won't... Well! It's the thought that counts. 2. Buy 3, just in case.
2007-01-14 03:20:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Send two. It is important to provide comfort to all who have experienced the loss. The one to the husband should be a little more personal and the one to the parents should incl;ude some comforting message as to what their daughter meant to you. I lost my sister over 12 years ago and my niece was 2 at the time also. My of my sister's friends still to this day call my parents on her birthday and send Christmas cards. Maybe you could the parents address from the husband and put them on your Christmas Card list. As I know from my parents, the loss of a child is a pain that will never go away so it's nice to know that people that shared in the loss are always there in remebering their loss.
2007-01-14 16:22:13 · answer #2 · answered by albert_noodles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send one to the husband, and one to the parents, it is the polite thing to do.. A short note in the parents card about how sorry you are, and who you are, should do, and put in the husbands card about how you are there to help.
I wouldn't take the card to the vistation or the funeral, there just isn't anyplace to put it, it might get lost.
In our community, we put a bit of cash in the card, not a lot, just what you can afford. Not everyone can afford flowers, and not everyone can get a potluck dish to the wake. Other people here on Answers had never heard of this. I got several $5, and one $50 from a cousin. She's not a flower person, and figured I would need the cash. She was right, I was very grateful
Sorry for you loss.
2007-01-14 11:27:18 · answer #3 · answered by riversconfluence 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Psycho with an addition of a follow-up (when all is quieted down -several weeks or so) perhaps a card or a phone call to
see how he is doing, if he needs any help, or just would like to talk.
It really makes a difference when all the hectic business and people seem to go on their own way.
Generally, the cards at the funeral home are given to the funeral assistants, they later are given to the relatives.
good luck
2007-01-14 11:28:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have not known people to bring sympathy cards to funerals. If you know their address I think mailing it would be better. And sending one to whichever you are comfortable with or sending one each to both her husband and parents is fine. Sorry for your loss.
2007-01-14 11:24:47 · answer #5 · answered by Nallo 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
personally i would give the card to the widower since you knew him, however if you wanted to get two you could...or you could get one and address it to "the family of (name of deceased)...also i suggest you be specific about ways in which you can "be there" for him....alot of people are uncomfortable asking for favors, but are likely to accept help when you offer something specific....
"would tomorrow be a good day for me to drop off some prepared meals for you?"
or
"would you like me to watch your daughter this weekend so you can have some time to take care of things?"
2007-01-14 13:35:34 · answer #6 · answered by SNAP! 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Address it to the husband since he's the closest kin. Write "Mr. John Doe and Family", that way he knows you mean everyone but he's the primary person.
Sorry for the loss.
2007-01-14 12:33:20 · answer #7 · answered by chefgrille 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
thats simple, one card, address it to the husband and his family in their time of bereavement.
Let me take this time to express my condolences to you and everyone else who is expirencing the loss of a friend. May God bestow his richess blessings upon you and give you peace in this your time of suffering.
2007-01-14 11:45:55 · answer #8 · answered by purrrfix 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you only get one I would adress it to "Her Loved Ones" That covers both Husband and family.
2007-01-14 12:58:59 · answer #9 · answered by damaris_troop9863 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋