They blame me for everything and see my as a masty horrible person. I don't think I am, but how should I deal?
2007-01-13 22:45:47 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
its there problem not yours -
as long as you can recogniaze it as there prob you will be ok
2007-01-13 22:50:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well since you didn't give any reasons as to why they think or assume your a masty horrible person, I find it hard to answer this question. But I do suggest that you don't run away and start doing drugs of you might end up like one of them backroom facials girls at www.rareporncollections.com
2007-01-14 00:33:35 · answer #2 · answered by sebusiness2007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, they must have a reason to beleive this. So think, what do you do that could cause them to think such things? You probably just need to prove yourself. Try taking on some responsibility. This always gives you a boost. And think about what do you get blamed for? Likely it isnt always your fault, but take the blame for the times when it is your fault, that way when its not your fault, they will know you are true to your word.
But responsibility is key to getting priviledges from parents! You can take initiative like washing the dishes after dinner without being asked, see the garbage is full? empty it and take out the trash. Make your bed (moms tend to really appreciate this one).
Just little things like that can really change ur families perspective of you.
2007-01-13 22:54:51 · answer #3 · answered by Elley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should try to talk to your mom about this or your elder sister or brother. You didn't mentioned if you had done anything or anything had happened that made your family disliked you but if he whole family do this to you there must be a reason. Try to think logically, on your side, are you treating your family nice?? do you love them, are you polite with them?? have you been helping out with housework etc. On the other side you might have to think carefully what had probably happened in the past that caused by you which affect the family. I think talking is nice, ask your parent why they are treating you this way and what area you should do to improve your relationship. If this doesn't help, you might also try to turn to your school to seek help, ask the school counsellor to talk to your parents. If you want things to improve you must speak your heart out otherwise they can't help you.
2007-01-14 01:23:19 · answer #4 · answered by FairGround 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emma. I know how difficult it must be for you the way your family is treating you. I went through the same, and nothing of what I did was ever good enough for them. But that all changed one day...
I decided to do things to that I would feel happy about. I went to medical school, then into the military, and even that was not enough for them. But one day, unfortunately, my dad and my brother needed help (each a different type of help), and, Guess who was there to come to the rescue??? ME. The person that they all underestimated.
Strangers had more trust in me than my family, even when I have never betrayed their trust.
Do what you believe is right. Not for them but for yourself. In due time they will learn to accept you and value you for the great person you really are.
Best wishes.
2007-01-14 00:28:08 · answer #5 · answered by David G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find it hard to believe that your family hates you. Think about it. If you were in trouble and needed help who would you go to? If you can say that your family would be there for you, then they don;'t hate you at all. I think it's your perception. They may hate some of the things you do or say or some of your behavior but I think your family deep down loves you and wants the best for you. I hope this is true. Think about it.
2007-01-13 22:50:41 · answer #6 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
remember,there is no family who hates a child,so,its the way that u think,maybe it is for ur works and then their bad reactions,cuz when ever u say a bad word,they do it too,then again and again.u should change ur behaviour some how.change ur daily program,try to for a few days do what ever u know that they like,to be a person that they like,try it for a few days,i know its really difficult cuz ur feeling for them is not ok too.if u feel that ur family hates u,be sure they think that u hate them too.it needs some changes,dont afraid of changes.
2007-01-13 22:57:17 · answer #7 · answered by farfar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U need to talk to them and sort this out before it becomes too big and things get said that u all might regret!
2007-01-13 23:12:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
blame you for everything? i think you are angry with them and see them with yr feelings projected towards them on yrself...make sense? give it time as family members end up resorting to "blood ties" if you love them deeply lead by example and be guided by this love for them and remeber yr level of hurt at the moment, reflects yr level of love, if they meant nothing to you, you wouldnt be posting here...good luck!
2007-01-13 23:15:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
See the first question i posted "Why do some abusive parents single out one child?"
Make them feel guilty by being a wonderful person. They'll hate you more but you'll feel better.
2007-01-13 22:51:00 · answer #10 · answered by ☺☻☺☻☺☻ 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well maybe you could be nice to then and stop being a baby you know your own results.
2007-01-14 01:11:51 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋