Im supposed to marry MS dis coming November but somehow,im feeling all jittery about it.. I find myself unable to forget AA, someone whom im intimate with but couldnt be with me due to commitment difficulties. When im with him,im sure he feels the way i do but i dont understand why we are not together.. Im afraid my crush on him has turn out to be love ... as for MS, he is a nice guy..able to provide for me and be a good husband to me in time to come and frankly speaking,i have fallen for him yet at the same time,AA lingers in my mind.. Who do i choose? I cant follow my heart for i m in love with both... Please help ...
2007-01-14 01:06:50 · 8 answers · asked by MIzzMoo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Love is love as lovers due,
to many to count to count for you,
you marry one and your love will lose,
marry the other and trouble comes through.
My freind wrote that who lived in england.
Just becuse MS is nice and could provide for you dosnt mean that hes right for you. You love him that true but, how long will that love last. marrying someone means him and no other man FOREVER. and if your haveing doupts now think about in a couple of years when theres bills over your head and a babys comeing. That happened to my mom...she got a divorse a week later. Does he diserve to think that hes the only guy for you. Does he deseve to live out that lie.
on the other side
You also love AA but cant be with him beacuse of some commitment. If its true love then nothing can hold you both back. And if you truly love him then you will tell him the cercanstances. it hard but sometimes its good to just tell the truth, ( of course thats just me). You can always follow your heart,
you just have to feel your heart to follow it.
luves and hope it all goes right.
Sahara
2007-01-14 01:26:37 · answer #1 · answered by duckie52290 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to resolve this in your mind. You need to learn the difference between love and lust. Frankly speaking, you need to grow up a little. I can say this because I faced the same dilemna when I was younger. I truly loved a woman but I was not over the ex and I could not marry the woman that I loved. I would be much better off today had I married the woman that was "nice." Unfortunately, nice isn't exciting. You ultimately have to decide this for yourself and, when you do, you HAVE to say this is my choice and that is what I am going to live with. Don't spend your life regretting it whatever you choose.
2007-01-14 01:14:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost don't get married unless you can be honest with urself MS and AA. You can't have a relationship without honesty, loyalty and faith and you have none of these with MS. Don't put him thru the heartache that comes from marrying a woman that wasn't even sure if she should get married. How would he feel if he read what you have written? It is not fair on any of you to go ahead with the marriage unless you can work thru it with relationship counselling
2007-01-14 01:15:39 · answer #3 · answered by cheeky_lil_pixiegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who said you have to choose either?
While it's not conventional, healthy polyarmorous relationships do exist, and can be very beneficial to those who are comfortable with the idea of sharing their partners.
That said, it's not something for everyone. I myself prefer the one-on-one of a traditional relationship. However, I've also experienced a healthy polyarmorous relationship to a small extent, and have learned that the heart is large enough to hold many people at once.
It's up to you how much you want to give each person you meet. It's okay to love someone and not sleep with them, and it's okay to love someone and not be romantically involved. I love all of my friends, though I'd certainly not even think of becoming involved with any of them. It's a different sort of love. :-)
Likewise, you don't have to marry someone just because you love them. Not even if you are in love with them. In this, I have to concur with the general consensus. Marriage should be avoided until you're 100% sure that the person who you plan to marry is the person you want to marry, and stay with for the rest of your life.
Hope this helps!
2007-01-14 01:13:28 · answer #4 · answered by ♂ « Hybrid » ♀ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the biggest mistake you made that has delivered approximately this ridiculous catch 22 situation you're in now's that, as a exchange of listening to your coronary heart or a minimum of your guy or woman strategies, you observed somebody else's (your mum and dad) without plenty as a double-take. while are Filipinos gonna evolve and get previous the atrocious theory that one has to , by default, yield to the needs of every physique who's older, richer, louder orpaler than you? that's the way you all get phucked as an entire u . s . and society. Jeezuss freaking Khrist, are you able to Catholics get a clergyman to exorcise this demon trait out of y'all????? Now you're caught with a woman you do in comparison to. and actual, until she dies, you relatively would desire to stay along with her. guy up.
2016-10-19 23:18:40 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would forget about AA sooner or later I'm sure the "electricity " you feel for each other will diminish
2007-01-14 01:11:03 · answer #6 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont get married till your sure.Marriage wont change your feelings.You feel safe and fiancially secure with the ms guy but your heart seems to be with the other.
2007-01-14 01:11:45 · answer #7 · answered by karen e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like you should be gettin married.
2007-01-14 01:13:03 · answer #8 · answered by noddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋