i went out with this guy for 3 weeks and i broke up with him friday because, i was at my locker getting my stuff for next class when he came around my locker as usual but this time he didn't come over to talk to me,instead he went to chat with these group of girls that's right next to my locker and i heard him chatting with him. at 1st i didn't think nothing of it untill he put his arm around this one girl and i guest he accidently *shocked* her and she's like "ouch you shocked me" and his response was "you know what that means right, that means we belong together" and this is when i got mad and walked away. later he came to talk to me and that's when i said "f**k it we're done".some of my friends say that i over reacted, but i don't think i did...i just don't like being disrespected and that's what he did to me, right to my face. do you guys think i over reacted or not?
2007-01-14
00:46:58
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i really wanted to smack the **** out of him but then i was like, let me save my energy for something more important. i did question him before i said "f**k it we're done" i asked why he did that and he said "ohh come on baby you know i was just playin around". i'm not stressing out over him, i just feel so stupid for saying yes to him in the 1st place. i'm all good though. thank you guys for agreeing with me.
2007-01-14
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You definately didn't over react...trust your feminine instinct...it is ALWAYS right. People have their opinions but what matters the most is how YOU feel. If the incident made you uncomfortable then there is a reason for it. It's your subconscious telling you something is wrong. Keep strong...don't give in, you'll keep your self respect and then he'll start thinking about what he did. If you're really into someone you don't go around flirting with people....especially in front of someone you're supposed to be dating.
2007-01-14 00:55:58
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answered by ksb 2
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No you did not over react. That shows that you are self assured in how you expect to be treated in a relationship! It is good that you set those boundries now, and stick to them. You will find a guy that will give you the respect that you deserve, treat you like a princess, so that you can treat him like a prince. Give what you get!! You showed strength and good judgement--if more women were that confident about themselves, maybe there wouldn't be such a high rate of divorce, abuse and infidelity!!! GOOD FOR YOU!!!!!
2007-01-14 00:55:49
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answered by Austins Mom 6
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Nope you did the right thing, but forgot to do something else. You should have kicked him in the nutz for disrespecting you like that. After he his sorry self hit the floor you should have kicked him in the mouth, giving him something to remember you by as you walked out of his life forever.
Good luck, hope you find a real man in the future and one that will cause great happiness for you.
2007-01-14 01:00:22
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answered by Anonymous
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No - I don't think you over reacted.
He was disrespectful to you. He did something right in front of you, made sure you could see him. If it's happening after just 3 weeks, what will he be like in 3 months?
Move on to someone who will respect you, and let that dawg go.
2007-01-14 00:51:15
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answered by Anonymous
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I don't think you over reacted, but you let it affect you too much, guys are like that sometimes god knows why, and you must learn to cope and go on being happy, anyway, he was probably trying to make you jealous, depends on the guy, maybe you should keep an eye on him to at least find out
2007-01-14 00:54:59
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answered by south e 2
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Well done for having enough respect for yourself to not allow a jerk like this to toy with your emotions. If he was really interested in you, he would even like attention from other women. He is trying to keep the back door open, and even if he is just trying to make jou jelous, this can be seen as a game, and games belong in the arcade, not in relationships.
2007-01-14 00:59:39
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answered by Anonymous
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hi A: you're literally not incorrect. i do not understand how he feels about you, yet relationships are often like rollercoasters with highs and lows. Its commonly been suggested what a guy hates maximum is a clingy gal. nicely, that being suggested, I comprehend you've been mutually for 2 years and also you idea he loved you and also you've were given shared a lot and also you want him adequate to spend something of your existence with him and he's taking section in such as your heart strings and it does not sense high-quality. right it truly is what i imagine went down. the relationship between you both changed into getting better serous and also you want him better than ever. next, Kate comes alongside, i do not understand in case you knew Kate earlier or not, yet i will guess not. She performs your boyfriend perchance basically because she thinks she will be able to, or to toughen her ego, or in spite of----so not high-quality. Your boyfriend receives scared because issues have become severe, Kate is extraordinarily and attracted to him, makes him sense captivating and provides him pause. He starts a relationship such as her, he's not honest with you. He needs to play the field, he's not considering you or your thoughts. you're damage and disillusioned and may't comprehend how or why he might want to do this variety of element. My propose for what that's nicely worth, kick him to the reduce(ouch, i understand you want him, you could't even image your existence without him in it, i understand) nicely like I suggested earlier female friend, kick him to the reduce. initiate relationship different adult males promptly. tell him, you recognize he has been seeing Kate so its over and also you're seeing TOM, DICK and Harry. he will be compelled at this element to reavalueate his relationship with you. in case you loves you he will be jealous as hell !!! If he gently concurs it for the perfect, sorry A, it will be. i might want to assert there is about a ninety% probability he will favor you decrease back at a at the same time as. perchance, not once you tell him you'd be seeing different adult males---which I do desire you'll, even if it hurts you to do it. If how ever you supply him an ultimatum, like stop seeing Kate or i will chop up with you--he would opt for to stay with you, then he will be apologetic about his decision and ultimately go away you and maximum likely permenantly. So i desire you do not attempt this one. i'm speaking from years of journey and that i desire issues flow nicely for you, each and each and every of the perfect.
2016-12-02 06:11:51
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answered by gnegy 4
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You did not overreact. He DID disrespect you. Good thing you have enough respect for yourself to have taken that step!! Sorry about it, you sound like a nice smart young woman. Stay that way...
2007-01-14 00:53:04
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answered by Anonymous
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You did the right thing. Any guy that treats his lady like that doesn't care about her. He will eventually cheat on you. So just remain friends and save your heart the drama.
2007-01-14 00:51:20
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answered by John Rambo 3
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No... I think you did the right thing, he was deffinately flirting with the girl and right in front of you. I agree he wasnt respecting you. You go girl!
2007-01-14 00:54:14
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answered by Anonymous
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