my ex broke up with me 3months ago, it was my fault i was needy, she wanted to stay freinds i treid to win her back many times i rang her and told her how feel...eventually i got over that,, so as soon as i stopped calling her ,she started calling me, and staying on the phone for ages i just kept cool i didnt mention anything bout love or anything.. then she asked me to go for a drink with her so idid we ended up in a club and she was really flirty with me, kissing my neck holding my hand n stuff the next day she said she just wants to be freinds, a week later(new years eve) i was out in a bar she was there too. iwalked outside for a smoked and i saw her kissin another guy then she saw me and she stopped kissing him, i didnt talk to her for a few days even though she was txtin me saying sorry n trying to call me... i got over that, i called her and said sorry for over reacting, i esaid i cant stop you, she said sorry for hurting me.. she said can we start over as freinds... i said i need time to think, i txted her the next day and said i still care bout you n id rather have you as a freind than have you as nothing, she txt back, saying that i cant be her freind and not be her freind whenever i feel like it, i just said fair enough, an hour later she called she sounded like she was crying and she was saying sorry for giving out to me.. i said its ok, so we are just freinds now, but if she really wants to stay freinds, y does she txt me, e mail me, call me everying day????
what do you think??
i went to the local bar last night with my freind, and she was there... i saw her first and when she saw me she started dancing(so fake) so i went into the other side of the bar... 2 mins later she came in with her freinds, she was acting really annoying, she came over to me and said hi, i jus said hay hows it goin, and turned back to talk to my freind, for the rest of the night she stayed around the area i was in, she kept comming over to me and falling into me and putting her hand on my leg when she was talking to me.. then she sat down at a table eall on her own with a sad face which was clearly in my view.. she was mad for my attention even my freind said it was so ovious! what do you think about my ex?? do you think she really just wants to be freinds or do you think she could still want me?
2007-01-14 00:16:45 · 11 answers · asked by Dan W 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your relationship is clearly over.
She is just one of those women who has the selfish desire for you to pine away for her.
2007-01-14 00:22:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't read "I kissed dating goodbye" by Joshua Harris... [some answerer said about this book]...
But I understand that this Joshua Harris has a very big experience in "dating"... How could he understand what it feels for the heart if he would have "dated" few times or no times at all... and how can he know for sure if it is better to give up "dating"... I mean something is dubious about him and his book... because he had many dates (maybe he had... let's say: 300 dates, with... let's say: 30 girls... and he wrote his book... when?... when he was 21 years old!... DUBIOUS!!!... but maybe he had a smaller number of dates and girls... what then?... would it be dubious in that case?... how can a 21 years old make recommendations about love? He must be a wonderful man now...)...
I don't believe that if you "kiss dating goodbye" and don't do something that would compensate this choice, I don't think you have anything to win if you don't choose something else instead of "dating"...
And after all, suffering comes whatever you do. It is absolutely stupid to lock yourself in the house and don't talk to anyone because well... you know, they "play with you" and after that they will "move on to the next victim"...
Life is short, live it as you can, we do not live in a perfect world and people step on cadavers just for pleasure and power and whatever else... Be strong, live your life as you feel it is correct for you and the others, talk to people.
Be afraid of the case when nobody makes you their victim, let them do whatever they want with you! If they treat you in a bad way then that is their loss. I mean: if someone has had a lot of dates with lots of girls and after that he says "oh, I'm sorry for whatever suffering I caused to the people I've dated and now I gave up dating", would you believe him? Maybe the guy just wanted to earn some money even if he doesn't believe what he's saying... Imagine him now, with the publicity he's has and the money he has now, all the girls are "on him" now...
I don't believe that men and women can be close "friends", that is absurd in today's world. That's just another "American" weird American idea. You be friends with who respects you as a person, not with someone that has an unstable friendship towards you and the others.
Don't be a friend to someone that plays with you and that uses the idea that “absence makes the heart grow fonder” just to make you feel bad, she is not worth it.
There's no pleasing some people. Enjoy your friends not this kind of people. Don't consider her your friend. Friendship is something very special and complicated, not the joke that she takes it for. If she sees that you accept a lot of things, than she will do them. Show respect for her and demand respect for her. Don't ask for respect.
That would have been the same if you were a girl and she would have been a boy...
In the end it is the silence of our friends that we remember and that hurts us, not the words of our enemies.
Good luck!
2007-01-14 03:21:58 · answer #2 · answered by iDontKnowWhatToDo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she deffinitly still wants you. Im a girl and a girl wouldn't act that why if she really wasn't interested in you anymore. But it is possible that she wants her freedom to see other people but still wants to keep you for herself. Meaning that she wants to see other people but also wants to make sure that you're still hooked on her so that you don't. And maybe she still wants you but since the 2 of you had some problems before she isn't sure if it can work out between you. I say that you just ask her if she still has feelings for you and if there is something holding her back and just what she is thinking in general. Good luck to you both.
2007-01-14 00:32:01 · answer #3 · answered by shimeringstars01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didnt read the whole thing. but just ask yourself do u love her. and do u see yourself with her. the best thing i can say is read "I kissed dating goodbye" bye Joshua Harris. you can get it in a book borders. it will really change the way you look at somethings. i hope that helps you because that book helped me with my wife today.
If you remain me and my words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be given you.
-John 15:7
2007-01-14 00:31:10 · answer #4 · answered by Gum Mo Jai 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a fairly insecure girl with intimacy problems. A relationship with her would be very high maintenance. Go there at your own risk.
2007-01-14 00:25:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The problem is, she's in control. You've got to figure out a way for you to take control. Otherwise, you'll go insane with this hot/cold relationship.
2007-01-14 00:24:18 · answer #6 · answered by VirtualElvis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure, yet I frequently might want to work out someone head to head and seem of their eyes and get their authentic feeling to really recognize them. yet yep, there would genuinely be sturdy emotions regardless of if I under no circumstances met them. i'm a hugger and that would want to really be effective too!
2016-10-17 01:19:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should just stay friends as it sounds like shes just playing games with u.... to see how many times you will go back to her. plus showing off infront of her friends, if thats who she was with. shes playing with u like playing fetch with a dog.
2007-01-14 00:25:24 · answer #8 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
actually some friends do get in touch everyday. I think you should clarify this with her herself.
2007-01-14 00:24:47 · answer #9 · answered by istina jap 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just be friend
2007-01-14 00:19:36 · answer #10 · answered by Linda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋