2007-01-14 02:43:46 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im sorry but i refuse to do an online dating site
2007-01-14 02:48:07 · update #1
I am 48 and after my divorce I was still asking myself that question in my mid 40's before I met my present boyfriend 2 years ago!
I think you know the answer to this question, but the fact that you asked it reminded me that when we are young we don't really have a sense for how long life is and how many chances that means you get to start over again in many areas of your life, not just in finding a boyfriend or spouse. I woke up in my mid 30s somewhere along the line and realized that life is longer than I thought it was and that in a sense we live many different mini-lives within our lifetimes.
In other words, don't give in to the pressure you feel now because you have a long time to meet someone. Life is longer than it looks to you right now. Relax, you will meet someone. Imagine how I felt at 45 thinking I would never meet anyone new, and yet it happened. Even my Dad met someone after my Mom died and he's in his 70's! So relax, because you actually defeat yourself from meeting anyone if you are too desperate and worried about meeting someone!
Best of luck!
2007-01-14 02:56:06 · answer #1 · answered by Jump Back 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding - hey lsiten I don't do the support stuff. But I try to be honest and seriously you have no problem -ur fine. Okay I am 17 adn even I realise at 20 you are still comparatively young, and so have no reason to wry. Plus, you may be shy (like me). There are many people who have not had boyfriends/ gf's yet. Okay seriously plz do me a favour and don't wry about this - I know how these sort of wry's can affect someone (I do know) and it upsets me to see you wrying about it when you are only 20. You Will find someone - there is no rush. Hope you feel better...
2007-01-14 02:57:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on ofcourse not, I felt that way to I was never involved in what I saw as a serious relationship or was with anyone who I felt loved me like in the relationships I saw my friends having. Now I know what they had was nothing because well there not together anymore and sitting back and watching there mistakes makes you insightful and wise for later when you do get in a mature relationship which you cant really suceed in or accomplish until your older anyways. Dont get me wrong all the wrong relationships you go thru prior to your one and only are necessary, painful but necessary to being able to funciton maturaly in relationships later, you learn from them and about yourself. Its like the little ones really in the end mean nothing to you but actually they are everything when it comes to experience and learning from them catch 22. I know you asked if it means no for you, I dont believe so I mean theres someone out there for everyone your time will come when its right and possibly when you apply yourself, oh I'm also guessing maybe you have to start looking at other things to be attracted twords in someone besides looks or whatever it is your being so picky about that is a possibility the case, if so however you'll soon realize that thres so many factors to maintaining a relationship that if you just went on looks you'd be making mistakes for the rest of your life when it comes to selection of mates. good luck Kim
2007-01-14 02:51:55 · answer #3 · answered by KIMBUR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didnt really have a steady boyfriend til I was 29. Turns out that it was a bad thing but thats ok. I can take care of myself, keep a roof over my head and food in my stomach. I didnt need any man. I wanted one though. To be married, kids and all. I didnt like the dating site either. Tried them and failed. I took steps though and never handed out my numbe. Talked to them on puter then called them with my number blocked. A couple of years later, a friend of mine told me about mate1.com. Free to women. Said it was fun just talking on there with guys for fun. I checked it out. A guy contacted me a month later, we talked for a while on the site. Finally met in a coffee shop. Found out he lived up the block from me! We have been dating ever since. I met him when I was 35 and now 36. I feel like this is the man I will be with forever. He treats me better then I have ever been treated before.
Try the dating site. It is better then meeting drunk guys in bars.
Good luck!
2007-01-14 02:56:00 · answer #4 · answered by moo shell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you not worrying about college? It will happen when its meant to happen. Focus on your life and time will fly.
It always happens when you are NOT looking. Concentrate on being the kind of person that you would like to attract so that he will recognize that in you.
You have lots of time. I didnt remarry from the age of 25 until I was 32. THAT was a worrying time. I still finally got married. Dont settle just becuaes you are lonely are feeling desperate. Wait for the right one!!
2007-01-14 02:51:27 · answer #5 · answered by SunValleyLife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, I didn't have a boyfriend until I was 30! My first boyfriend ever! It takes time, but you WILL meet and marry someone special--it takes time. Remember, Rome wasn't built in a day.
2007-01-14 02:51:08 · answer #6 · answered by Miss J 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The whole life is ahead. dont lose heart,and jump to conclusions.wait for the right person to come along.
2007-01-14 02:49:43 · answer #7 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No... why settle for someone lesser? Time will tell and trust me age is just a number.
2007-01-14 03:37:47 · answer #8 · answered by sweetiepie_cal_5 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no that doesnt mean anything realy there are so many people who dont even get married until they are 25 or so
2007-01-14 02:48:52 · answer #9 · answered by carebear_destroyer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no.really u arent missing anything.when looking for a husband u hav to ask yourself:do i hav God in my life?do i hav anything to offer in dis marriage?am i happy w. myself?etc.marriage is jus more than "thats my man"
2007-01-14 02:51:01 · answer #10 · answered by sexytonia101 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋