I HAVE THREE KIDS OF MY OWN. THE GUY IM WITH IS NOT THE DAD BUT HE LOVES THEM JUST THE SAME. HE WORKS I STAY AT HOME AND DO THE RAISING OF 5 CHILDERN AND 3 ADLUTS. WE LIVE WITH MY MOTHER FOR NOW BECAUSE I DIDN'T WANT TO CHANGE SCHOOLS ON THEM IN THE MIDDLE OF THE SCHOOL YEAR. WELL TO MAKE A LONG STORY SHORT MY SISTER IN 20 SHE HAS 2 BOYS 1 IS 2 1 IS 6MONTHS HE HAS SCOLIOSIS. SHE HAS LOST HER WAY AND IS TRYING TO FIND IT AND IS LIVING IN HER CAR. SO WE TOOK ON THE BOYS SO SHE WOULD GET HER SELF TOGETHER. EVERY ONE SAYS THAT I SHOULD MAKER HER TAKE CARE OF THEM. BUT THEY DON'T SEE WHY IM DOING THIS. I'M THE OLDER SISTER MY GRANDMOTHER RAISED ME. OUR MOTHER HAS HAD HER ALL HER LIFE. BUT I HAVE BEEN TAKING OF MY YOUNGER SIBLINGS SINCE I WAS 6.
2007-01-13 21:36:44 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You are helping your sister, do what you are doing, which is coming from your heart, and give the rest your behind to kiss. You sister is very fortunate to have someone that would do this for her. True you might be making a crutch for her but then again you are not subjecting your nephews to the harshness of their mother's actions. And again in reading your writings, there have been issues in your family for a long time and you seem to want to right the wrongs you have seen and had done to you. You hold onto you and to your family, it is not going to be easy and no one said it would be, but just think, 20 years down the road when you and your family have gotten past this time and the many good years to come, there will be a period to look back and reflect, to see where it is that you all have come from and where it is that you will be. God will continue to Bless you and your family, stay strong and let opinions be just that opinions, you will be okay. :-)
2007-01-13 21:45:59 · answer #1 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think what your doing is the right thing your doing it for the kids and that is what this whole thing is all about, what is the best thing for the kids is to have some sort of normal life if the mother wants to live in a car well then thats her choice but it doesn't have to be the kids choicem your steping in to make sure the kids are safe and have a chance at a normal life, and from what i see the mother is not in her right frame of mind, hopefully one day she will wake up and realize that she will need to get her **** together and come back and want her kids, your doing a good job
good luck
2007-01-13 21:50:00 · answer #2 · answered by jane_queen_of_jungle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i commend you for what you are doing because giving children an equal chance is what everything about being a parent boils down to. i'm only 26 with 1 daughter and me and my wife both work. both my sisters are younger than i and both have children, but had the situation happen to me that you find yourself in, i would do the same. kids should not be neglected if there is someone to help so i think you're doing a great thing. my only problem is your sister only being 20 may learn to rely on you too much and if it goes on for years her children could begin to look at you as their parent and not her. this i think will cause tension between you and your sister because than your sister will think her children love you more than her and than may try to shut you out of their lives. well in any case i still commend you for what you're doing, but just remember to let your sister know that this isn't an open ended deal. at some point she must learn to care for herself and her children. good luck.
2007-01-13 21:45:21 · answer #3 · answered by stupid people make me laugh!!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who cares what other people think, you are doing the right thing. A car is no place for two little boys. If you feel that she should be helping, have her come over and care for the boys in your home, while you take some time to your self and she bonds with her children.
2007-01-13 21:43:06 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the people who object to it just feel that your sister should live upt to her responsibility as a parent, and are worred that she will take too long to find herself:thus, taking advantage of you. But if you don't mind the risk and are willing to do it, I say Bravo. The important thing is that the kids have a loving stable environmet. It seems like they will have that with you.
2007-01-13 21:45:03 · answer #5 · answered by waltinaw74 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you're doing for your sister and her kids is a beautiful thing, don't let other folks opinions on the situation hold you back. Continue to love yourself and your family. In the the end all things will be clear.
2007-01-13 21:47:43 · answer #6 · answered by Y.a.S.L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your father what he needs you to do or attempt to split the issues up. As to the kinfolk that wasn't there via thick and skinny act as if they don't exsist. make confident you also write your father or perhaps per chance placed what little money you are able to into his detention center account. enable him recognize how a lot you savour him. all of us make blunders and want human beings the most in our existence after we are down.
2016-11-23 17:25:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are totally right ima goin through that too being the eldest family comes first and family helps family no matter what you are totally right and theres nothing wrong with that
2007-01-13 21:41:44 · answer #8 · answered by Tash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you just keep up the good you are doing god bless you
2007-01-13 22:14:48 · answer #9 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋