i know dating outside the race is not much of a problem but dating outside your own religion and faith is a tricky one.
what are your thoughts and anyone who has been in that kind of relationship . do share
i'm sort of stuck in the situation
help
2007-01-14 02:40:20 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are 'stuck' in nothing that isn't of your own making. The 'problem' does not exist in actuality and if the world got the insanity that is religion out of it's collective prehistoric brain, then we'd be a damn sight better off for it.
2007-01-14 02:51:04 · answer #1 · answered by Oliver T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how strict your religion is and if you can see you or your partner ever converting to the other kind if you get married. I think it can be a real eye opener to date people from other religions and cultures. It will either make you appreciate what you have or it will help you find your truer values and beliefs. Sometimes I feel that people are brain washed into thier religion by being born into it so why not check things out a little. You must be sure that your basic morals and values are the same though, and if your parents dissapprove, it could be really hard. good luck
2007-01-14 02:48:24 · answer #2 · answered by Justme 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to be aware that a lot of the religious obediance will also involve your close one. As for example, will you decide to marry at your religion church or at his? What about your children education of religion? Will you choose to send them to your religion church or his church? Then there is also all the question of where you will want to be buried?
I would think however that the most important change would be how you will practice your faith. Will you still assist just as much to masses and religion fair? Will you go each at your own respective religious.
Religion, being different, will answer critical daily life question and also life critical choice. If you beleive strongly in your faith, it might be hard to accept your boyfriend choice.
In the end, I would say that it depends of you faith in your religion and how flexible you are to it. Being of different faith will surely put pressure on the couple.
2007-01-14 03:07:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anatole 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the person and what religions they are/aren't. Myself, I don't believe in any higher powers and my boyfriend is agnostic(meaning for the most part he doesn't believe in anything). So we don't have any problems with that. But if he was christian there would probably be a little conflict,(as atheists and christians are like cats and dogs sometimes,haha.) People usually like to be able to relate with and have the same beliefs as the person they share their life with. Though I know there are people that are together that have different beliefs. It just depends on the person. I can handle Buddhism and other religions that aren't mostly about worshipping.
2007-01-14 02:51:26 · answer #4 · answered by tranquil.dream 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in that situation, but I think the best example i have for you is my mom and dad. My mom is Jewish, my dad is Catholic. They were both very open to making the other happy, I'm not sure how serious your relationship is, but I can tell you that after they discussed their wedding, they had a catholic ceremony, and followed it with a jewish preist for only the immediate family. When it came to us kids, ( i have a brother) We were never forced into either religion, they showed us our options, and let us decide for ourselves. I feel that if you care for someone enough, you will find a way to work things out. Good Luck!!
2007-01-14 02:54:00 · answer #5 · answered by gallcat_11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I did date outside of my religion and I also married the same guy. It is really NO problem. I believe that if a relationship is going to work you have to be completely honest,be very willing to compromise,communication is a must. You have to talk through everything. You can not just keep it to yourself if something bothers you. Talk about it. Talking things through is the key to just about everything.
It works for us because we do respect the traditions of both religions and it really is just fine. Our children learn about both and they can make up their own minds which they wish to follow as they get older but they do know that they have to respect both.
2007-01-14 02:48:35 · answer #6 · answered by hummingbird 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was raised in the Catholic Church, according to the churchs doctrine, a relationship with anyone other than a catholic was considered a mixed marriage. Anyone not catholic was a heathen and thereby suspect.
Pragmatically the problem is that if the parties are different religions that their worldviews differ, often signifigantly, can lead to a great deal of misunderstanding and conflict.
I simply don't discuss religion with my dates.
2007-01-14 02:44:28 · answer #7 · answered by Dane 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah why not? Your religion could be wrong and theirs could be right or you could both have the wrong one. At least they are not atheist. If you believe in a higher power than you basically believe the same thing. If you limit yourself to people of your same religion then you could really miss out on true love and you only live once.
2007-01-14 02:43:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the end.... it just comes down to one God. So I believe dating outside of one's religion is not a big problem.
2007-01-14 02:44:04 · answer #9 · answered by Queen of Kings 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am an open-minded person. My boyfriend is Muslim and I am Christian...There is no problem between us regarding our religion--he respects my faith and I his. However, we might run into a problem when it comes to getting married...But I will deal with that if and when it happens.
2007-01-14 02:46:06 · answer #10 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋