How can I make him REALLY happy without having full on sex? Anything I can do or say?
2007-01-14 03:09:23 · 15 answers · asked by Swim+Cheerleading RULE! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do together what he likes and try to make him like what you like too.
2007-01-14 03:19:08 · answer #1 · answered by Ebby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I'm having trouble understanding your question. In the title line, it sounds like you want to please your boyfriend, as in, mentally or emotionally; you want to make him emotionally happy. But in the detail line, it sounds like you want to sexually tease him without actually having sex. I'll try to address both interpretations.
If you're looking to just make him happy, the key is to be the best girlfriend you can be. Make sure to ALWAYS let him know that you appreciate him. I cannot express enough the importance of letting your boyfriend know that you care about him. It lifts our spirits so much and when you let us know that you love us, it makes us want to be even MORE committed and dedicated to you. In either of these cases you should be intimately engaged in his interests. What does this mean? Really take a liking to his interests or hobbies; learn what he loves to do, what he's studying, who his friends are, what music he likes, what he wants to be when he grows up. All these things will lead to thorough, detailed, meaningful conversations...which is really the most important part of a relationship. You need to be able to communicate with him on an intellectual level when it comes to your combined interests. If you already have his likes and dislikes figured out, make sure you take the time to teach him yours. Let him know where you're planning on going in life, what kind of family you want to raise, who you hope you'll meet in your lifetime, and so on. You'll find that the best times in your relationship will be the times where you can just sit and talk to each other. It's the most emotionally stimulating activity you can share with your partner.
Now, if you're looking to sexually please him without actually having sex....
It's kind of a tricky situation. No matter what you do or say in a sexual setting, your boyfriend will ultimately be the one to decide whether you're making him "horny" or not. And there's no way to influence that. Think about this example -- suppose a random guy came up to you and took off his clothes in front of you. Does that excite you? Or are you confused? Are you insulted? It's the same concept. An initiator can do whatever he or she wants to, but the receiver of such initiation is the one to either accept it or reject it, and you cannot influence their decision in any way. I'm sorry if that's not the answer you wanted to hear, but this is my personal opinion on the subject. The key though is to not settle for anything less than your standard. If you don't want to have sex just yet, nobody is saying that you have to. Don't conform to your boyfriend; let him conform to you. You're the lady, and it's a man's responsibility to sacrifice HIS comforts in order to support yours. If he can't do that, he's probably not the right one for you. I hope that answers your question.
2007-01-14 03:30:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you have striked a lottery, 1st prize, US$ 1 million and promise to give all the money to him. I can assure you that you will make him REALLY happy.
2007-01-14 03:19:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live your own life and be the best you can be. Decent guys like women that do not attempt to smother them. Besides, girls today are chasing men so hard, you will seem interesting if you don't.
2007-01-14 03:19:05 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm most guys do ask for sex?? id unno :S.. but umm take him out to dinner or something.. Or bETTER YET!!! a sport team.. get him tickets! and surprise him!.. and other than that.. theres Valentines day.. buy him a box of love.. or chocolate heh.
2007-01-14 03:14:05 · answer #5 · answered by Shawn Miller 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find out what he likes and go from there. if he has no interests other than sex, you need to move on.
2007-01-14 03:13:24 · answer #6 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself. Involve with planning time together.
2007-01-14 03:14:06 · answer #7 · answered by Gem of Wisdom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for me it depends on how long you've been going out. try to just hang out with him more(just the two of you). GOOD LUCK!!!!!
2007-01-14 03:15:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you love him, or make him a nice meal. =)
2007-01-14 03:13:54 · answer #9 · answered by Addikt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what he likes so I can't help.
2007-01-14 03:14:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋