i just can't think of a excuse any more, i cant believe that this is harder than asking someone, it really just sucks to hurt her because she is a really nice person and she didnt do anything to me, infact she admires me and i have to find some way to blow her off...what a curel world...are there really no excuse that would not hurt her? what about something that at least make it seem like my fault...
ps. i really don't see us together so for those of you that wants me to give her a chance i just can't do it, im sorry for being shallow...
2007-01-13 21:53:40 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Obviously rejection hurts for somebody no matter what, but in my experience...from both sides of either doling out rejection or taking it....honesty really is the best policy. I think being up front instead of "giving it a try" and letting the other person get their hopes up helps. I mean it will still hurt, but it will hurt a lot less than the sting of feeling led on or being rejected after having a taste of what you wanted. Don't feel guilty, you'll be in her place eventually too.
2007-01-13 22:00:17 · answer #1 · answered by AracelyOCU 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel too bad sweety, at least you aren't 1 of those losers that would lead a girl on! You obviously can't help it if you aren't attracted to her. The fact that you are feeling bad shows that you wouldn't wanna lose her altogether. Im kinda like in the same situation as you and as i'm giving you this advise-all this would be SO hard for me to do cos this guy is really genuine but i don't see myself with him ina realtionship.
It may be difficult to do but all you can do is talk to her and explain that you would prefer a friendship rather than anything else. All the luck to you, me and all the other buggers in our situation!
2007-01-13 22:03:25 · answer #2 · answered by Sistr P* 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not shallow, it's honest. Well, maybe it could be shallow AND honest, it's not like you can't be both.
And yes, there is no way to avoid hurting her. But by breaking up in a decent way and sparing her both wasted time and energy on a dead-on-arrival relationship, you are saving her a lot of hurt down the road. Lesser of two evils, good luck :P
2007-01-13 21:58:33 · answer #3 · answered by John C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless that person has no heart and no feelings then no....it will hurt no matter what, but thats life. They will get over it soon enough. it will hurt more in the end if you draw it out.
2007-01-13 21:59:35 · answer #4 · answered by Dusty B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's sad but this is the love.She will be hurt no matter what you'll say to her because she likes you!But you can try to be friends and prove to her that she is a nice person! Good luck!
2007-01-13 22:03:27 · answer #5 · answered by ♥beautyfly♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Evaluate WHY you don't want to be in a relationship with her, and talk to her. Communication is key in ANY relationship. Do you want to maintain a friendship with her? If you separate, will their be a tension or a future desire to rekindle? These things should be talked about...
2007-01-13 22:02:34 · answer #6 · answered by Invisible_Flags 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell her you are a jackass and you don't deserve her love because only pigs can love you what a shame she got with you in the first place SORRY THAT IS HOW I FEEL AND DON'T TAKE THIS PERSONAL BUT IT SUCKS TO READ STUFF LIKE THIS. POOR GIRL CANT YOU AT LEAST THINK OF A REASON THAT WILL BE FAIR TO HER AND DON'T THINK ABOUT YOUR SELF FOR ONE SECOND PLEASE OK NOW YOU CAN REPORT ME FOR BEEN PERSONAL OK
2007-01-13 22:02:25 · answer #7 · answered by tazdevil007au 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would like to answer, but I have my own issues. Your question is fine, but I just.....it's not you, its me. Good luck with your answer. Someone else will help you I am sure. I had a great time, but I have to go now.
2007-01-13 21:58:51 · answer #8 · answered by JR 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
love stinks. it always hurts. quick is most painless. dragging it out, trying to stay friends, or seeing each other in social or work situations makes it much harder to get over.
2007-01-13 22:00:21 · answer #9 · answered by Truth be Told 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hey that is what dating is for to find that one for you. so if you cant see yourself with her then let her know because she is going to be hurt anyways. you might as well be up front with her.
2007-01-13 22:01:32 · answer #10 · answered by OB the Wolf 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋