please help my mum past away 5 yrs ago and my dad has started saying that he was seeing all different people /ghosts in his bedroom and now sleeps with the light on cause of fear but recently has said that he has seen my mum but she is hiding is this true does anyone else no of any experiences they have had my dad is 75 and is completly with it why is my mum hiding or is my dad seeing things these things hes seeing dont speak to him but he claims he speaks to them please help im very confused!genuine people only
2007-01-13 21:48:43 · 5 answers · asked by smirdy_smird 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sounds like your dad has a terrible time with the grief process---accepting what has happened to a mate. Get to a clergy and discuss the possibility of counciling. Do him a favor. Chances are also good that at 75 he may be slipping into Dimentia---you don't know it and you are only making it worse by ignoring it....get to a doctor and discuss it. He will only suffer more and more---for no reason. get going---now!!!
2007-01-13 21:57:19 · answer #1 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your father sees your mother because he wants to, she was something that he associated with love, safety, etc. Hey 75, the mind does start playing tricks on you, some even as early as their late 50(s). What is it that your father does to pass the time, does he like puzzles, word seek books, things like that. The thing is to keep the mind busy, don't let it wonder, which I know is hard, but when you are around stimulate him with conversations about the past, because right now that is where he wants to be, not here, in this future without his wife and the many family and friends that are no longer here. My Mom is no 84 and she has Alzheimer's, 2nd stage, I do a lot of crying but I find my strength in the fact that I still have her and that I can talk with her, even if it is about 1942, when the grass was greener and the sky was bluer, but I still get to talk with her. Have your father checked out by a physician to make sure he is physically okay, then deal with what some call "dementia", but my Mom calls it just getting old. I wish you and your father many good days ahead. God Bless.
2007-01-14 05:57:31 · answer #2 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very sweet but sad at the same time. He is really missing your Mom. I don't know, maybe it is possible that he has seen your Mom. To him it is very real anyway. I hate to say this, but your Dad is 75 and he may need to see the Dr just to be sure all is well with him. I believe in the spiritual world so I do think it's possible to experience these things. Just take him in to get checked out. I also say to listen to him and spend as much time with him as you can. He is very lonely. Good luck.
2007-01-14 06:55:24 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at 75 i guss he may miss your mom. he must be hurting a lot see if you can get him to the dr. as soon as you can
2007-01-14 05:55:21 · answer #4 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is very lonely.
2007-01-14 06:09:53 · answer #5 · answered by Mickey22_jp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋