I just started looking to date after my divorce a year and a half ago(my wife left me for a co-worker after I came home from Iraq)so I don't have very much confidence yet.
I meet the most beautiful woman(in my opinion)on-line and we chat and talk on the phone once,when out of nowhere she asks me if I was a hairy guy.Is that a question most women would ask after only talking to someone a couple of times?
So I tell her that yes, I have hair on my body like most men do,maybe more,does that matter?
I could tell she was kind of let down by this.
I always thought that if someone got to know me well enough,it wouldn't really matter.
I really liked her, but don't think things would work because of this.
What do you think?Would you do the same as her?
This sucks!
2007-01-13 22:13:06 · 22 answers · asked by Dave 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dave...it shouldn't matter. I believe that when you really get to know someone and fall in love with them, EVERYTHING about them is beautiful to you. If she was put off by this, then she wasn't interested in getting to know you as a person. She obviously is very shallow and is only interested in a fling. If you are looking for a real relationship, don't look on line. The net is full of users and abusers. Find a real woman that you can look at when you talk to her, so you can see her eyes and hear the inflection of her voice, and know whether or not you trust in her and believe in her.
2007-01-13 22:31:59 · answer #1 · answered by Rhoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I'm not much into more than a little body hair, (I don't think I would turn you down just for that, but everyone's different), I Iike it when guys shave or use Nads hair remover or something like that. Heck many models/actors do that, why can't the average guy?! You could always trim it somewhat , but I'm not sure how that would come out. Women (especially beautiful ones) do many things to look beautiful and pleasing for a man, I think it's only fair that men do even a few things to look good for her!!
And by the way, I don't think she's being anymore shallow then what any person would be. People have their preferences, what attracts them, what turns them off. Would you like it if she stopped shaving- just becuase shaving is the norm for American women and not for men, doesn't mean body hair shouldn't turn any women off. Also, you made a point to mention she was so beautiful- if she was not at all beautiful, would you care enough to even ask this question?? If you really don't care that she's beautiful, then just move on to someone who doesnt care about your hairiness, no big deal. I'm just pointing out everyone has their preferences, and to the people calling her shallow without even knowing her, you are being very quick to judge. If relationships were only truly about nonphysical things, what really distinguishes friendship witht the opposite sex from romantic love- part of it is physical attraction, there is no getting around that.
2007-01-13 22:25:43 · answer #2 · answered by darkrose_09 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some women it is an issue, and others who the person is matters not what they look like. So it's for you to decide that if she was turned off by body hair, would you be willing to change - forever to please her or would you find it time consuming and unneccessary. The reason I say forever is because it's not above people to do something now and say they'll get over it and then I can be myself after we're together for a while ... that rarely works and break ups are almost inevitable. Be and do what you feel is comfortable for the long run ... and ask her how she truly feels ... you've been talking to her, don't stop now, talk out what the issues are and find out if there is a resolve or if she has real issues with the hair thing. I've known people who will only date bald men (odd yes but it's their thing) good luck
2007-01-13 22:22:47 · answer #3 · answered by Chele 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay, first of all, hair is not a permanent thing, it can be removed. Secondly dont let this kill ur ego, a lot of men are hairy, and if you are concerned you can always nair, wax or get lazor removal, or even electolysis. But for real, If this girl is so low as to be dis-interested in you because of a bit of hair, shes got issues. Move on hun. Find a real woman who will love you no matter what.
2007-01-13 22:18:29 · answer #4 · answered by Elley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you wrote to a woman with hair issues---so move on--is that the only way to meet a woman??---stupid computer--she probably didn't use a real picture of herself and her name was really Vincent. Get out and get moving---you're not the only guy to lose a wife---sorry but it happens. By the way, thanks for your service in the military. I flew in Nam and now I am a fireman in New Jersey---33 years...every woman I ever met eventually left for some dumb reason---usually I don't make enough money was the story---but theyspent what I had. I just keep trying--so should you. Good luck buddy
2007-01-13 22:21:48 · answer #5 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem with online dating is that you get into physical characteristics on an abstract level before even meeting someone. To say that you like (for example) big breasts is a generalization that doesn't mean that you wouldn't meet someone with small breasts and fall in love with her, including her small boobs. You may, on the other hand, decide that you wouldn't want to meet someone with small boobs because you think that you only like big ones. I think that this is perhaps the case with this woman: she thinks that she doesn't like hairy men. But I know from experience that you can say that, but when the right hairy man comes around, you love the hair on his butt as much as the rest of him.
2007-01-13 22:24:43 · answer #6 · answered by kiorasis 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't like too much body hair either, but I would never reject a man because of it. No one is physically perfect and good relationships are so hard to find. However, have patience, don't reject her because of her blunder (it *was* a stupid thing to ask). When you get a chance, let her know that she hurt you. If you ever become lovers, I'm sure she will learn to like your hair.
PS - welcome back from the war and good luck
2007-01-13 22:24:51 · answer #7 · answered by Rebecca T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some women ( like me) REALLY do despise body hair.. I find it very unattractive; it makes the man seem ungroomed.. I have made every guy that I have ever been with shave most of the hair on their body.. I think if you really like her you should probably do the same
2007-01-13 22:18:02 · answer #8 · answered by Panda Baby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 17:26:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a bit shallow of her to be judging you on your hairyness - perhaps it allows you to see a side of her you don't like?
From the flip-side though, being attracted to your partner is important but unless you're kitted out like a monkey on steroids, it's probably her own personality flaw showing through.
If she's not willing to get to know you 'cause of this, it's her own loss.
2007-01-13 22:19:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋