It's gonna be our wedding next week and my fiance continues to piss me off. When I am pissed off by him, he doesn't know why. I would just keep quiet and choose not to talk but we are together so he notices I am pissed off. He would force me to talk and tell him what's wrong. Honestly I wouldn't want to talk to him and look at him but he gets mad at me and would not talk to me anymore, too, so I am threatened he would do it. His relatives would notice we're not talking and they would tell me to talk to him. But I don't want to...it's been like this since last month...dang!!! This guy doesn't know what I am going through...how do I deal with it? Please help me...
2007-01-14 00:30:23 · 20 answers · asked by SHEMH 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
heys! u two r gettin a marriage, n a marriage is for life! certainly there r mani mani stuff which u two noe y u end up together! if u r pissed of with him now, in the near future, there wld be mani more to come?? bt on the other hand, it might be due to ur mood n anxiety u r goin through? dun let little things affect u! ur fiance wld defintely wan to noe y u pissed with him too, it's difficult for him to nt noe y u r pissed out of a sudden. talk things out.. if nt the marriage will be of a undesired consequence..
2007-01-14 00:42:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're hearing this in many of your responses. Any successful long-term relationship requires good communication. This really should be without question. There will be times when each partner will need their own space and time from each other and have thier own hobbies and interests, but when there is an issue in the actual relationship, it is important to talk about it. If issues go on unresolved for a long period of time, there is bound to be an explosion of emotions that will come out at one time complicating what could have been an easy resolution. You must resolve each issue as they come so that the "war of words" don't complicate matters.
2007-01-14 01:41:01 · answer #2 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its the last month leading up to your wedding, its common to fight and have a lot of tension. Its just how you deal with it, and it doesnt sound like your dealing with it very well. You need to talk to him. Its obvious you didnt have premarital counseling that would have been a good move but you need to get in counseling as soon as you get married and clear up these communication issues or youll run into serious probs down the road...
2007-01-14 06:22:34 · answer #3 · answered by Christines256 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you two have a communication problem. I had the same problem what I did was made sure we sat down and talk and I mean TALK. Talk about everything that we both didn't like that one another was doing and try to BOTH agree on a way to make things WORK. You love him I can tell cause if yoou didn't you would have never asked. It might be he has done something in the past and your mind might keep bringing it up. But you got to try and forget it be cause it will DESTROY your relationship. I hope this helps. OH CONGRATS ON GETTING MARRIED. ENJOY YOURSELF.
2007-01-14 00:40:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
So, you should actually not have him understand why you're offended? you want a relationship in which you won't be able to percentage your emotions with him? i'm sorry, yet i do not see the precedence as being your fiance. It appears like you want to hit upon your emotional themes and study different procedures to administration them. for sure the guy would not recognize what you're dealing with--you received't tell him something. what type of relationship is this if you're actually not keen to save the communication strains open? he's eager to be on the fringe of you, to appreciate you, and also you're shoving him away! And for the record, in case you've been to search for suggestion from a psychologist or different counsellor with those themes, they could inform you, quicker or later, that individuals do not piss us off--it truly is how we commit to react. you do not could be ticked off at him, you are able to elect yet in a special thanks to reply. you want to discern out why you're so darn offended with him and by no skill eager to actual have a relationship with him. Is it wedding ceremony jitters? Are you unconsciously pushing him away so as that the marriage receives called off? is this what you truly want? because you in effortless words have per week, that is unlike you've time to make a chain of appointments with a counsellor, yet you're waiting to hit upon a pastor/minister of a church who should be keen to take a seat down and communicate with you.
2016-11-23 17:34:24 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A wedding is a very stressful event to plan. Things are being said that are not being done, things are being done that are not being said. You want this day to be a perfect day for you so you are becoming stressed. Sit down with your fiance and explain to him how important the day is to you and not to take anything personal. Just let him know how much you care about him and how much you love him.
2007-01-14 03:05:24 · answer #6 · answered by a m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has always been easier for me to communicate through writing when i'm pissed off with my bf. I wouls sit there, write everything that is pissing me off into little blurbs and then incorporate them into an essay. if you write it all down, you have the ability to tell him whats wrong so he can fix it, and don't have to worry about speaking to him right away. eventually you will need to talk to him, but hopefully the letter will bring him to your page so he knows what you are going through and isn't as lost as he is right now.
good luck.
2007-01-14 02:47:22 · answer #7 · answered by myfianceisamonkey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you going through? Why are you mad at him? I know you dont want to hear this but TALK TO THE GUY. If you love him you should talk to him. If you want this to work out; talk to him. Its the key to everything. If you really life or death don't want to talk to him dont marry him. You don't wanna marry a guy you cant look at. AND you could marry him, not talk to him, get a divorce and deal with that crap
2007-01-14 00:37:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can not get along under the stress of you wedding it will only get worse once your married. Dump the guy, lick your wound and go on with your life. Consider your self lucky that you found out in time.
2007-01-14 00:43:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
'The best way to what is in a book is to open it'.open your heart gal....talk to this guy and tell him what pisses you about him.not unless you tell him so he's never gonna know whats he did you wrong.If he doesn't take it right and understand you then he probably is not good enough for you.Give him a big boot and go on with your life.good luck!!!
2007-01-14 00:44:03 · answer #10 · answered by steve 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋