My partner invited me out as part of a big group of friends the other day, i didnt know alot of them so i said i wouldnt but he could carry on, he said that i never go anywhere with his friends and that i think im better than them.
I have been out with lots of his friends as couples or small groups and even had one of them living with us a few months back! he on the other hand has only met mine twice! and was so rude to one of them i have not seen her since!
I just get intimidated and nervous in big groups i dont know, should i just go along to keep him happy? do i have a right to feel angry now or should i make the effort to always go?
2007-01-13 22:31:33 · 18 answers · asked by BABY BELL 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i know exactly how you feel. my partner always asks me out with big groups of his friends, and im not good with big groups of people i dont know. i never know what to say, and i always think they are looking at me. i would say next time he asks you to go out with him and a big group of his friends, go. then arrange something with a group of your friends, and ask him to come with you. if he says no, use his line right back at him.
he shouldnt have been rude to your friends, especially if you let one of his friends live with you!
2007-01-13 22:36:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that maybe u should go along and a least try,if you feel the same after a hour or so just make an excuse to leave,if u try ur boyfriend will see ur at least trying,u might be suprised when u get there and have a good time,try and give his friends a chance if they see u trying they might try back,but if ur still not happy after that then just say u dont feel well and go home,when u r in a relationship u have to give and take so much,ur boyfriend is being a bit selfish not takeing ur friends in to consideration and is certainly wrong for upseting one of them,its quite hard to have a relationship and keep all ur friends sweet at the same time,but if they r ur true friends they will stick by u, and the same goes for your bf friends too,give it a go,u can only but try.good luck.
2007-01-13 22:42:53 · answer #2 · answered by wiccawoman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i do think you should make an effort to go out with his friends and get to know them so that when you go out again you wont feel so nervous and intimidated.
However your partner sounds like he is not giving as much back, you have to talk about this with him because its the only way you can sort it out between you.
Both you guys have to make the effort to get to know each of your friends without being rude or not talking to anyone.
Good luck xxx
2007-01-14 01:00:36 · answer #3 · answered by anastacia500 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have feelings,and rights too!!! Have you tried setting things up (get togethers)with your friends,that He is invited to?About the friend you haven't seen since his rudeness.Try calling,or go to her house.Say"sorry about my partner's rudeness,he was having a bad day,but I hope that doesn't stop our friendship."It is very important for you to have time with your friends,either with,or without him! If he keeps you away from your friends and/or drives them away from you....HE is being controling,and that could get worse,not better.Please be careful!!! Abuse could follow!
2007-01-13 22:46:30 · answer #4 · answered by stressed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I would do exactly what you want. He doesn't go along with you to make you happy, so tit for tat, right?
You might every now and then agree to go; but only if you REALLY want to.
You're uncomfortable, in part, because you don't want to be there and you know it even if no one else does.
I would just tell him that he does his own thing and so do you. If he'll go with you more and be polite, so will you. Negotiate..compromise...the guts of good relationships!
good luck.
2007-01-13 22:40:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you feel uncomfortable about being in big groups, and also that he hasnt made an effort to spend time with your friends. If he cant understand that then is he really worth dating..
2007-01-13 22:42:35 · answer #6 · answered by Cool Dude 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u r not happy with them at all,if they r rude with u ,if u cant have nice time with them and ....... leave them,no worth to make urself mad and nervous,
but if u r always like this and cant stand big groups,cant get along with others well,its a goood time for u to practice more.and try to make every time and every one in the best way that u like,and u expect.
2007-01-13 22:45:47 · answer #7 · answered by farfar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him and explain. he will understand. maybe you should try going out with him and just one or two of his friends to start with, so that when/if you go out with a bigger group of them, you will feel more comfortable because you will already know a few of them. don't get angry though. good luck x
2007-01-14 01:14:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should go next time your invited.
find one that you get on with and spend lots of the time talking to that person mainly.
if it gets really bad start pretending you have a bed headache and go home half an hour after you first mention it.
why dont you have a party or something and invite all his mates and all your friends.
at first i didnt get o n with my boyfriends mates.
they are all richer than me and we have had totally different backgrounds.
but after a met them a few times i started to get on better with a couple of them.
you need to comprimise with him and say you with go out with his friends if he comes out with you and your friends.
2007-01-13 22:39:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your own feelings on this one hun if he as embarrased your friends and is mithering you to go on dates with him and his mates i would say a firm no because of what hes been like. I would also question him on the fact does he not like being with you alone.
2007-01-13 22:44:29 · answer #10 · answered by Happy 07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋