how do i find out if 5yr old daudhter has been sexually abused by moms new boyfried?

Question

SHE TOUCHED HERSELF IN THE CENTER OF HER CROTCH AND SAID " THIS IS WHERE IT TICKLES DADDY " HER MOTHER JUST MOVED IN W/NEW BOYFRIEND JUST PAROLED 3 MO. AGO HE DID 5 YRS FOR METH SELLS AND IN THE PAST HAS PIMPED HIS WIFE OUT TO ALL HIS FRIENDS AND EVEN HIS BROTHER.THIS HAPPENED BEFORE HE WAS LOCKED UP. I TALKED TO HER MOTHER AND WAS ACCUSSED OF STARTING TROUBLE. BASICALY MY CONCERNS WERE DISMISSED.

Answer 1

Oh heavens this is aweful! I can't believe how some people are!!! Sick bastard!!!!!!! Please take your little princess to the doctor...I don't know how she would have known to say something like that unless something's happend.

I am so sorry! You're in my prayers and thoughts. (And your little girl too)

God bless.

Answer 2

You could ask her if anyone has ever touched her special place. I moved in with a guy when my kids were 5 and 6 yrs old and every few months I would ask them. I let them know that I would always be on their side and if they had something they wanted to tell me it was ok. A child has to trust you and know that keeping secrets from you is not ok. Also remember that children naturally touch themselves and it is possible for her to have discovered this on her own. I applaud your concern more parents need to be aware of the signs of abuse and be willing to act on them.Take her to a doctor to see if your suspicions are correct. If they are call the police and if not keep a close eye on her in the future cause it sounds like an unhealthy enviroment all round.

Answer 3

The best way to tell is call Child Protective Services and let them know your concerns. Usually they will take a child to a doctor for a complete checkup and have a visit with a child psychologist. It shouldn't matter if your mom won't listen, shame on her for not listening it puts her child in danger. A mother's first job is to protect her kids. You don't want this little girl to have issues later in life. Call your local police department or crisis line for more information. Me personally I would call the cops to protect the child before things get worse and he rapes her or allows someone else to do the same. Sounds like he is a scumbag and anyone that would molest a child should be behind bars not in your home.

Answer 4

Anyone that would move a man like this into the house with a 5 yr old little girl doesn't deserve to have children. Obviously her child isn't her #1 priority. Child Protective Services may be able to help if you have evidence of the abuse. Good Luck.

Answer 5

Ok first and foremost get that baby out of that household, as a mother of three girls, 18, 5 and a one year old if there was even a thought of something like that going on I would pull that child into a safe place until her "mother" (using that term lightly) got her sh*t together and learns to put her baby first and keep her safe and happy like any 5 year old deserves to be. As for her Daddy: How could he even think about taking that child back to her mothers?? My honest opinion: Daddy needs to step up!

Answer 6

don't let this go. have you had the "good touch/bad touch" talk w/ur daughter? if so, do it again. I recently discovered my daughter has been phys,ment,emot,&sexual abused by her 1/2 siblings. we were going over good/bad touch when i noticed she wasn't responding so great. i asked her and her body language gave it away. my daugh. is 4. it's horrible to listen to them admit they have been victims to abuse, but remember to reassure her that you will not get mad, that you are there for her, and especially, that you will always love no matter what. if she seems to get uncomfortable, tell her you will cont. this talk later and try again. but also look for her behavior to see if its changed. my husband & i didn't notice any behavior changes till after she told us and this has been going on for over a year. we had no idea. we started immediate counseling, called cps and other authorities and we are just waiting to see what is going on since it's only been a couple of days. let them know that mom's new boyfriend has been in prison. have them do a background check. if mom has shady past, let them know. tell them your suspicions and exactly what your daughter said. and document everything!! dont' forget to get names of who you spoke with, time and dates. if you need more info. on questions to ask or how to go abouts asking, i'll be more than willing to share with you.

Answer 7

Take your daughter to the doctor, hurry up. And even if she was not sexually abused, she may have been sexually molested.

Get a child psychologist to talk to your child too, you will need her expert opinion too. After that talk to the police and get a restraining order.

If the police does not listen to you, let me know right away. You can bet they will listen to me.

Answer 8

First can you take your 5yr old to HER doctor?(it is important that she is taken to her doctor not only because the child already knows and trust that doctor.BUT also that doctor knows you too!So you might have away of getting cusody of your child(for her safety)if she was /gets abused in anyway by this creep!!!!!Be careful,and Good Luck!!!

Answer 9

Call Children's Services and ask them to talk to your daughter --in your presence. If you feel that you need to talk to your daughter about it, then, the next time she says anything about it, just say" Tell me about it" Don't ask direct questions -- she may give answers just to make you happy and not tell you the truth.

Be sure to tell Children's Services about this man's history. If Children's Services feels that your daughter is in any danger, they can keep her from going back to the home.

But be prepared for your ex and her boyfriend to make counter-claims. That is why it is better for Children's Services to ask her about it.

Answer 10

Take her to her doctor and have her examined. Have you tried talking to your daughter about it. Ask her why it tickles there and see what she says.