this child is out of an affair and the father has been tryin to see the child and the mother keeps sayin she to young and is 10 months old now. The father has a wife and 2 other girls who would like to get to know their sister. Is it right that the father should have to take the mother to court?
2007-01-14 03:09:57 · 6 answers · asked by DeeAnn w 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The toddler is too young and it might be a harsh experience for the child to be separated from the mother right now. Take a slow route, spend some time with the child in mother's presence (if possible). In the meanwhile try to develop civilized relation with the mother.
2007-01-14 03:14:24 · answer #1 · answered by Vesna G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No..... It's not right but, that is the screwed up anger filled world that we live in... The two choose to be together... an adult decision, with adult consequences and decided to have and keep a child from that choice!!! Now, it's done... the child is born and "the ADULTS" can't be mature enough to do what is probably best for the child. Play Nice!!! The mother is probably angry the father did not leave his other family for her, he may have made promises he didn't mean or intend to keep... Or maybe they both should of realized that a relationship with all these complications shouldn't have been started in the first place.... Bottom line it's the child that should be "selflessly" focused on, cared for, and unconditionally loved by all that choose to be involved. An "innocent child" has a chance at a "happy life" if the adults can let go of their childish indifference, let go of anger and jealousy and do what is the only right thing ..... Let "their child" have a fair chance at normal life despite the parents selfish thoughts, ideas or actions...Just a thought... Peace.....
2007-01-14 11:30:29 · answer #2 · answered by Martini-69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a mothers desperation to keep her child by her side, but it doesn't make it right. If the father already has children he could probably be trusted with the baby, so why not let him have her, she is being rather selfish. I want my children to spend time with their father but not on overnight visits as I really cannot trust him. But if that is not an issue then she should let the father spend time with the child, she is being really unfair to everyone onvolved and the child will only resent her for not giving them the opportunity to get to know their whole family. I feel as a single mother that my children have the right to know their whole family even if members of teh family are not ideal, it's my responsibility to give them that in a protected environment so they do not grow up resenting me or their other family. I believe it is every parents responsibility. But I do agree that 10months is too young to be seperated from mum, it would cause the baby distress.
2007-01-14 11:18:53 · answer #3 · answered by cheeky_lil_pixiegirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The father should have the right to see his daughter. Certainly 10 months old is old enough to go for a visit. I think you may end up having to go to court over this. It sounds like the wife is just trying to forget the other man exists. Good luck with the visitation.
2007-01-14 11:21:51 · answer #4 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
10 months old is still a BABY, and the biological mother has every reason to keep HER baby with her at such a young age!
Sure that dad, step mom, and 2 little girls want to know their sister-- so arrange to meet baby with its mom! Later, when the child is school age, is another story--now the child is a BABY!!! Babies belong with their mothers!!!
Another thing: Is the baby the only member of the biological mom's family right now? If so, think about that the father has a whole other family--what does the mother have?
2007-01-14 11:18:27 · answer #5 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
the mother of the child does not trust the father and his family... small wonder that there would be trust issues in this group of people.
find a mediator who can help them voice their concerns and resolve this. lawyers and courts will only raise the amount of bitterness and mistrust among them.
is the father contributing fairly to the support of this child? is he doing it willingly? if not, he should do so immediately -- that will also help to build trust
2007-01-14 11:18:03 · answer #6 · answered by snickersmommie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋